Do You Think Feeling Old Is A State Of Mind?

mrsj13 · Aug 26th, 2016, 01:24 AM

Well this is not entirely pregnancy related, but to some extent it is. When I peeped into this group (pregnancy over 35), I was expecting to have discussions like if there were any age related pregnancy complications, etc.

The last thing I expected to see was the "feeling old" threads. It just got me thinking...what makes you feel old?

Is this a society thing or merely a state of mind? I'll tell you about myself...I was 35 when I conceived and will be 36 when I deliver and never have I felt old. In fact, I conceived right after getting married (totally unplanned) and my mom in law's first reaction was "why didn't you enjoy life for a few years before getting pregnant?"

Most of my friends have conceived over 30, barring a few who got married very young. Of my entire school batch, there is only one friend who has a teenager and rest have kids from ages 2-8.

I have felt older in my mid 20s than I feel now. Which brings me back to the question, do you feel old, or do people around make you feel older?

Wish all of you happy and healthy pregnancies

Ellivort · Aug 26th, 2016, 08:54 AM

I never physically felt old until I got some strange reactions to me being pregnant!

Left wonderin · Aug 28th, 2016, 05:51 AM

I'm 43 .. 2 under 3 and don't feel a day over 30

Lucasmum · Aug 28th, 2016, 07:37 AM

Its a tough one I have a physically demanding job and work 40+ hours a week so yes I do feel old and tired especially as I sometimes work 14 days before a day off but a good sleep and a shower and I'm back to myself which I feel is quite young acting and thinking, I dont look any where near my age (40) and people never believe me when I tell them but if you look close enough the signs are there

I did feel older when I became pregnant this time mainly for me because I didnt know of anyone who had become pregnant at 40, but the first appointment at the hospital I went I felt incredibly young again there were a lot of ladies 40+ I have also since come across a lot of ladies in my line of work (I work with the elderly) who have told me either they or sisters or mothers were still having children at my age and older and they were all surprised when I told them I was classed as an old mum this makes me feel better

Nikko88 · Aug 29th, 2016, 08:17 AM

I start feeling old when all the new mom friends I have are 10 years younger than me. Also when my health care professionals are younger than me.

I'm definitely feeling physically drained by this pregnancy with a toddler in tow. Some of that is just it takes longer to heal. But mostly it's just this pregnancy.

In general, I don't feel old. I certainly don't feel as old as I thought my parents were at 40.

Age is certainly a lot about how you feel and think. Although there are some physical impacts that are undeniable.

Skye Leigh · Sep 22nd, 2016, 17:22 PM

I think it's all in your state of mind, your mindset. If a 75 year old woman can be a body builder, then I can certainly get pregnant at 47! I don't feel old and never think of myself as old. I'm working a full time job and I'm 22 weeks pregnant. So no I don't allow myself to think of myself as old.

Yeah I'm surprised at how many people think of themselves as old at like 30 and 35 years old. When they get older they will wish they had enjoyed that age instead of thinking of themselves as over the hill that young. Haha.

Ladyheader · Nov 15th, 2016, 04:15 AM

Yeah. Age is just a number.

Bumpontherun · Jan 6th, 2017, 17:03 PM

I'm 35, 36 in a couple of weeks. I've looked into the feeling old threads and what strikes me is that a lot of people say their friends all had their kids much younger. Although I was one of the first in my peer group to start my family (28) my friends are all still having babies too - many are still ttc#1.

This pregnancy I have a 7 and a 5 yr old so I know I can be a good mum, my career is the best it's ever been, I'm still healthy and my relationship with FH is stronger than ever. I do have the odd grey hair but I don't feel old I guess if I have to put a label on it I feel mature!

LoveCakes · Feb 20th, 2017, 07:39 AM

I read there are more babies born to over 40s in Britain now than under 20s

becsboo · Feb 21st, 2017, 08:48 AM

with 9 children yes I feel very old

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mrsj13 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2016 Location: Kolkata, India Posts: 55	Do You Think Feeling Old Is A State Of Mind? Well this is not entirely pregnancy related, but to some extent it is. When I peeped into this group (pregnancy over 35), I was expecting to have discussions like if there were any age related pregnancy complications, etc. The last thing I expected to see was the "feeling old" threads. It just got me thinking...what makes you feel old? Is this a society thing or merely a state of mind? I'll tell you about myself...I was 35 when I conceived and will be 36 when I deliver and never have I felt old. In fact, I conceived right after getting married (totally unplanned) and my mom in law's first reaction was "why didn't you enjoy life for a few years before getting pregnant?" Most of my friends have conceived over 30, barring a few who got married very young. Of my entire school batch, there is only one friend who has a teenager and rest have kids from ages 2-8. I have felt older in my mid 20s than I feel now. Which brings me back to the question, do you feel old, or do people around make you feel older? Wish all of you happy and healthy pregnancies

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Ellivort Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 288	I never physically felt old until I got some strange reactions to me being pregnant!

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Left wonderin Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Ireland Posts: 8,608	I'm 43 .. 2 under 3 and don't feel a day over 30

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Lucasmum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Chelmsford Posts: 2,132	Its a tough one I have a physically demanding job and work 40+ hours a week so yes I do feel old and tired especially as I sometimes work 14 days before a day off but a good sleep and a shower and I'm back to myself which I feel is quite young acting and thinking, I dont look any where near my age (40) and people never believe me when I tell them but if you look close enough the signs are there I did feel older when I became pregnant this time mainly for me because I didnt know of anyone who had become pregnant at 40, but the first appointment at the hospital I went I felt incredibly young again there were a lot of ladies 40+ I have also since come across a lot of ladies in my line of work (I work with the elderly) who have told me either they or sisters or mothers were still having children at my age and older and they were all surprised when I told them I was classed as an old mum this makes me feel better

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Nikko88 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Maine Posts: 790	I start feeling old when all the new mom friends I have are 10 years younger than me. Also when my health care professionals are younger than me. I'm definitely feeling physically drained by this pregnancy with a toddler in tow. Some of that is just it takes longer to heal. But mostly it's just this pregnancy. In general, I don't feel old. I certainly don't feel as old as I thought my parents were at 40. Age is certainly a lot about how you feel and think. Although there are some physical impacts that are undeniable.

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Skye Leigh Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Arizona, USA Posts: 74	I think it's all in your state of mind, your mindset. If a 75 year old woman can be a body builder, then I can certainly get pregnant at 47! I don't feel old and never think of myself as old. I'm working a full time job and I'm 22 weeks pregnant. So no I don't allow myself to think of myself as old. Yeah I'm surprised at how many people think of themselves as old at like 30 and 35 years old. When they get older they will wish they had enjoyed that age instead of thinking of themselves as over the hill that young. Haha.

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Ladyheader Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2016 Posts: 12	Yeah. Age is just a number.

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Bumpontherun Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Inner Hebrides Posts: 1,386	I'm 35, 36 in a couple of weeks. I've looked into the feeling old threads and what strikes me is that a lot of people say their friends all had their kids much younger. Although I was one of the first in my peer group to start my family (28) my friends are all still having babies too - many are still ttc#1. This pregnancy I have a 7 and a 5 yr old so I know I can be a good mum, my career is the best it's ever been, I'm still healthy and my relationship with FH is stronger than ever. I do have the odd grey hair but I don't feel old I guess if I have to put a label on it I feel mature!

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LoveCakes Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: UK Posts: 3,567	I read there are more babies born to over 40s in Britain now than under 20s

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becsboo Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2017 Posts: 5,614	with 9 children yes I feel very old

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