I hope you don't mind me posting, I was the woman with older children and pregnant, I now have a 2 year old to prove it! But thought I'd share a little of my story.
I too found myself pregnant 2 months before my 39th birthday with an accident! At that time my boys were almost 21, 12 and 9, they were surprised but pleased. Sadly I miscarried at 8 weeks. We tried again and got pregant almost straight away, sadly I lost our little boy 18 weeks into the pregnancy.
We decided to try one last time, thankfully we got our beautiful little girl. I turned 40 whilst pregnant with her and DH turned 48 just before she was born. I'm now almost 43 and DH is 50, My eldest son is now 25 and DH and my sons are now 15 and 13. I think all the boys were surprised initially but soon became excited, sadly the loss of our babies was awful for them too. Now things are truly fantastic for all of us, our boys absolutely worship their little sister, they will do anything for her, they will even stop playing on their Xbox/PlayStation if she asks them to play with her lol. Not only has she brightened up the lives in our immediate family but she's also brightened up the lives of all our family and friends. My ILs adore her, she's given them both a new lease of life (too old to really babysit now, but they love visiting and spending time with her), most of our friends have older children so they love spending time with a little person again.
Hi ladies. My kids were 10, 18 & 19 when my 19 mo was born. My partner had kids who were 19, 18, 14 and 12.
My partner's 3 youngest kids have refused to have anything to do with any of us since the day lo was born. His eldest has seen her twice but basically ignored her.
My oldest two boys adore her (and their 5mo sister), although my 18yo moved out the week after she was born. And my original 'baby' who was 10 at the time adores the 19mo, is a little less sure of the 5mo (the toddler NEVER cried as a baby, and the 5mo does occassionally cry). She definitely feels the change though. She feels very pushed aside, despite the fact that I'm home full time now and she actually spends more time with me.
We aren't going to tell any of the kids we're having another baby this time. They'll figure it out in their own time and we're having enough family dramas without adding to it atm.
I am 38 and have DD 14 (almost), DD 9, and DS 3. MMC in June at 10 weeks and now ttc again. Our oldest does not want another one...but for the same reason...we are too old to have a baby and its gross. But also because she is afraid of at our age something being wrong. She is a typical teenage girl. All hormones. The younger 2 both want a baby. Most of our family thinks we are crazy esp after the mmc. But I do not feel our family is complete.
Hi, I got my BFP this weekend! I am 36 and have 4 kids aged 16 to 8. Their Dad had a baby 2 years ago and is expecting another with his partner so they are used to it I think. Im more worried about my 10yr old. My 3 eldest (16,14,10) live with their Dad and I care full time for my special needs son. His needs are quite profound and sadly we decided a year ago that it would be best if they lived with their dad. I see them often but its not ideal. I met my boyfriend 7 months ago and were mad about each other. He's 45 and its his first child so thats exciting! Anyway, hope to get to know you all better xxx
I have a 22 year old, 9 year old, and I am pregnant now. All october birthdays so my 22 year old will be 23 and my 9 year old 10 by the time baby is born. All girls!! 23 and 9 year old are really close, but 9 year old does complain that 22 year old goes out with her friends and doesnt invite her (obviously this is common). I am thinking my 9 year old will be on the other side of that equation in a few years when baby is 9 and my 9 year old is now 19 or 20! lol
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