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Old May 8th, 2013, 18:42 PM   1
Amsan
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When to get help?


I'm having a very hard time determining if I'm starting to suffer from pregnancy depression, or just an over-abundance of hormones.. Most things that upset me, I'm usually over in an hour or so, sometimes a few hours. But when something DOES upset me, omg I feel like the world is going to end. I'm generally more unhappy than I am happy and I HATE that feeling (I also have a lot going on with the child's father that I'm trying to sort out which is part of my problem). Another thing I think is becoming an issue is how much I SIT at home. I used to be a busy-body with all my friends, going out to do SOMETHING, socializing.. and I've had social interactions (other than work) maybe 4 or 5 times in the last 14 weeks. I'm the kind of person that if I sit in my own head too long I literally go crazy. No matter how hard I've tried, very RARELY can I even get a friend to answer their phones, let alone go out and DO something. My family is pretty much a bunch of home-bodies. I'm just stuck.

And today, I just had a major melt down because I'm trying to rearrange and make room for baby stuff and realized how much I DON'T belong here (I had to move back in with my mother and step father a few months ago). There's literally a tiny corner in the room I stay in that has all my boxes of crap. I have NO WHERE to even move it to make room for baby's stuff. Its not enough for a storage unit, but too much for where I'm at. I know I'm probably overreacting about ALL of this but I'm afraid there may be an underlying issue I'm overlooking and I just don't know when to ask for help (from my doctor, who's kind of weird to talk to anyway) or when to just suck it up and realize that its life and life sucks sometimes?

I wish I could be over the moon happy for this baby and bond with my baby the way I want to and the way I should. Its been hard from the start as I never even expected for it to last this long (that sounds HORRIBLE writing out) since I've lost two in the previous two years) and I just didn't want to set myself up for disappointment. None of this even feels real to me yet and I so badly envy those of you that get to bond and be excited and happy and start your baby's life out on the right, POSITIVE foot.




 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:08 PM   2
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Aww Hun.
I can understand alot of things you are going through.
Maybe you should see your doc and ask to be referred to a therapist.
The one I saw did me wonders and taught me alot of techniques to help me relax and combat my anxiety. Xx
It does get better Hun, I still have bad days but I now know how to deal better and identify the feelings I'm having.



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:12 PM   3
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I kind of hate my doctor lol. I mean, he's not a bad doctor.. he's just awkward... Very awkward to talk to and be around. And unfortunately there's no midwife at the office its just him. It stinks how hard it is sometimes to talk about those things to doctors. at least for me.. I just kinda feel silly, like I'm overreacting?



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:13 PM   4
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I think with being pregnant we all feel like we are on an emotional roller coaster. It sounds like you have a lot going on to cause your stress. Maybe do like the pp said and see if you can get in to see a therapist. As for having an outside life, I would go to a park when a lot of people are there and see if you can make friends with some other parents. Hope it gets better for you!



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:15 PM   5
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It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life right now, and a therapist would be a great resource for working through it. Do you need a referral from your doctor or could you just call one and set an appointment?



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:21 PM   6
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I'm not really sure... Right now I'm on state medical care (previous job didn't offer insurance, new job does but won't qualify until July) so I think that might also play a part in it as there's very little state aid covers..

And I've struggled with quitting smoking. I went from a pack a day down to 3-4 at the MOST on a BAD day, I only had one yesterday and none so far today and I'm trying really hard not to go buy more.



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:30 PM   7
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This almost made me cry (for the second time today). There are parts of this I could have written myself.
Although we don't have identical situations, I too think I'm either suffering from depression or, at the very least, a major hormonal overload. I've been stuck in this house for going on 13 weeks now, with no transportation, and my only friends being my boyfriend (who works 13 hour days, 5 a week) and my two dogs. I feel like I am going insane, not even exaggerating. My bf and I received some amazing news from his job today (he got a huge promotion) and he was over the top! So what do I do, two hours later? Have an outrageous, emotional meltdown because he has to work on his day off and won't be home until super late, while I sit here alone with nothing to eat or drink (well, nothing that I want). I can't believe I just lost my mind like that. I called him up hysterically crying and begging him to come home because I just couldn't handle being alone. I feel like I'm losing my grip here and I'm so scared it's going to cause problems with my pregnancy, which makes even more added stress! It's not outside my nature to be depressed and anxious, but it's getting to be out of control. I'm still waiting on an approval from my Medicaid and I'm absolutely broke since I'm unemployed so therapy isn't much of an option. It's too bad we can't hang out!



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:37 PM   8
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This almost made me cry (for the second time today). There are parts of this I could have written myself.
Although we don't have identical situations, I too think I'm either suffering from depression or, at the very least, a major hormonal overload. I've been stuck in this house for going on 13 weeks now, with my only friends being my boyfriend and my two dogs. I feel like I am going insane, not even exaggerating. My bf and I received some amazing news from his job today (he got a huge promotion) and he was over the top! So what do I do, two hours later? Have an outrageous, emotional meltdown because he has to work on his day off and won't be home until super late, while I sit here alone with nothing to eat or drink (well, nothing that I want). I can't believe I just lost my mind like that. I called him up hysterically crying and begging him to come home because I just couldn't handle being alone. I feel like I'm losing my grip here and I'm so scared it's going to cause problems with my pregnancy, which makes even more added stress! It's not outside my nature to be depressed and anxious, but it's getting to be out of control.


I completely understand!! I've always been very anxious and maybe over dramatical anyway but UGH. I just called my mom before having a melt down about space, to ask (yell) at her for using all my laundry detergent. She in turn told me I had apparently told her she could use the rest of it. I hung up on her and then remembered I think I did tell her that. Ugh.



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:37 PM   9
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you´re not over reacting at all!!
After what you´ve gone through, that´s totally understandable! If you feel you´re more depressed than happy, I would defenitely seek help!
I followed some therapy while struggling with depressing due to infertility, and believe me, it helps a lot!!

Also, we all are here for you when you need to vent!



 
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Old May 8th, 2013, 19:38 PM   10
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here, a feel good song!



 
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