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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 18:13 PM   11
Talia12
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All you ladies plus me giving it some more thought have led to me deciding that my idea that this was a bad age was just my guilt and anxiety, and I would've decided the same thing whether it'd been a 1, 4 or 7 year age gap haha... Him being at full time school by then will mean I can devote time and attention to the baby while he's there, with no guilt because he won't be there, and then give him as much attention as I can when he's home.



 
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Old Sep 7th, 2017, 04:08 AM   12
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All you ladies plus me giving it some more thought have led to me deciding that my idea that this was a bad age was just my guilt and anxiety, and I would've decided the same thing whether it'd been a 1, 4 or 7 year age gap haha... Him being at full time school by then will mean I can devote time and attention to the baby while he's there, with no guilt because he won't be there, and then give him as much attention as I can when he's home.

This is the same mentality I have. By the time the newcomer is 8 months Ds will be in full time school leaving me with enough time for everyone. I think it's quite a nice gap just worried about the adjustment for my son mainly x



 
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Old Sep 17th, 2017, 16:21 PM   13
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My son just turned 4 and I'm due in January so they will fit right into the age gap you're describing. He's incredibly excited about his sister to be and already very protective. We'll see how that goes once the baby actually arrives and he loses a lot of the attention he is getting now but I'm pretty optimistic so far.



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Old Sep 17th, 2017, 16:49 PM   14
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My son just turned 4 and I'm due in January so they will fit right into the age gap you're describing. He's incredibly excited about his sister to be and already very protective. We'll see how that goes once the baby actually arrives and he loses a lot of the attention he is getting now but I'm pretty optimistic so far.
Me too really, but like you reserving judgement until baby comes...! People keep asking if he's excited about the baby and when I say he is they kind of go oh well you're great then! And it's like hello he is 4, there's a big difference between him thinking "yeah, baby coming, I totally get it" and the actual reality of having to share me and his dad! But I'm thinking even if there are a few difficult moments to come, the happiness of having a sibling will far outweigh that.



 
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Old Sep 17th, 2017, 17:23 PM   15
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I'm sure it will. It may take some adjustment but I'm pretty sure if he's excited now at least the probability of things being good is higher then in case he was showing aversion already now. Staying positive!



 
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