I am sick hearing people say 'oh that's a big age gap' rather than 'congratulations'.I have a daughter aged 14 and a son 13.The 2 of them are over the moon at the thought of having a little brother or sister but these comments are starting to get on my nerves!I just with they would say nothing than upsetting me xx
When I had my 2 yr old my older 2 were 15 & 19 so I know what you mean! Now that I am having my last one I only tell people I don't know about my youngest but it still doesn't stop them asking if this one was planned!?! This time I have learned to just let it go over my head but their comments can sometimes feel really hurtful.
am only 5 weeks but not looking forwards to telling ppl i know there going to say but your 37... AND and o the age gap... which is only 10,11,14 so not that big, i think a big age gap is good gives you the time to enjoy your time with the new little one when i had my to youngest there is only 12 months between them i was 26 and it all went sooooo fast so am really looking forwards to this one, but will leave till has late as poss before telling,
Hiya,I'm 38 had the comments about 'age' too,you would think I was 68 the way they were talking!!It is hard to listen to,some days it doesn't bother me and others it does but just now it's doing my head right in!!I feel I'm more relaxed now at this age and I haven't had any problems with this pregnancy,kept good health and probably done way more than what I did with the other 2.Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months to you x
I remember the phrase " are you crazy?" bothered me when I was expecting Emily because there was a 17 yr age gap.. I soon learned to ignore the comments..
This time all I hear is " your pregnant AGAIN ?" ..
I love this thread, when I was pregnant last time my older two were 10 and 9 and I felt I had to give my life story when ppl found out I was pregnant ie "I'm on my second marriage so thought I'd have another one, etc,etc". I'm now 12 wks with my fourth and my boys are 11, 9 and 11 months and have decided it's no ones business. I'm pregnant if you can't just congratulate me then don't say anything.....btw I love being older this time...I'm much more relaxed and my big boys adore their baby brother and are sooo excited about another baby!! XX
You're right it's no ones business and if they can't say anything nice then I would rather they didn't say anything.I would never dream of saying anything like that!I feel I am more relaxed too and our kids are so looking forward to the new arrival xx
I've really enjoyed telling people for the last couple of weeks that motherhood is so much more enjoyable 2nd time round after the big age gap! I appreciate this wee bundle as much as he deserved unlike the first three who were born when I was too young to really know what I had there! Its shut up the folk who were commenting on my age and the gap between children...mind you its also made me glad I was sterilised at the same time cos I feel I could happily have a dozen more I love him so much!!xxx
Why does it upset you? It is a big age gap. It is what it is why not just say it first.
I get it the other way around. My sisters are 11 and 16 years older than me and it sucks. All I ever got was 'that's a big age gap' and still do. PPl will never stop saying it! It used to p me off as ppl were incinuating I was an accident I guess. It stopped bothering me once I got older but it never goes away!
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