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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 17:52 PM   1
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Other people seem disappointed with gender :(


I have an amazing 1.5 year old son and I'm pregnant with #2 - another boy

When I got pregnant I honestly couldn't decide if I hoped for a boy or a girl, and when I found out it was a boy I was over the moon

However so many people I have told have a strange reaction. They don't hide their disappointment and one even asked if I was OK.

Is anyone else having this problem?



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 18:11 PM   2
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Yepppp. I'm the same, I have a 2 year old son and I'm pregnant with another boy. So many people just assume I must want a girl, or theyyyy want me to have a girl?? It is frustrating. A few of my in laws actually said "it better be a girl this time" when they found out I was pregnant!
It's frustrating because I really wanted to have another boy! It doesn't make it any less exciting, we are bringing a new child into the family! A whole new person.

Thankfully my family and best friend knew I was hoping for a second boy and were all very excited for me and my mum nearly cried when she found out the gender because she was so hoping that my son would get the close brotherly bond of having a little brother.

Hopefully not everyone gives you an annoying reaction. Congratulations on your boy! They will grow up together and become best friends



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 19:05 PM   3
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This is so crap! People tend to assume all women want a girl, and if they've already got a son then they assume she DEFINITELY wants a girl. It's horrible because firstly it's like saying you're disappointed in the baby, and secondly lots of women struggle to conceive or hold onto a pregnancy and really don't care about the gender. My sister had two boys and when she announced her second boy's gender, reactions included "never mind" and "you'll get a girl next time". Personally I thought it was disgusting!! If that was me I would've said something very sharp. I'm sorry you're getting similar crap.
With this pregnancy I've been told by my MIL "oh it's a girl", which is what she said with my last pregnancy which ended in devastating miscarriage so you'd have thought she'd keep her mouth shut this time. And I've had my best friend say "please have a girl I want to buy girly clothes for her" aargh! Honestly what are some people like. Congratulations on your boy's baby brother. It will be a beautiful relationship



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 19:07 PM   4
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Yep, I have two boys already and I'm pretty sure this one is another boy but won't find out until 20 week scan. I have had so many people tell me they hope this one is a girl. The worst thing is that they assume I want a girl and that's why we're having a third, when in reality we always wanted 3-4 regardless and I would be over the moon to have another boy.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 19:09 PM   5
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Oh, and for some reason you don't get this the other way round! If a woman is pregnant with her second girl, no problem. But second boy and it's an issue apparently? Seen it loads on this forum and with my nephews. All children are precious and like you say, all different and their own people, brand new little people.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 20:36 PM   6
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I've got the opposite. I have a 5 year old daughter and am pregnant with another girl. Hubby was disappointed and so is my father. My father in law kept calling baby a boy before we knew and brother in law said it better be a boy when we told him we were expecting... he didn't act disappointed when we told him baby is a girl though.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 21:06 PM   7
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I have 2 boys already (which is awesome btw) and everyone assumes I want this one to be a girl when in reality I don't care in the slightest. I have people ask whether I'll go for a 4th if this one's a boy like somehow I'm missing something if I don't have a girl. Nutters!



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 21:37 PM   8
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Yep, I have two boys already and I'm pretty sure this one is another boy but won't find out until 20 week scan. I have had so many people tell me they hope this one is a girl. The worst thing is that they assume I want a girl and that's why we're having a third, when in reality we always wanted 3-4 regardless and I would be over the moon to have another boy.
We got that last time and this time! But in all fairness, I had said to hubby if he got 3 sons I would do one more pregnancy to try for a girl - which radiology think we have.

But in all reality, if I am destined to be a boy only mum then I couldn't care less. As long as baby is healthy and happy that should be all that really matters. I will NOT be going for round 5 unless it's for my cousin. We are content with 4.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 22:58 PM   9
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Hubby and I are probably going to stop at 2. We have a boy already and we both adore him. Baby #2 we are pretty sure is also a boy. Tech said boy at my 13 week ultrasound and it looked pretty obvious! I know that DH wants a girl and I did say that if he wanted we could try one more time but I have an aunt who tried for a girl and has 5 boys! I honestly wanted another boy so that my son could have that bond I have with my sister. Everyone around me said this one was a girl and I honestly got a little peeved because all I could think is that I love this little person already and didn't care what was going on between his/her legs so they shouldn't either!



 
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Old Aug 29th, 2017, 01:40 AM   10
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I had this right until the day when I found out what I'm having. I have a near 5 year old son and I really would have been happy to have a brother for him but we are having a little girl and I'm equally happy about that.

I keep getting told how fantastic it is that I have one of each and that it's brilliant it's not another boy and I keep having to tell them that I really would have been happy either way but they don't seem to believe me.

People have some very strange mentalities when it comes to gender and love to assume people's feelings when they find out what their having.



 
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