If I hear this one more time!

DeeM73 · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:04 PM

I am sick hearing people say 'oh that's a big age gap' rather than 'congratulations'.I have a daughter aged 14 and a son 13.The 2 of them are over the moon at the thought of having a little brother or sister

but these comments are starting to get on my nerves!I just with they would say nothing than upsetting me

xx

embartle · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:14 PM

When I had my 2 yr old my older 2 were 15 & 19 so I know what you mean! Now that I am having my last one I only tell people I don't know about my youngest but it still doesn't stop them asking if this one was planned!?! This time I have learned to just let it go over my head but their comments can sometimes feel really hurtful.

DeeM73 · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:54 PM

I hate being asked if it was planned too,just so rude and hurtful.I kind of laugh it off but deep down I feel angry and hurt.Just really got to me today

x

Clair75 · Apr 13th, 2012, 14:39 PM

hi

am only 5 weeks but not looking forwards to telling ppl i know there going to say but your 37... AND and o the age gap... which is only 10,11,14 so not that big, i think a big age gap is good gives you the time to enjoy your time with the new little one when i had my to youngest there is only 12 months between them i was 26 and it all went sooooo fast so am really looking forwards to this one, but will leave till has late as poss before telling,

DeeM73 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:52 PM

Hiya,I'm 38 had the comments about 'age' too,you would think I was 68 the way they were talking!!It is hard to listen to,some days it doesn't bother me and others it does but just now it's doing my head right in!!I feel I'm more relaxed now at this age and I haven't had any problems with this pregnancy,kept good health and probably done way more than what I did with the other 2.Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months to you

x

future_numan · Apr 13th, 2012, 17:51 PM

I remember the phrase " are you crazy?" bothered me when I was expecting Emily because there was a 17 yr age gap.. I soon learned to ignore the comments..
This time all I hear is " your pregnant AGAIN ?" ..

flower74 · Apr 14th, 2012, 02:15 AM

I love this thread, when I was pregnant last time my older two were 10 and 9 and I felt I had to give my life story when ppl found out I was pregnant ie "I'm on my second marriage so thought I'd have another one, etc,etc". I'm now 12 wks with my fourth and my boys are 11, 9 and 11 months and have decided it's no ones business. I'm pregnant if you can't just congratulate me then don't say anything.....btw I love being older this time...I'm much more relaxed and my big boys adore their baby brother and are sooo excited about another baby!! XX

DeeM73 · Apr 14th, 2012, 06:59 AM

You're right it's no ones business and if they can't say anything nice then I would rather they didn't say anything.I would never dream of saying anything like that!I feel I am more relaxed too and our kids are so looking forward to the new arrival

xx

suzimc · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:02 PM

I've really enjoyed telling people for the last couple of weeks that motherhood is so much more enjoyable 2nd time round after the big age gap! I appreciate this wee bundle as much as he deserved unlike the first three who were born when I was too young to really know what I had there! Its shut up the folk who were commenting on my age and the gap between children...mind you its also made me glad I was sterilised at the same time cos I feel I could happily have a dozen more I love him so much!!xxx

New2Bumps · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:48 PM

Why does it upset you? It is a big age gap. It is what it is why not just say it first.
I get it the other way around. My sisters are 11 and 16 years older than me and it sucks. All I ever got was 'that's a big age gap' and still do. PPl will never stop saying it! It used to p me off as ppl were incinuating I was an accident I guess. It stopped bothering me once I got older but it never goes away!

Apr 13th, 2012, 13:04 PM	#1
DeeM73 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: U.K. Posts: 627	If I hear this one more time! I am sick hearing people say 'oh that's a big age gap' rather than 'congratulations'.I have a daughter aged 14 and a son 13.The 2 of them are over the moon at the thought of having a little brother or sister but these comments are starting to get on my nerves!I just with they would say nothing than upsetting me xx

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Apr 13th, 2012, 13:14 PM	#2
embartle Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Kent U.K. Posts: 15	When I had my 2 yr old my older 2 were 15 & 19 so I know what you mean! Now that I am having my last one I only tell people I don't know about my youngest but it still doesn't stop them asking if this one was planned!?! This time I have learned to just let it go over my head but their comments can sometimes feel really hurtful.

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Apr 13th, 2012, 13:54 PM	#3
DeeM73 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: U.K. Posts: 627	I hate being asked if it was planned too,just so rude and hurtful.I kind of laugh it off but deep down I feel angry and hurt.Just really got to me today x

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Apr 13th, 2012, 14:39 PM	#4
Clair75 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: market drayton england Posts: 131	hi am only 5 weeks but not looking forwards to telling ppl i know there going to say but your 37... AND and o the age gap... which is only 10,11,14 so not that big, i think a big age gap is good gives you the time to enjoy your time with the new little one when i had my to youngest there is only 12 months between them i was 26 and it all went sooooo fast so am really looking forwards to this one, but will leave till has late as poss before telling,

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Apr 13th, 2012, 15:52 PM	#5
DeeM73 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: U.K. Posts: 627	Hiya,I'm 38 had the comments about 'age' too,you would think I was 68 the way they were talking!!It is hard to listen to,some days it doesn't bother me and others it does but just now it's doing my head right in!!I feel I'm more relaxed now at this age and I haven't had any problems with this pregnancy,kept good health and probably done way more than what I did with the other 2.Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months to you x

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Apr 13th, 2012, 17:51 PM	#6
future_numan Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Canadian, eh ! Posts: 3,306	I remember the phrase " are you crazy?" bothered me when I was expecting Emily because there was a 17 yr age gap.. I soon learned to ignore the comments.. This time all I hear is " your pregnant AGAIN ?" ..

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Apr 14th, 2012, 02:15 AM	#7
flower74 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Canterbury, Kent Posts: 98	I love this thread, when I was pregnant last time my older two were 10 and 9 and I felt I had to give my life story when ppl found out I was pregnant ie "I'm on my second marriage so thought I'd have another one, etc,etc". I'm now 12 wks with my fourth and my boys are 11, 9 and 11 months and have decided it's no ones business. I'm pregnant if you can't just congratulate me then don't say anything.....btw I love being older this time...I'm much more relaxed and my big boys adore their baby brother and are sooo excited about another baby!! XX

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Apr 14th, 2012, 06:59 AM	#8
DeeM73 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: U.K. Posts: 627	You're right it's no ones business and if they can't say anything nice then I would rather they didn't say anything.I would never dream of saying anything like that!I feel I am more relaxed too and our kids are so looking forward to the new arrival xx

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Apr 14th, 2012, 14:02 PM	#9
suzimc Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 269	I've really enjoyed telling people for the last couple of weeks that motherhood is so much more enjoyable 2nd time round after the big age gap! I appreciate this wee bundle as much as he deserved unlike the first three who were born when I was too young to really know what I had there! Its shut up the folk who were commenting on my age and the gap between children...mind you its also made me glad I was sterilised at the same time cos I feel I could happily have a dozen more I love him so much!!xxx

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Apr 14th, 2012, 14:48 PM	#10
New2Bumps Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 5,324	Why does it upset you? It is a big age gap. It is what it is why not just say it first. I get it the other way around. My sisters are 11 and 16 years older than me and it sucks. All I ever got was 'that's a big age gap' and still do. PPl will never stop saying it! It used to p me off as ppl were incinuating I was an accident I guess. It stopped bothering me once I got older but it never goes away!

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