Is anyone still afraid of a m/c??

charliesmom · Apr 6th, 2009, 22:52 PM

I just got really paranoid tonight and looked up second trimester m/cs... it seems unlikely for me but WHO KNOWS??? This is my first baby... I have no idea if my body will sustain it all the way!

And then I checked the doppler this evening... baby was moving like crazy but heartrate was really irratic going from 136-152! Two weeks ago, baby was at 167 - supposedly active, and baby's been averaging 155 the past week. I've never seen it go below 150 until tonight.

I am being very irrational, I know. But

I'm just so worried. I thought I could finally relax upon entering the second trimester but the worrying never goes away :\ help me.....

aidensxmomma · Apr 6th, 2009, 23:49 PM

I still worry a lot too. This is my second pregnancy and my first one was flawless, but I just can't get over that fear. My baby's heartrate has been all over the place, too. As long as it's in a normal range, though, it's nothing to worry about.

buddabun · Apr 7th, 2009, 00:26 AM

Never goes away hon. I'm 16 weeks today and still check regularly with my doppler. I think I won't believe it until I have my baby in my arms, I just keep thinking of all the people who have lost babies at 18 weeks, 20 weeks etc. I know it's a hugely slim chance but there's always a chance.

It doesn't keep me up every night or anything but it certainly worries me. I don't think anything will stop that worry completely until you know it's all ok after your 40 weeks!!

Huge

if it's any consolation, you're not alone!

avabear73 · Apr 7th, 2009, 01:42 AM

I think everyone is worried about it to be honest, it's an exciting but still scary time. You want it to go well so much that I think it plays tricks on your mind (well I know my mind plays tricks anyway!).

I didn't get a doppler because I knew if one day I couldn't find the heartbeat I'd freak out, and I learned just before my first scan to stay off of google or any threads here that might make me panic!

Maybe all this worry is just to give us a taste of what being parents is like .... LOL.

shortiecjx · Apr 7th, 2009, 01:58 AM

Im worrying more now than in the 1st trimester lol... I think its just natural... especially with all our hormones n that... xxx

Vici · Apr 7th, 2009, 03:14 AM

I haven't been worried at all, and alot will remember that even in the first tri it really was at the back of my mind. But now i have all this preeclampsia stuff already its making me want the next few weeks to go very fast to reach some chance of viability

nikkip75 · Apr 7th, 2009, 03:47 AM

same ere,

im so scared, if i dont feel her move for an hour i give my tummy a shake to wake her up! poor little thing!!!

an let me tell you it never ends! from the minute you conceive until they are all grown up all you do is worry, think its just part of motherhood

loulabell84 · Apr 7th, 2009, 03:48 AM

i am feeling exactly the same, i have days where im convinced i have had a MMC i cant get the thought out of my mind. i have got my next MW appointment in 2 weeks so i can hear the heartbeat then, i hope that will put my mind at rest.
the thoughts are driving me crazy..x

becstar · Apr 7th, 2009, 03:55 AM

I just made it to 24 weeks but part of me still worries a bit! It's normal. You won't stop worrying about this child now for the rest of your life!

10thSept · Apr 7th, 2009, 03:57 AM

Me too
I freak out all the time
and as people have said, google is NOT your friend!!!!!!
I look everything up and have decided I just HAVE to stop.
The thing is, most pregnancies are absolutely fine - people don't even know they're pregnant until our stage, do fine without all the extra care we've taken up until now and people without all the medical advances, ultrasound and dopplers have babies all the time. So we need to focus on that - sometimes too much information is a bad thing.

I sound so positive!! Now I just need to remember this myself!!!!
xx

Apr 6th, 2009, 22:52 PM	#1
charliesmom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: California Posts: 943	Is anyone still afraid of a m/c?? I just got really paranoid tonight and looked up second trimester m/cs... it seems unlikely for me but WHO KNOWS??? This is my first baby... I have no idea if my body will sustain it all the way! And then I checked the doppler this evening... baby was moving like crazy but heartrate was really irratic going from 136-152! Two weeks ago, baby was at 167 - supposedly active, and baby's been averaging 155 the past week. I've never seen it go below 150 until tonight. I am being very irrational, I know. But I'm just so worried. I thought I could finally relax upon entering the second trimester but the worrying never goes away :\ help me.....

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Apr 6th, 2009, 23:49 PM	#2
aidensxmomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Wisconsin, U.S. Posts: 3,527	I still worry a lot too. This is my second pregnancy and my first one was flawless, but I just can't get over that fear. My baby's heartrate has been all over the place, too. As long as it's in a normal range, though, it's nothing to worry about.

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Apr 7th, 2009, 00:26 AM	#3
buddabun Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 744	Never goes away hon. I'm 16 weeks today and still check regularly with my doppler. I think I won't believe it until I have my baby in my arms, I just keep thinking of all the people who have lost babies at 18 weeks, 20 weeks etc. I know it's a hugely slim chance but there's always a chance. It doesn't keep me up every night or anything but it certainly worries me. I don't think anything will stop that worry completely until you know it's all ok after your 40 weeks!! Huge if it's any consolation, you're not alone!

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Apr 7th, 2009, 01:42 AM	#4
avabear73 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 813	I think everyone is worried about it to be honest, it's an exciting but still scary time. You want it to go well so much that I think it plays tricks on your mind (well I know my mind plays tricks anyway!). I didn't get a doppler because I knew if one day I couldn't find the heartbeat I'd freak out, and I learned just before my first scan to stay off of google or any threads here that might make me panic! Maybe all this worry is just to give us a taste of what being parents is like .... LOL.

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Apr 7th, 2009, 01:58 AM	#5
shortiecjx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ramsgate in Kent Posts: 145	Im worrying more now than in the 1st trimester lol... I think its just natural... especially with all our hormones n that... xxx

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Apr 7th, 2009, 03:14 AM	#6
Vici Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Suffolk Posts: 5,940	I haven't been worried at all, and alot will remember that even in the first tri it really was at the back of my mind. But now i have all this preeclampsia stuff already its making me want the next few weeks to go very fast to reach some chance of viability

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Apr 7th, 2009, 03:47 AM	#7
nikkip75 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,722	same ere, im so scared, if i dont feel her move for an hour i give my tummy a shake to wake her up! poor little thing!!! an let me tell you it never ends! from the minute you conceive until they are all grown up all you do is worry, think its just part of motherhood

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Apr 7th, 2009, 03:48 AM	#8
loulabell84 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 267	i am feeling exactly the same, i have days where im convinced i have had a MMC i cant get the thought out of my mind. i have got my next MW appointment in 2 weeks so i can hear the heartbeat then, i hope that will put my mind at rest. the thoughts are driving me crazy..x

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Apr 7th, 2009, 03:55 AM	#9
becstar Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 3,373	I just made it to 24 weeks but part of me still worries a bit! It's normal. You won't stop worrying about this child now for the rest of your life!

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Apr 7th, 2009, 03:57 AM	#10
10thSept Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London, UK Posts: 851	Me too I freak out all the time and as people have said, google is NOT your friend!!!!!! I look everything up and have decided I just HAVE to stop. The thing is, most pregnancies are absolutely fine - people don't even know they're pregnant until our stage, do fine without all the extra care we've taken up until now and people without all the medical advances, ultrasound and dopplers have babies all the time. So we need to focus on that - sometimes too much information is a bad thing. I sound so positive!! Now I just need to remember this myself!!!! xx

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