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Old Feb 4th, 2013, 11:51 AM   4771
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Anna good for you on the weight loss! we took the kids for a 3 mile walk sunday at the local greenway; lovely day for it but I could sure feel it in every muscle last night lol! My Joints take forever to gt back to normal after pregnancy, and that is mostly where my pain comes from. We are hoping to do that walk at least once a week as a family, and hopefully I can work in several other walks during the week. We finally settled on a stroller and I LOVE it; definitely recommend it for anyone with two as a great go anywhere stroller. Baby jogger city select ($$, but we found one on Craigslist for a price we could live with). Reece is already in it - no need for car seat adapter, etc.

Anyway I am hanging in and feeling better, thank God for my mil! She stayed till Saturday and I took Friday and cooked a bunch of things for the freezer while she was here. She comes back in a month for Ethan's birthday. Can't believe he will be TWO!!

I'm thinking of doing a cars 2 theme for this party, as that's his favorite movie so far. He watches it over, and over, and over... I gotta get it in gear and plan his party bc I need to get invitations out. Feels like there is so much going on that it is a bit overwhelming, but I know I will eventually get into a groove with two. it feels so hectic sometimes (like this morning, as I went ahead and did the kids' baths before naps so evening won't be so crazy). But I know it will get better.

Beth and Steph, hoping you aree both feeling as well as possible! It sounds like you are only a day apart - woohoo! I'm so excited for both of you! I know the ms makes each day drag,.. I remember last April as the longest month of my life but it WILL get better soon!

Bek, Ethan does big tantrums too! lately, we are REALLY seeing the screaming me-me's and it is very tiresome. I know it comes with the territory. But jeez! He screams at EVERYTHING and it gets so old. Especially when it wakes the baby. Sigh. I will be praying for your ttc path!

Viv, so happy you are back and posting. Wedding planning is so much fun but I know it can be stressful too. Please share things with us as you gt the chance! Would love to see the preparations take shape!

Okay girls gotta fold laundry, the buzzer is going off. Hugs and love!



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2013, 11:53 AM   4772
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Oh ps Reece went for his two month check last Thursday. Doing great and 14+5 already! My little Chunk a lunk! got his first shots, which I was glad for as now can stop stressing so much about pertussis exposure here. Bad enough we have to worry so over flu!

We also moved him into his nursery this weekend. That transition always makes me , but he was outgrowing the pack n play bassinet weight limit!

Will upload some new pics soon!




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Old Feb 4th, 2013, 13:24 PM   4773
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Morning Ladies,

Well the stinking 49ers lost BOOO!!!! I am so bummed.

Anna - Glad your superbowl party was a success and that Jo went to sleep without any issue. Also Congrats on more weight loss! That is fantastic!

Angela - Yay on Reece's 1st shots. I know that that is a huge sigh of relief. Wow he is moved into his own room already...I know that is tough. So do you have a monitor for both rooms or do you have the same monitor and just an additional piece for his room? Yay on finally getting a new stroller! Our babies are getting big. Almost 2. Time FLIES!!!!!
I think that Charlie and Gabby turn 1 this week. Happy 1st Birthday babies!!!!!

AFM: We always have a big shin dig at our church for Super Bowl Sunday and my husband grills. Glad it is over as I haven't seen him for the past week. Thursday, he went to the church when I got home and seasoned all the meat, Saturday he went to work and then back to the church to start smoking the ribs and pork butt and to make hamburger patties. Sunday he cooked all morning at the church and wasn't done until about 2pm. Katelyn and I were at the church and both us took a nap in the nursery from 1-3pm. It was lovely. However my MS is awful! I truly don't remember it being this bad the last time around. Or maybe I just blocked it out. But I really don't want to do anything because I just feel so sick all the time. But I have to because Katelyn comes over and says "play Mommy! Up Up" and physically pulls me off the couch and then cheers when I get up to go into her playroom with her. How can I not play when she gets to happy about it? However, I do feel like such a sloth. Angela - How did you manage to cook, clean, and care for Ethan during your 1st trimester. I seriously don't want to do ANYTHING other than lay on the couch or in bed? And Beth, you are amazing cooking like you do. If this nausea would go away, I may have more energy and want to do stuff .

Well I complained enough, I need to get back to work. I will check back later.

Rebekah - HUGS!!!! How was your weekend? Want to hear all about it! Miss you!

Viv - How is the wedding planning coming?

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Old Feb 4th, 2013, 23:06 PM   4774
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Hi ladies!

Guess who woke up with a cold?!

At least it happened AFTER all the fun! My parents took Amelia and we went to the spa. LOVED it! We both got massages and then I got an acupuncture treatment. After that, we went downstairs and got in the hot tub with the waterfall that looked like a pool. Got in the sauna and then the AWESOME power steam shower. ((( que Hallelujah chorus))) I wish there was a (((praise))) button.

From there we went to a couple garden stores to prep for our spring garden and then to a nice Indian restaurant where I had THE BEST meal I've had in AGES!

Stopped by Barnes and Nobles so we could sit with some tea/coffee in hand and read books. I bought Amelia some learning videos for Valentines Day then we left for my parents but stopped at walmart before we got there.

Next day Doug took us shopping and we stopped by a nice mexican restaurant that makes they're own fresh guac. Another lovely dish and even Amelia had rice, beans and guac to eat. Went home to watch the Super Bowl which I wasn't really impressed with (anyone else like it?) then went to bed.



Now the vent...I lost 20 minutes of my massage session. We almost lost the whole session because my mom left the house and dad said she demanded we stay because she wanted to see us. This of course even when we told them we had an appointment and couldn't be late. I let it go and just decided to move past my frustration. Afterall, they DID take us in even though they gave us a hard time and though I got a 30 minute instead of a 50 minute...at least I got something and went into the acupuncture appointment.


Well, today ended up REALLY testing me. My parents 40th Anniversary is coming in April and so I thought a nice gesture would be to plan a gathering of some sort to celebrate their 40 years together. So December I approached my dads sister (my favorite aunt who is like my sister) and she was going to help. Doug and I had already put a sizeable down payment at a restaurant well known for food, and it's in a Dickens Town right across from the lake. The only thing was that my mom hasn't talked with her siblings in awhile and it's not "really" a fight. They just distanced themselves because my mothers mom (okay I'll call her my grandma) has been evil and quite hurtful over the years. They all just got sick of it. My mom sometimes PUSHES her on everyone (including me) even when she's been rotten. Mom isn't talking with her mother now because she finally pulled something nasty with her. SOOOOooo needless to say the people going were my dads side (siblings only). I spoke with my cousin (my best friend) who is my moms sisters daughter (are you all falling me??lol) who said they were on talking terms now.

It ended with me being confused so my husband told me to call my parents and spill the beans about the party so if my felt comfortable and WANTED her siblings there, she could and would feel happy about it. If they didn't show at least they would be invited.

Called my parents and next thing you know, mom asked to call back and she does...only with my father saying 'don't waste your money". I told her it's been in the works for a while now and we already put the deposit down. Then all I hear is my mother telling me "we aren't THOSE kind of people" we don't need lavish parties like your aunt and uncle (my dads brother and his wife). Then my dad said "I hate this sh&*!

WOW! Um, first of all we go out for Christmas brunch and Thanksgiving, as well as Easter with my fathers side...how is THIS any different?? Second, I thought of this idea to celebrate their 40 years together. It was SUPPOSED to be a kind gesture to acknowledge their anniversary with people who LOVE them. What finally did it was as my dad said "I hate this Sh&*!" my mom said, "let her do what SHE wants to do".

Again, this wasn't about ME. I wanted to celebrate their 40 years together. Doug and I couldn't ever afford to put on lavish celebrations every year like my cousins for their parents. I wasn't trying to keep up with them. My thought is that life was short and who knows if they'd make it to 50th milestone. I wanted to celebrate THIS milestone with them. Mom said, "your father and I think you should wait until our 80th and THEN celebrate it! (gathering they'd be dead).


I just hung up. What's there to say I'm not sure what I can ever do right. The drama in my family is also wearing. Things have to "look" a certain way to one side and the other side is considered embarassing with exception to the ones who put up boundaries in order to not deal with their mother's evil ways.


This tied with a comment my mom made when she called me "mommy dearest" After I mentioned I had to put some of Amelia's toys upstairs and switch them because she has too many at once.

Honestly I don't know what to do and I'm ALWAYS second guessing myself. Wondering if I'm too selfish. I know many of you have said I'm hard on myself.....part of this is because of how I grew up. I know I'm neurotic.

Needless to say, Doug is going to see if we can get our deposit back and I'll send them flowers. What I gather we'll hear closer to April is "I thought YOU were taking us to dinner"?? making it MY fault because they don't want the family there, they'd rather just my parents, Amelia and I which I probably should have done in the first place, but I let my heart lead the way. Again I made a mistake.

Okay, done venting.

Aside from that mishap....even with a cold I seem to be happy. I'm going to take some medicine before bed.



Angela, Glad your feeling better. I bet those walks were NICE!

Anna, sounds like a fun party. What did you make??

Steph, the nap with Katelyn sounded precious! I want to go to YOUR church! Sounds like fun! So I wonder if the morning sickness means anything like gender. If this could be a boy since you didn't have it with Katelyn? Sorry your dealing with such a bad case but I'm still celebrating the good hormone surge!

Love to you all. I'm going to rest with my hubs. I have to say he's been very sweet. Even tonight he listened to me when I told him about the conversation. I just love that man of mine!



 
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Old Feb 5th, 2013, 10:53 AM   4775
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Morning ladies,

Angela, glad your MIL was able to stay for so long and that you got some food made ahead! That helps me so much. The walk sounds lovely and I hear ya about the joints. That's where the majority of my pain during pregnancy came from and it took me a while to get back. Good for you for doing it. And so glad you got a stroller!! That's a must for where you live. Glad the pertussis shot is out of the way, that is so scary this year. Hugs and glad all is well if not a little crazy. You will find your rhythm, even if its chaos. As for birthday party, love the cars theme!

Steph, so sorry about the MS, I echo MA's question about gender. Maybe a boy this time around with the MS being so bad. Did you find out the gender last time? Your Katie bug is so cute! Just love the visual of her clapping her hands and cheering when you get up to play with her. Too cute!!

MA, I'm so sorry your weekend was so stressful. Glad the massage was good but so sorry it got cut short. I have no words for the family situation other than it seems there is no pleasing these people. I know you want to do the nice and generous thing, but it seems you meet with rudeness and just plain pain in the ass resistance every time. I don't think it's selfish to give up and just do what pleases you and to heck with everyone else. I say this in regards to your own family. In regards to them, by now I would have given up and told them to go to hell, but you have more patience with them and I know they're family. So hard, no easy answers. There is a saying that you can't control other people, only the way you react to them. You need to find a place of peace with them, but again that's a hard thing to do. Sorry girl, lots and lots of hugs!!!

AFM, well MA, ,you and I have something in common. I now have Jo's cold full blown. Doesn't help she was up ALL NIGHT!!! DH finally ended up sleeping on the couch with her for a few hours during the night. She was screaming! I don't know if its teeth or possibly an ear infection brought on by the cold. I woke up at 2:30, gave her some honey for the cough, but was then wide awake. So I read my book for an hour and just about the time I was going to fall asleep, DH brought her back to her crib and tried to put her down. She woke again screaming, so I got up and rocked her, but to no avail. So I gave her some Tylenol and she finally went back to bed around 5am. So we all slept until 7:30, which is great except that I unshually leave for work by 8:00. Jo woke in good spirits, so she's at daycare today, but man oh man am I wrecked. I know DH means well but instead of dealing with her he just goes to sleep with her. Which is great but then she wants to be held or rocked all night. Once I gave her Tylenol and got her to sleep I put her in her crib. She woke up briefly but I let her cry it out for all of two minuets and she went back to sleep on her own and we all got some sleep. Anyway forgot my cold medicine at home and am suffering, but it is what it is. Other than that nothing to tell . . . .

Vivienne, yes please do share wedding details. Dress pictures, flower arrangements, etc. so fun and exciting!! Hope you are well.

Happy Tuesday!
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Old Feb 5th, 2013, 12:49 PM   4776
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Happy Tuesday girls!

Both boys napping and I finally got a shower, so I have a couple minutes (my first priority is always a shower lol!) to update and catch up.

Anna and Bek, so sorry about the colds! I definitely know that misery. Was awful last week. hope you feel better soon! it is so hard when the littles are sick, too. I'll be taking the kids to the church tomororw for my group meeting (which I'm SO looking forward to) but that always makes me scared we'll pick up another round of crud. My biggest fear is flu, for Reece's sake. We've all had shots but of course he can't yet.

Steph, the ms is SO hard. I truly just had to focus on survival mode. One foot in front of the other kind of thing, for several weeks. But the worst of it only lasted about 6 weeks (for me it was from about 6 weeks to 12 weeks). I ended up taking more of the Zofran, and sooner, this pregnancy than with Ethan. I needed the boost of nausea- free time in order to manage and to sleep. Would you consider taking it? It worked great for me. I always tell people that then feel like a drug pusher LOL! As bek said, its a good sign, though I know it doesnt feel good.

Beth, hope you are feeling well and I can't wait to hear all about the birthday party?!

Viv, so jealous of your warm weather, though I love the cold here. It's just the dreariness that gets to me about February here. Do share the wedding details when you get a chance!

Rebekah sweetie, your family wears ME out, and I'm not even THERE! You truly have such a forgiving and patient heart with them... I'm with Anna I am afraid I'd have told them off - you were just trying to do something nice! I just hate that your family are all so hard on you. Good grief. You would think they would be thankful for a party!?

AFM, we are well and I'm just praying we STAY that way for a while (though I know it will take a miracle, because I'm planning to start getting us out and about a bit more... can't take any more sitting in this house! I'm going stir crazy!) It will be hilarious to see how I manage at the church tomorrow. Both kids, and one will have to stay with me in our classroom (though there will be lots of loving arms to help hold him). I just hope he isn't too disruptive to the class. We'll see... I may have to enlist a neighbor to watch him on my class mornings. Ethan loves his daycare there and I know he will enjoy getting out.

So, I've found some invitations for the bday party. Now, to get them ordered and other details like cupcakes, etc. going. I can't BELIEVE my little guy will be TWO! Doesn't seem possible. And not far behind, I'll be turning 38. That, too doesn't seem possible!

Reece's nursery is coming along. He's been sleeping like a champ in there the last three nights, except he wakes up about 11:30 and hubby goes in to do a pacifier run or soothing as necessary. I think it's the new environment and a holdover from when we used to do his last bottle later, like at 11:30. Hopefully, he settles into the new routine soon.

Don't know how much longer we will be breastfeeding. I love doing it, but my supply seems to have taken a big hit during the day and I'm guessing that is from the mastitis, because nothing else has really changed. any tips from anyone? I really want to ocntinue, but to be honest I'm not wlling to do it overnight and that may be impacting our supply side, as well... He is now going about 1 hour longer overnight (maybe 1.5) and sleeping more like a 9 hour stretch (I pump just before I go to bed, but that means pumping about 11 and then not nursing again till between 7-7:30...) I'm not sure if that is part of the problem (and it probably is). I'm just unwilling to sacrifice sleep because the daytime routine is so demanding that I can't handle it with any less sleep than I'm already getting - I seem to be waking about 4:30 now with sore boobs and know i need to nurse or pump, but don't want to go backwards again on sleep. I'm trying to make decisions that are in the best interest of our entire family (i.e. not a completely exhausted mommy for Ethan and wife for hubby, plus my body needs sleep to make breastmilk...). So, we will see. It would be great to get back to where we could nurse exclusively during the day. I don't know how much of the issue is my supply or whether he is just eating more now.

Okay baby crying, must run! Hugs!



 
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Hi ladies,

Oh Anna, we ARE going through similar things with the littles. Amelia took a 20 minute nap for the whole day and she's been CLINGING to Doug. Luckily he's taken the day off today and may end up taking another one tomorrow. I am SO sick! Oddly I have made it since Amelia was born without illness. My guess is I got it from the spa. Maybe the hot tub, but I'm wondering if the steam room did it. Just all those germs and not everyone is as clean. EWww

I did a neti wash. It helped release a lot of nasal pressure which I'll have to do again tonight. The meds are okay but the only one that helps me to get to sleep is Alka Seltzer Cold and Flu.

Steph, Have you gotten any ginger root?? Living in California you probably have some natural juicing places too. My suggestion is to juice some ginger. It's supposed to help with tummy's. Try maybe juicing an apple, carrot and ginger. It tastes SO Good and the more ginger you can handle the better (I like my ginger and my juices bite back. lol)


Angela, I'm right there with you on the breastfeeding. You have to do whats right for your family. You've tried it, you've gotten a little bit and that to me is good. I'm taking your example and running with it when we have our next one. I'm not going to focus on everything so much. I want to enjoy the baby more. I was watching some videos of Amelia as a baby and I wish I had let myself enjoy the experience more. So much focus from Dr.'s on weight, food, etc. It was a lot of pressure. Now that I have experience I am going to be less stressed about it all.

Thanks so much for all you both said. An update is we most likely won't get our sizeable down payment back. Doug called and in order for us to get it, someone else has to book the room. Seeing as though it's booked in April we have time but it's not like we are rich. That money could have gone toward other important things. Live and learn. I'll NEVER do this again for them. Never will I try to do something nice. In fact, I think I'm taking a break for a few weeks from them.

I do think I'm going to need to figure out boundaries here. I don't even know how to do it but maybe it will mean starting therapy. I've been talking about it for awhile. The past few weeks I've been seeing more and more need to go. Not just to help my marriage but just to figure out ways to "let go" and create boundaries I've never done before. Doug has been so supportive through Everything. I honestly can't complain. He's forgiving, patient, kind EVEN when I'm sick and short with him and he's actually tried helping my dad and I understand each other. I love my parents, they show their love through money and buying things for us....they have done that all my life. I had a water bed, all the barbies and dream houses I needed and a phone in my room. Hugs and I love you's were non-existant though. They just don't show emotion. There is only so long I can focus on THEM as the problem though. As Anna mentioned, I can't change them, I can only change the way I react.

Well, I'm going to end here. Doug made soup bless his heart! Vegan, but I'll take it. He was nice enough to buy some parmesan to add to the soup. lol

Love and hugs to you all. Get well ladies.....STAY well Angela!



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 10:20 AM   4778
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Morning all!

Angela, there is breast milk tea that can help with milk production. Can't remember the name, I will google it, but I drank a lot and it did help. I'm with you on the sleep. It seems like our bodies should produce more during the day so to give us more sleep. I remember waking up with aching boobs. Other than pumping at night I'm not sure what to say, and that defeats the sleep thing. Can't believe Ethan is two!! Yeh for invitations, boo for colds and flu. It's so hard. Daycare is awesome in that it helps socialize and let's them play, but the germs are enough to make me run in the opposite direction. Glad you have class and are getting out a bit.

MA, I think therapy idea!! I wish I could recommend my therapist. While I am seeing her for marriage counseling, we definitely touch on parent relationships as there is a lot of influence there on how you manage all other relationships. She's been great in helping me establish boundaries. She describes it like a horizonal shade that you can adjust for light. Sometimes we have to completely close the blinds and sometimes we can open them all the way, but most of the time, especially with difficult relationships, we let in just enough, but keep them close enough to manage our own lives and protect ourselves. I liked the analogy. Anyway, lots of hugs and sorry about the deposit. I know you guys don't have a lot of extra funds and that makes it all the more frustrating.

I also keep meaning to mention this and keep forgetting. While you can access weightwatchers on line for free, the amount if information is really limited. To really do the program and track points you have to join. Just FYI.

AFM, speaking of ...how many points do you think half a box of Whitmans chocolates is worth? My resolve melted last night and I totally self indulged. Half a box may be an exaggeration, but not by much. I haven't started my running/walking regime yet due to cold, but I'm on the mend and headed to yoga tonight after work. DH has the girl all day today as my parents went to Mexico for two weeks. It should be interesting. He's taking her to the job site to unload some equipment, to a vacant lot to gather some wood, etc. I wonder how well that will go??!! Anyway I find it comical but they will have a good day and she LOVES her daddy. Other than that not much going on. Very warm here lately, feels like spring, eight more weeks until vacation!! Not that I'm counting or anything.

Love to everyone else, Steph, I see that you are lurking. Hope all is well. Take care of yourself! You too Beth.

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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 10:26 AM   4779
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Angela, tea is called " Mother's Milk". Appropriate. I'm sure your local grocery store will have something comparable. If not a local natural food store should have something.



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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 11:59 AM   4780
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Hi All,

yes, I am here and lurking. I want to respond to all updates, just havent had time or energy. I will try to respond later. Had a rough morning where I was violently ill and of course my little shadow was in the bathroom with me and started to cry as I am hunched over the toilet. Luckily, my hubby came and got her. I am going to go to BRU today and see if the pregnancy pops work any.

Angela - I used Fenugreek to increase my milk production. I pumped at 12am and then went to bed and didn't pump again until 6am. I would take 12 pills a day. I would break it up and do 4 3x a day or 6 2x a day. It helped tremendously. I didn't really like the tea, but then again, I am not much of a tea drinker.

Rebekah and Anna I will respond to both of you later today.

HUGS,
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