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Old Jul 25th, 2016, 03:46 AM   11
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My DD is 3 in august, she pats my tummy and tells me her baby sister is in there and that shes coming after santa has been, but I don't think she quite understands that it will be anything more than a baby doll.
we have bought her a cot, bouncer, highchair etc for her birthday for her dolls to try and help her understand what they are for, ready for when the real baby arrives.
DS is almost 9 and has obviously been through it already with his little sister, so he will be able to help her to understand a bit more once baby arrives xxx

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Old Jul 25th, 2016, 04:26 AM   12
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my DD is 2 and she says that she has a baby in her tummy too like mommy ...

she knows she is going to be a big sister and she knows there is a baby on the way but I somehow still feel she will be jealous when the baby is here ... right now she wants all my attention and gets jealous of my DH and wants to touch and rub my tummy alone ... we'll see when October comes what happens

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Old Jul 25th, 2016, 11:29 AM   13
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My dd was 3 years 7 months on was born - she was aware that I had a baby in my tummy but this was more from me having to say I couldn't pick her up and for her to be careful of my stomach when she was bouncing around all over the place.

It wasn't until later in my pregnancy that she was more aware of there being a baby in there as I was huge and she became a lot more aware of a baby coming and she was very loving towards my bump, always hugging it and kissing it.

I would say don't over do the "baby in the tummy" thing as it could make her feel pushed out as already th focus is massively on the baby which is will be automatically when the baby arrives as the baby's needs will come above your daughters, if that makes sense.

I read dd a book when I was a few weeks from being due so that she could understand a little more - remember 9 months to a child is a LONG time too as they have no concept of time - just before baby was due to be here.

We also did presents from dd to my son and from her to him at the hospital to help them bond.

They have a great relationship, I'm sure it will be the same for yours x

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Old Jul 25th, 2016, 12:49 PM   14
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My sons are 22 months apart. We would always take the oldest to the ultrasounds so he could see the baby move. We also shared with him his little brother's name so that he could start calling him that. But I don't think it really sinks in until they see the baby outside the womb.

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Old Jul 25th, 2016, 13:11 PM   15
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She seems to understand now that there is a baby in my belly. However I think it will hit her only when her sister is here. I am having a 4d scan this week amd will of course take her along. So maybe she will see the baby and understand.

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Old Jul 29th, 2016, 14:04 PM   16
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Do you know anyone with a small baby or who is due before you that you can start spending time with? My dd is a bit older, she's 4.5 but we have used our friends little girl as an example to refer to and my dd seems to get it really well that it takes a long time in the tummy, (we use the marker of winter and just before christmas as a timeline) what a small baby is like and often refers to our friends little one in conversations about our new baby. I guess the fact she's that bit older helps her comprehension but even for a younger lo it could help in the same way to understand more about what a baby is like?

And to the lady who said their lo wants a sister mine was exactly the same and when we found it is a boy she just said but I wanted a sister and wasn't particularly pleased. That was a week and a half ago and she's already coming around talking about her little brother etc when she kept saying she before when we talked about the baby. Again we used examples she loves some of her friends little brothers and have tried to point out all the good parts.

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Old Jul 29th, 2016, 18:50 PM   17
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My co-worker actually found a "How to be a big sister/big brother" day camp for his 5 year old daughter. She would spend a couple hours with a group of children getting ready to be big brothers and big sisters. I don't know if it would work as well for your child since they're 3, but his daughter went from worried and scared to really excited. She learned about a lot of important tips such as playing with their sibling and helping their mommy and daddy. It was really cute.

She came to work one day and showed off her certificate of completion. She was really excited about being an honorary big sister.

I'm not sure if these are common camps/classes in most parts of the U.S. But the camp did seem to help children learn about what's happening. My coworker was telling me that the children that didn't understand their parents figured it out after talking with the other children.

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