I'm popping over from first tri as I think this question may be better posed to those of you have been here...
I am 12 weeks 4 days today and I had an ultrasound for my quad-screen. Much to my surprise, the ultrasound tech asked if I wanted her to check for the gender. (I thought this info wasn't coming until 18 weeks!) I quickly said "of course!!" and she said that she wanted to warn me that it is still very early, and that I shouldn't start telling family and friends yet as she doesn't want them to start buying things and then have to return them. She said this was for me, but that I should wait for confirmation at 18 weeks.
So she looks and points to a tiny dot (not anything like what I saw on my us with my son, granted his was several weeks later) and said it looks like a boy. I asked how certain she was and she said about 80%.
My question is if anyone knows how likely it is that she is right this early?? To be really honest, I am kinda hoping she's wrong. While of course the only really important thing is that the baby is healthy, and I already have a son and a daughter, this will be my last and I really felt like and was hoping it was a girl. I just don't want to be playing mind games with myself.....don't want to be thinking "well, she's not positive so I should really not think anything for six more weeks".
I'm really sorry if this seems petty, I just need a little reality check.
Any advice, experience or input is greatly appreciated!!!
that is early but Ive heard that the new u/s machines are so clear that alot of techs are guessing the sex at 12 weeks. I wouldnt put alot of faith in it but I was told my boys were boys at 13 wks 5 days and 14 wks 2 days.
The dr. told us it was a defo 100% boy at 15w,(look at my pic) we were at a 12w app and she said boys you see earlier than girls she did not even try looking at 12w. I think you should just wait a little while to make sure, people make mistakes and with a 12w baby all is not big enough to be 100% sure. You might go for a private scan at 15/16w to check the gender, if it is a boy YOU WILL KNOW!!!lol
Wow! Didn't think they could tell that early, infact, i thought the sex organs started to show from 14 weeks onwards! Maybe she was using high tech equipment and knows what to look for that early. For your sake, i hope she was wrong, and that you get your little girl, although like you say, the health of the baby is all that matters.
its definatly possible its getting earlyer and earlyer but i know alot of places wont even begin to guess because theres a huge margin for error they cant tell you definatly but then again even at a 20 week + scan no one can tell you 100% unless its 4d! I know the hospital i go to have really good scanning equipment but i dont think they would even think about telling you what they thought it was this early on, altho today i might ask her "go on then what do you THINK it is" see if she has a look!
I think that people with big experience can tell early on if the baby is in a good position. My doc tried to tell it both at 11 wks, and 14 wks, but my modest LO kept her legs closed. At 18 wks, she was still not showing herself clearly, but doc said that he's 90 % sure it's a girl, and yesterday (wk 21), my new doctor said, she also thought she was a girl.
I think that if they don't see anything, than they rather not say it, but if tthey say it, they got a good clue. But it is not certain.
at 12/13 weeks all babies have external sex organs so only way to tell is from the angle of what they can see before then so can been inaccurate, from 15/16weeks is very accurate as they no longer look the same (for obvious reasons lol)
Luckyno2 -- my scan looking NOTHING like yours!!! Ur boy is lucky!!! It was a tiny wite dot....nothing "long" about it at all (sorry baby!! mommy loves you!!!!)
Caz81, I am ashamed to say it, but I am really really hoping to have a story like yours. It's not even so much for me, but both of my oldrr children really want a girl. My daughter, age 9, really wasn't ever interested in having another baby....said one baby brother was enogh "work" for her but she is being so good about this and very sweetly is hoping to "know what it is like to have a sister", and my son also really wants to have a baby sister (don't know why but he does!). Both grandparents really want another girl, and tbh as this is my last, would really like to do all the cute frilly stuff again.
I hope I don't sound like a selfish ingrate.....baby looks very healthy, and I already have two beautful, sweet healthy children.....I should really just be quiet and be grateful shouldn't I!!!
Any opinions, advice, statements or other information expressed or made available on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com by users or third parties, including but not limited to bloggers, are solely those of the respective user or other third party. They do not reflect the opinions of BabyandBump.Momtastic.com and they have not been reviewed by a physician, psychologist or parenting expert or any member of the BabyandBump.Momtastic.com staff for accuracy, balance or objectivity. Content and other information presented on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com are not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, counseling, diagnosis, or treatment. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical or mental health advice from your physician or other qualified health provider because of something you have read on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com. BabyandBump.Momtastic.com does not endorse any opinion, advice, statement, product, service or treatment made available on the website. If you think you have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately.