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Old Feb 13th, 2013, 22:48 PM   1
CAStafford
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My husband stresses me the "F" word out sometimes!!


Please tell me that I am not alone on this one...

Today I have had one of those days where I'm kinda sad/ angry but I don't want to take it out on anyone, so I have been quiet, and staying to myself...

Husband though, has been having sharp bursts of anger all day.. I made dinner and some sauce got on his pj pants and he flipped out.
I asked him,"do you need a napkin?"
He said," no. I need new pants."


I asked him if he would do the dishes tonight ( the first time in.. Awhile) and he starts doing them gets upset, starts slamming the dish washer door a bit.. Then comes and gets his iPad and phone from the bedroom, turns to walk out say," goodnight." Turns off the light and shut the bedroom door.

I have no idea what his problem is tonight.. But it's like he's throwing a temper tantrum... He's acting like he a freaking 2 year old, that isn't getting his way..... Ugh!!!

And to top it off I have just been trying to stay relaxed, and breathe, because I am already sad/ angry inside emotionally for some reason today..

Am I totally alone here on this? Is your significant other, throwing temper tantrums for no reason?



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2013, 23:29 PM   2
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it has happened in the past, usually when we have gotten into an argument (even if it was brief) would he act like this. Maybe try to go talk to him? Go tell him you are feeling sad, upset, hormonal, and the way he is talking to you is upsetting you. Obviously something is upsetting him, so maybe just start by asking him what is wrong? Then let him know how you are feeling.



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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 00:00 AM   3
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He does better when I just let him cool, and leave him be for awhile. Trying to talk to him at the time of what's bothering him just exacerbates the situation. I trust he will work it out and be okay tomorrow.. Plus i don't feel like arguing and stressing myself out more... It's just annoying when he gets like this, you know?



 
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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 06:07 AM   4
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Ugh, I'm sorry you're going through this. My DH also has occasional temper tantrums like this and I also just let him chill. He usually comes around and apologizes, though not always. The last time it happened we talked about it a bit a few days after the fact, and it came out that he was feeling like the baby was going to replace him. That put things in perspective for me. I've started to try to be more reassuring in general, and no temper tantrums since. (why do men act like 4 year olds sometimes?! LOL)

Hope things pick up for you!



 
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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 06:41 AM   5
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Just let him be. He has the right to be "hormonal" once in a while too. Maybe later or tomorrow ask him if anything is wrong. If he says "nothing" just drop it. We all have those kind of days!



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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 07:05 AM   6
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My hubbie 'goes to his cave' sometimes when he needs a bit of space. Leave him be and he'll talk to you later if he wants to. Remember that most women like to talk about their problems and a lot of men don't, they like to sit by themselves and think through them, so if you start to pester him about what's wrong he'll take that as nagging and will clam up even more. Don't be upset that he wants some space once in a while, it's perfectly normal



 
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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 08:55 AM   7
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I don't think I've ever seen my DH angry. He's just laid back. I'm usually the one with the temper tantrums O.O

But I'm sorry you're dealing with that You shouldn't have to be worrying about upsetting your husband. Hope things get better.



 
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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 10:16 AM   8
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Thanks Ladies! I just ended up going to bed, and sometime during the night he came to bed, and cuddled up with me. I woke up and he hugged me and said sorry, that he just got mad. It wasn't anything I did. So I just told him that I love him and went back to sleep. This morning I saw that one of our new bowls had been broken during his temper tantrum....Bummer. I guess I am off to the store to get a new bowl! Lol men.



 
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Old Feb 14th, 2013, 10:21 AM   9
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I have wondered the same thing!!! This whole relationship I have been taking care of the house hold needs. And I know with my new job, I have told him, sometimes he will be on his own.. And with the baby coming, I told him I am going to need help.. Being our first child, I wonder if he is feeling a bit over loaded..



 
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