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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 19:59 PM   11
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. No I'm so sorry poop is all hitting the fan tonight. I hope everything gets sorted and you can put your feet up this weekend.

Yeah idk why you have to jump through hoops to get info. I know they silence their techs because they aren't trained to diagnose just scan, but if I want my report just give it to me. The only time it bugs me is when it's at the hospital (25m away). They won't release it until it has been reviewed by a doctor, which can take up to three days. And I'm not about to drive across the bay in traffic to request it. Luckily, my gyn just prints stuff for me because I have anxiety and depression so she bends the rules a wee bit lol



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 20:01 PM   12
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But yeah any betas or hiv tests or certain screenings I either have to wait for my gyn to call/email or call in myself, but they have a 24 hour line. STD tests you have to make a password and call in to get your results.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 20:03 PM   13
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. No I'm so sorry poop is all hitting the fan tonight. I hope everything gets sorted and you can put your feet up this weekend.

Yeah idk why you have to jump through hoops to get info. I know they silence their techs because they aren't trained to diagnose just scan, but if I want my report just give it to me. The only time it bugs me is when it's at the hospital (25m away). They won't release it until it has been reviewed by a doctor, which can take up to three days. And I'm not about to drive across the bay in traffic to request it. Luckily, my gyn just prints stuff for me because I have anxiety and depression so she bends the rules a wee bit lol
LOL my doc has to review it too, it took him over 3 weeks! 3 days is good. I also suffer from anxiety and more recently depression, it does not help.

As a correction, it was ARRA, not the ACA, but federal mandate is federal mandate, lol



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 20:29 PM   14
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But your MIL is wrong so that's a silver lining so sorry it got spoiled for you hon. Maybe do a surprise gender reveal party instead?



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 20:47 PM   15
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But your MIL is wrong so that's a silver lining so sorry it got spoiled for you hon. Maybe do a surprise gender reveal party instead?
Yeah. MIL keeps saying what she thinks it is, but she is wrong. We've recently come to be on some very bad terms. When she found out we were expecting she declared it made us unfit parents and told us how unfair this baby would be to our oldest (whom I have recently realized she favors over my second born). Knowing that every time she says it in front of family or friends that she will be wrong when the baby gets here, well that takes the sting out of it a little.

No, I'm not telling. I am not even sure if I want to tell DH. I can't tell if I want to hold on being the only one knowing (because he might tell accidentally, honestly) or being jealous that he gets that surprise in the delivery room and I don't, so then telling him.



 
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Wow. That's so uncool. I'm so sorry she said those things.

I just realized you posted in the last pregnancy thread, too. I'm so sorry she ruined your surprise especially if this is your last.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 21:58 PM   17
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Well you do have the luxury of holding onto the info until you decide what you want to do. Maybe tell your DH what happened when you're ready and see what he wants to do?

I'm sorry your MIL is so horrid. If mine said something as to another child being unfair to my oldest I would probably snap. Definitely have someone record her reaction when she finds out she's wrong!



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 22:09 PM   18
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Well you do have the luxury of holding onto the info until you decide what you want to do. Maybe tell your DH what happened when you're ready and see what he wants to do?

I'm sorry your MIL is so horrid. If mine said something as to another child being unfair to my oldest I would probably snap. Definitely have someone record her reaction when she finds out she's wrong!
Oh I called DH in tears when I found out because I was so upset. He knows what happened but I have still not told him the gender yet.

She said it to DH, she wouldn't say anything like that to me. She then acted like she thought DH wouldn't tell me what she said! I have come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist who will never feel remorse for any of the things she has said or done.

If it were up to me, she'd never have the joy of meeting this precious child after her behavior, or seeing DD for that matter (because if this child is unfair to DS, what does that make DD?). But I see the difficulty of that, in reality.

It just sucks. Everyone who we've told we were team yellow always commented on how those were the most exciting births to attend (for the medical professionals, anyway) and how beautiful and exciting it was to find out when you meet your LO for the first time. I feel like in an instant, with a silly little mishap, I was robbed of that and I'll never get it again.

Yeah. I'm not sure if it's our last pregnancy, but DH is. Since it takes two to tango....and that being said, this has been the most difficult pregnancy I've had. I've had a much more difficult time emotionally and I'm having a really hard day today.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 22:51 PM   19
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Yeah I'd at least limit my kids time with her and defintily limit what information she has. She spunds like my grandpas wife. Some people are just awful. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. When it rains it pours, but the sun does come back out I hope you can find a way to turn this mishap into something special for both you and Dh, even if it wasn't the way you had originally planned to find out.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 23:41 PM   20
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Maybe write them a letter? It won't fix anything but it might be therapeutic and might get them to look into how they write their info in the notes to prevent it from happening to somebody else. In the meanwhile, I know a lot is going on but do something nice for yourself. Treat yo self. It's silly but it helps.



 
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