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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 10:43 AM   11
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I had a horrific first labour, one of which I won't go into the details of BUT here I am, with my second now not phased by it as in the grand scheme of things, it's one day and it's over you will be fine lovely, please try not to panic you'll just stress yourself and baby x

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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 20:54 PM   12
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Thank you everyone for the responses. Reading them is starting to make me feel so much better. I really can't wait to meet him which I believe will help me get through all this. I guess it can't be that bad, since people do have more kids after a horrible birth.

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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 08:58 AM   13
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My friend had both her boys at home with no pain at all. She did hypno birthing and it was completely relaxed. With her youngest she watched a movie then paused it to push!

There will always be horror stories, but it's worth remembering that this is what our bodies are designed to do!

This one is my second and there are things that I would like to go differently this time, but I'm not afraid to do it again. Have a think about what makes you feel the most safe and relaxed and see how you can incorporate those things during labor and birth. Work on ways of refocusing yourself if you feel panicked or that things aren't in your control. The more calm you are, the easier it will be.

You can do this!

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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 14:39 PM   14
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I was induced with my first for pre-e, and it wasn't the horror story I'd expected! It all went so smoothly. It's hard to even take any story really seriously, because your own specific labor and delivery will not be the same as any story you've ever heard!

Also, remember that many people talk about traumatic births online because it's cathartic for them- and that it doesn't represent the thousands and thousands who have simple, smooth births but just don't talk about it.

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Old Aug 29th, 2017, 06:20 AM   15
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Don't be scared and don't think too much about other people's awful stories. The thing is when people have a great story, they don't often feel compelled to share it. My birth with my first was lovely, pretty easy, barely painful (you can read my birth story below if you want). I had a home birth and didn't need any pain relief. But it's not something I blurt out to everyone either because I don't feel like it's any of my business and it sounds a bit preachy honestly, though I'll gladly talk about it if people ask. Really as long as you prepare (can't recommend hypnotherapy enough) and go in with the right mindset and are calm, there's nothing to be scared of. Having done it once, I'm even more laidback about it all this time. So I would try not to let that stress you out too much. That said, honestly, giving birth is the easy bit. It's parenting bit that's hard! But with both, you'll do fine. You figure it out as you go.

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