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Old May 17th, 2017, 07:30 AM   1
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Repeat girl moms?


I posted about this in another forum, but I figured I would ask here, too.

So we found out we are expecting baby girl #2. Yay! I always thought it would be really great to have a sister close in age to me that I could bond with. My sister is 9 years younger than me and we have never really been close so I always craved that growing up.

However, we thought we were having a boy and so did most people, apparently. That's another story that I won't get into because it could be triggering and not in the right forum--ANYWAY--

I just don't get why some people feel like they have a right to opinions on gender. And why some people feel the need to act disappointed when we tell them we are having another girl. I actually had one girl at work (who I had never met) look at me, make a disappointed face and say, "I think you're having a girl....but I hope you have a boy. Boys are so much fun".

I was also shocked when I found out it was a girl, but I have since gotten over that and now I am just excited and grateful for 2 healthy babies. However, I am still having a hard time coping when other people say things.

I just needed to talk to other moms who have gone through it because I just get really upset when people make remarks about it and I get exhausted having to come up with things to say back.



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Old May 17th, 2017, 13:19 PM   2
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Im in the same boat. Myself, my partner and daughter were all over the moon but his family were all visibly and openly disappointed. Still no idea why. I was shocked as everyone thought i was having a boy but all i was really bothered about was that she is healthy. X



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Old May 17th, 2017, 13:24 PM   3
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having sisters is the best they will be so close



 
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This is so annoying. My mum wants number 3 to be a little girl "so we can reuse all of the beautiful girls clothes." It bugs me so much that she has the nerve to share a preference. I just tell her in a way that's friendly but short and firm "well we don't get to chose, and we'll get what we get."



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 13:53 PM   5
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I love my sister. We are 2 years apart. Growing up was rough and we fought a ton. But now that we are older we get along great! She and I travel together all over the place. We understand each other on a level that my brother could never understand.

I have no advice as to what to say to these individuals. Honestly, I can be a brutually honest person at times and if I was annoyed or upset enough I would say that to the person making the comments. But that's just me....



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 19:04 PM   6
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Im in the same boat. Myself, my partner and daughter were all over the moon but his family were all visibly and openly disappointed. Still no idea why. I was shocked as everyone thought i was having a boy but all i was really bothered about was that she is healthy. X


Yessss! All that matters is that they are healthy little babes!



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having sisters is the best they will be so close
Thank you, I hope and pray for that!



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Old May 17th, 2017, 19:06 PM   8
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This is so annoying. My mum wants number 3 to be a little girl "so we can reuse all of the beautiful girls clothes." It bugs me so much that she has the nerve to share a preference. I just tell her in a way that's friendly but short and firm "well we don't get to chose, and we'll get what we get."

Yessss you are so right! We don't get to choose--we find out when we find out! It's a gift either way!



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Old May 17th, 2017, 19:07 PM   9
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I love my sister. We are 2 years apart. Growing up was rough and we fought a ton. But now that we are older we get along great! She and I travel together all over the place. We understand each other on a level that my brother could never understand.

I have no advice as to what to say to these individuals. Honestly, I can be a brutually honest person at times and if I was annoyed or upset enough I would say that to the person making the comments. But that's just me....
That gives me so much hope! Thank you! That's so wonderful that you two are so close. What a blessing.

I know....I try to be the "bigger person" and be peaceful but sometimes I just wish I had a kind, but firm, response ready to go lol.



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Old May 17th, 2017, 20:03 PM   10
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My girls are amazing together. They are three years apart and are nearly inseparable, to the point of tantrums when they are away from each other . I wouldn't have it any other way. We were thrilled to find out our last was a princess, which stopped many comments head on. We did receive the occasional "Well maybe your next will be a boy", which I think jinxed us at this point lol. You'll love it.



 
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