I had to give my bumpy a talking to before...he's REALLY strong and actually HURTING me when he moves I keep getting the same movements.....feels like bum/head about 2 inches above my belly button...really pushing hard out....and then what feel like feet/hands down in my left groin area

thanks hun, sounds silly but im glad you understand... even if its cuz you may be in the same boat! i have a brother in town, but he is single and BUSY. we tried to ask him with my 4th pregnancy and it didnt work out with his schedule, so not reliable. my sis is in town but she has 2 kids and her DH has 4 so 6 between the two of them. not too comfortable with asking her to add 5 more to her mix. we have doula and midwife services but our insurance doesnt cover them and we cant afford them. my mom has adopted my step sisters kid, she has just turned 4. my mom brought her to my last labor and tried to stay the whole time. i told her it was a bad idea as kids cant be expected to stay seated and quiet for hours on end imo. of course she got very bored and i felt horrible for her. so my mom kept telling her to sit back down and be quiet. it made for a stressful time. we have some friends, but they are either flakey like you said or our kids just dont really know them. our 2 youngest would throw a fit for sure if we tried to leave them with someone they dont know, not to mention stress us out even more. there really is no other way and i accepted that, but its really hitting me now.

sorry ladies, im just grumbling today. i dont really have close friends that i could ask to stay with me. i have an aunt who could come, her kids are grown, but she drives me crazy. my only really close friend has 3 small kids and i wouldnt dream of asking her to find a sitter for her kids to come sit with me. she has an 18 month old, a 3 yr old, and a 2 yr old she adopted. love her to death and she would probably agree to come sit with me, but not gonna happen. i know how stressful it is to find a sitter so im not gonna do that to her and her kids.

just feeling sorry for myself. im sure everything will be ok. i still sit and wonder about the what ifs. since i have low amniotic fluid many things could happen including a higher chance of needing an emergency section for several reasons. i wouldnt want to do that alone

Me, too! It's like she's doing karate or something.

It's not what I would call painful, but it's unsettling. And it was definitely unpleasant to wake up to in the middle of the night!

Pray about it and maybe some wonderful solution will pop up out of nowhere!

blessed... i just know you will figure something out, and that you wont be alone. I know it

Blessed I can't imagine how strong you would need to be to go through it by yourself I know that you are doing it for the right reasons, but even so it must be a hard decision to make. You need to think very positivly about things going right, and in a worst case senario, and you need to have a c section, then I'm sure your dh will be able to pull something out of the bag and be there. You poor thing. Very brave. xxx

Blessed, I'm sure everything will work out ok for you, there is a plan for all of us And as you know we are never totally alone! City is right, pray for a solution
Anyway, in my reading up about labour, women in many cultures still go off alone to labour and birth their babies. They are supported for the first birth, but after that they do it privately! We may have modern advanced medicine to help us, but we are still strong and we can all of us do this, whatever the situation!

OK. seriously. this ''fake baby'' thing is weird. have u seen them? so lifelike! this women used to look after her daughters baby whilst her daughter was battling cancer... her daughter got better and moved to australia with her son.... so her mum got a ''reborn baby'' made in his exact replica? I cant get my head around it. I mean, i get it must be hard to let go.... but surely it freaks her daughter out.... just a little?? GAHHHH.

I think they are fine if you collect/make them, and treat them like dolls. Its when they treat them like babies that i think its wrong. Those women clearly have issues that need resolving!