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Old Aug 2nd, 2012, 17:31 PM   1
Livsmom
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Feel like nobody is interested in pregnancy cause I am older


I just turned 40 and it seems all the people in my life are also older...not that 40 is old but you know what I mean. My friends, family, etc. have all been there and done that and just don't seem interested in my pregnancy at all. I found out it is a girl on Saturday and everyone pretty much said "oh". Not interested at all. I think when you are young and surrounded by young people they seem more excited because it is something they can relate to. I do have one friend that is 37 I think, and she is due in November so we talk about pregnancy. But hers was a major accident and she is not excited about it. She also is totally unhelpful as her pregnancy has been totally uneventful and I have had 2 miscarriages and severe morning sickness. She doesn't understand why I might try to avoid heavy lifting or anything else that may be harmful. So even talking to her I feel like I am being over cautious about things even though I know this is my last chance at another baby. Anyone else feel pretty alone in their pregnancy? Even my husband, who wanted another baby, does not care to talk about it. I wanna gush over baby clothes and ooh and aah over baby names but nobody to do it with. Rather depressing.



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2012, 19:06 PM   2
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hi,

And that must be aweful as like any lady thats pregnant regardless of age wants to look at baby clothes and prams isnt that what being pregnant is all about im trying for my last one now myself im 36 and id hate no one caring or listening but tbh they wouldnt have a choice haha doesnt your older children talk to you about the baby? i know my eldest daughter who is 17 is always asking me things and is getting very exicted about mum having another baby. it just needs to happen now lol and as for your OH well thats most men for you until the day its born and they dont know which way to run haha xx



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2012, 21:00 PM   3
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I'm sorry you're feeling alone in your pregnancy, but I think you are probably right in thinking that by this time, when you already have three kids and most of your friends and family have their own busy families and lives too, it's just not that big a deal to them as it is to you.

I'm 36 and pregnant with my first and since a few of my other friends are pregnant with their first and this is the first baby in the family for a while everyone has been pretty excited. But as my partner and I plan to try to conceive our second in pretty quick succession, I'm figuring the main response we'll get for the second pregnancy will be: "Another? So soon? Well, congratulations... and good luck with that."

I guess we just don't get to be the centre of attention every time! Could you go to an antenatal class or something just to make some other pregnant friends?



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Old Aug 2nd, 2012, 23:00 PM   4
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hi,

And that must be aweful as like any lady thats pregnant regardless of age wants to look at baby clothes and prams isnt that what being pregnant is all about im trying for my last one now myself im 36 and id hate no one caring or listening but tbh they wouldnt have a choice haha doesnt your older children talk to you about the baby? i know my eldest daughter who is 17 is always asking me things and is getting very exicted about mum having another baby. it just needs to happen now lol and as for your OH well thats most men for you until the day its born and they dont know which way to run haha xx
My 15 year old is really good with my 21 month old. She just now started liking her though. I am remarried and tbh I think she is jealous. She does not like to talk about the pregnancy or look at baby stuff. My 19 year old lives on her own and works nights so I don't get to see her too often. She does ask on occasion but is not too interested. My mom is interested but busy. I will survive. I guess I just know that this is my last baby and I would like to share my excitement with someone.



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 03:21 AM   5
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I was 43/44 when I had my first successful pregnancy and everybody was overjoyed - LOL! I am sorry that others in your family aren't as excited as you would like -- but perhaps getting involved in antenatal classes and/or connecting with others (e.g. on BnB?!) might give you the reassurance that you need (and deserve?). I notice that you have a LO who is 21 months -- what about the other mums to other toddlers? I'm sure that one or two of them might be pregnant as well, and it might be good to mix more with them?

Either way, congrats on your pregnancy!

best wishes



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 07:26 AM   6
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That's really a shame, I'm sorry I'm 39 and having my second (my first is about to turn 2). I think my friends are more excited than I am! They are mostly my age or a bit older (45 or so) and resolutely child-free. It's a shame that your friends couldn't put on a bit more of an act for you. We don't always have to be interested in our friends' passions or even hobbies, but it's polite to at least show an interest in the things that our loved ones care about!



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Old Aug 4th, 2012, 19:40 PM   7
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im 39 and having my first (well first two... twins.. oops). anyway most of my friends dont have kids. some want them but sorta figure they wont ever have them (apparently they dont have the balls to just do it by themselves like i am... but maybe me doing it will encourage them). people seem pretty excited for me. but... i know i am more excited for my friend who is having her first than i am for my friend having her 3rd.



 
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