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Old Oct 29th, 2017, 16:59 PM   11
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Definitely not. I had my first at 37 weeks with absolutely no signs labour was imminent. Felt perfectly normal and then bam, 11 hours later she was born. Could he go a bit earlier to spend some time with them, or could you all go once baby arrives?

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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 10:39 AM   12
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If it was for say a weekend I'd absolutely let them go! I'd have some time alone before labour and then wouldn't have to travel to them with a small baby afterwards as they'd only just been over to see them

Silver linings and all that.

I absolutely get your worries though, I worry about my in laws and their lax (to me) car seat views when they have my dd as it is, it's scaring me before my second is here as to how I'll cope if they want to take both out far far in the future. Normal mum worries I'm sure as you want your babies safe!

Do whatever you're comfortable with and stick by your decision, you're the mama!

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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 16:49 PM   13
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i would definitely not want to be left at that point anymore. My first baby arrived at 36+6 and anyways moving was hard and I felt so sick!

But I was induced due to problems in the pregnancy. Other women are still excercising and feel fine on their due date. How are you feeling and how have your previous pregnancies been? If you have previously progressed quickly and this is your third, the baby is likely to come out very quickly and there is a chance he would miss the labour.

I agree with mindutopia, would he be able to go a little earlier?

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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 20:06 PM   14
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I'd be happy to let them go and have a bit of peace and quiet but that's just me I suppose. So long as I had someone I could bring with me to delivery if hubby didn't make it back (e.g. sister/friend) I'd be ok with it.... As it was with #2, hubby was a 15 minute drive from the hospital and still nearly missed it!

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Old Oct 31st, 2017, 21:39 PM   15
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I personally wouldn't have a problem with it. My OH went on a 4 day fishing trip when I was 36/37 weeks pregnant with our second. He made sure they went somewhere that was only 3 hours away, where he had cell service, and he didn't drink the whole time he was gone. If I went into labour and it progressed quickly then I would have just had a home birth so I wouldn't have needed to have anyone drive me to the hospital. I ended up going 8 days overdue and not having the baby until a month after the fishing trip.

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Old Nov 2nd, 2017, 15:23 PM   16
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I had similar. Well kind of but OH was only 2 hours away. He went away for the weekend, something he does every year with friends to a big bowls event. He nearly didnít go but I promised as soon as I felt anything Iíd contact him and he would head back. I wouldíve felt terrible had he not gone.
60th birthday is a big thing for his mum I guess and she wants her son to celebrate with her. Ireland to UK, itís not like itís days away he could get back fairly quickly in an emergency. Iíd be inclined to say go.
I did actually go into labour the day that my OH came back lol, but thatís not saying itíll happen to you of course. I was over 39 weeks.
Do what you feel comfortable with but look at it from everyoneís point of view. What does your husband want to do?

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Old Nov 3rd, 2017, 11:01 AM   17
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Personally I feel more strange about your lack of invite than I do about how close it is to your due date. I wouldn't want to be left alone for a weekend at that late stage.

I also see your fears about them making him drink and the car seat issues. I'd probably say let him go, but leave your older 2 with you. It might be harder for you tiredness wise, but at least you wouldn't be worrying about your girls and your hubby could have a nice time for his mums birthday.
But frankly it's not ideal and not a nice situation for your FIL to put you all in.

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Old Nov 5th, 2017, 01:41 AM   18
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Ahh I would not want him to leave at that point. It's bad enough oh family want to all meet up at mine (halfway point) 12 days before my due date. It's not ideal to not have someone on standby who's your birthing partner for the last month. I think babies are unpredictable and obviously they can be born between 37 to 42 weeks at anytime if they go full term x

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Old Nov 5th, 2017, 02:01 AM   19
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I was also wondering if you were invited? If so I would go, bring my notes and have a nice time If not, then I would let them go, he would get back as soon as needed I'm sure, and the chances of going early are pretty slim, GL

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