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Old Jul 4th, 2018, 08:01 AM   2211
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Dylan has been measured and weighed today. It's the first time he's been measured.
Hes now 11lb 14oz and is continuing on the 98th percentile, he's 56cm long and 95th percentile for his length.
Hes a big boy but all in proportion.

Unfortunately today and halfway through last night he changed from wanting feeding every 2-4 hours to more like 1-1.5 hours so I'm feeling knackered today.
Recently he's been having a 3 hour nap in the day but not today.
Its my oh first day back at work so I'm alone with Dylan and day time tv which is pretty weird.

I'll get used to it but for the moment it's a bit lonely.



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2018, 21:21 PM   2212
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PG it can get so lonely!! Where is Alice during the day? This week Alistair is at day camp all day. I'm quite liking the alone time with Clara but I also miss Alistair. Of course when they are both home with me during the day it's quite rough going at times. I've never been a very good SAHM.....I do get lonely and bored......

Hope everyone is well!



 
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Old Jul 6th, 2018, 06:10 AM   2213
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Alice is at school in the day so it's just me and Dylan for most of the time. I miss her but then when she's home I'm finding it difficult looking after the both of them.
Then I feel guilty not giving either 100% of my time.

Its the summer holiday soon and I need to find things that I can do with both a newborn and 5 year old.

I don't know why but I feel like I've lost my confidence about going out with the baby. At first I wanted to go out and about but then my other half was worried about germs and stuff so I'm waiting till the little man is 4 weeks but by not just doing stuff I think I'm getting more nervous about leaving the house.
Hopefully it'll get easier soon, it's only been 3 weeks so far.



 
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Old Jul 6th, 2018, 13:29 PM   2214
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We definitely have a hard time finding things that are good for a 6 year old and a newborn! So far...the library and parks. Basically places Alistair can enjoy himself and I can sit let Clara take in the world.

I totally feel you on the dividing attention thing.

Aw, you gotta get out there. I go out every day. I would go crazy if not. My pediatrician said to avoid grocery stores as they are places people go even if they are sick. But that's been impossible! We've gone out daily to get diapers, formula, just general baby stuff and of course the food shop....

We are taking Clara on a plane at 7 weeks. Her doctors are suggesting getting her 2 month shots at 6 weeks next week.....I'm still nervous and undecided...?!?!?!



 
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Old Jul 8th, 2018, 00:03 AM   2215
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Hey sorry I have been quiet, but hey you all know what itís like with a newborn, let alone adding a 3 year old to that. I have struggled with feeling not enough for both of them. Itís hard when for three years I could give all I have had to one child. My parents are going back to Germany on Tuesday. Itís going to be hard. They have played with DS1 from the second he gets up til he goes to bed. And then itís going to be heart breaking when he doesnít grasp why they were here for three weeks and gone next day. Another big change in his little life. He still struggles with expressing hi emotions and throws what is in sight when he gets mad or bored for that matter.
Already midnight again. Barely getting 6.5 hours of sleep these days. Will need to go to bed earlier.
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Old Jul 8th, 2018, 07:44 AM   2216
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You post sounds exactly like what I was going to write mom.
I feel really like I'm struggling to give my eldest enough attention. My parents have been around but now they have gone on holiday for just over 3 weeks and I'm finding it hard.
I keep crying a lot and my oh isn't happy with me. He wants me to do whatever I can to be happy but I just don't feel it. I'm worried I'm suffering with pnd. I've tried to talk to him but it's making it worse as he's angry he can't do anything to help me. It's been a tough ride with breastfeeding and I've struggled with that. Now I still have thrush in my nipples which is hurting when I feed plus with my over supply I keep choking Dylan.
Luckiky he's sleeping pretty well and last night slept 4 1/2 hours.

I just wish I could do what he wants me to do and give myself a break so that I can enjoy all this time instead of stressing.



 
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Old Jul 8th, 2018, 07:56 AM   2217
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Iím sorry PG! Can you talk to your doctor to see if it is pnd? Everything is even harder when you feel sad. Luckily it was only the first week for me where I had the baby blues. That feeling of just wanting to hide, not being motivated to deal with anything and just unexplained sadness. I canít imagine how hard it must be to have it longer than a week or two. I still have moments where I think is this what I wanted (having two kids) and in the next thought I think about ttc again. So I think it just takes time. Our kids will get older we will have time for ourselves again some day. Hang in there. And just FYI been reading your baking blog and I am so going to make the Nutella cookies when I have a chance to buy Nutella. I love it!



 
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Old Jul 8th, 2018, 08:46 AM   2218
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Hey sorry I have been quiet, but hey you all know what itís like with a newborn, let alone adding a 3 year old to that. I have struggled with feeling not enough for both of them. Itís hard when for three years I could give all I have had to one child. My parents are going back to Germany on Tuesday. Itís going to be hard. They have played with DS1 from the second he gets up til he goes to bed. And then itís going to be heart breaking when he doesnít grasp why they were here for three weeks and gone next day. Another big change in his little life. He still struggles with expressing hi emotions and throws what is in sight when he gets mad or bored for that matter.
Already midnight again. Barely getting 6.5 hours of sleep these days. Will need to go to bed earlier.
Iíll try to stay in touch more
It is so hard. DD is also 3 and my MIL just left again. She doesnít get it and it breaks my heart when she says she misses them. I honestly donít think Iíd be able to handle it if we werenít moving back near our family next month. So big hugs. Itís so tough.



 
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Old Jul 8th, 2018, 16:22 PM   2219
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Hugs to all. It's so hard doing it on your own. We just had my dad for 5 nights and it made my life so nice.

Anyone else's DH always gone at work? Alex works 12 hours/gone 12 hours and it seriously is killing me.

Also it too hot to do anything outside and I'm REEEEALLY an outdoorsy person, aka hiking at 38 weeks pregnant, etc. lol. I hate all this inside stuff.

I'm also in a college class; I'm adding an endorsement to my teaching license. It's an online class but I have no motivation to do it. I'm at Starbucks right now getting my 'break' while DH is home with kids, to do my homework.....

PG when will you see your provider? I have my 6 week post partum appt tomorrow. I'm sure i have PND/PPD. I was already high risk, with GAD and panic. I didn't get it with DS but my life was way different 6 years ago. Mainly I'm super isolated now. No family, very few friends here in Colorado. DH used to work 8 hours, not 12. No 2nd child to feel guilty about. So I'm really struggling with loneliness and very emotinal and feeling down about myself as a mom and person. Also hating my body post C Section.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 13:19 PM   2220
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Can life just pause for a day so I can sleep! DS2 does not sleep in his bassinet for more than 10-15min. The starts grunting and eventually screaming. I would say he has reflux, except that he sleeps fine next to me in bed which scares me to death. And then DS1 seems to have trained himself to wake up at night and join the party. Last night until 4am I was either making a bottle of milk for DS1 or nursing DS2. Essentiallly I slept from 4-9.30am. Soo tired. And of course my parents left on Tuesday, so itís just me until DH gets off work after 5. Iím so thankful he doesnít travel anymore though. Couldnít imagine him gone 3 days a week 3 out of 4 weeks like last year.



 
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