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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 16:21 PM   1
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What would you do?


Hi ladies, I'm just wondering what you would do if you were in my situation? My fil emailed my husband today to ask if him and 2 daughter's would consider going to England for mil 60th birthday! Thing is her birthday is 3 weeks before my due date with baby 3. I personally think it's too close to my due date for me to be left on my own in case anything was to happen and I'm feeling like it's a bit selfish of fil to expect them to go and leave me at that stage. Just wondering if I'm being out of order not wanting them to go?!
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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 17:14 PM   2
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Hey Anita, I would also be a bit hesitant about being left alone so close to due date. But it depends how far and for how long - it says on your bio that you live in Manchester, assuming that is the US Manchester not the one in the UK? Otherwise if it's within the same country then it would be a different story!



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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 17:21 PM   3
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Its difficult tbh, I can see where your coming from but it would depend on how far away it was and for how long?

Say you did happen to go into labour whilst he was away, hes just have to jump straight in the car no matter what time and hope he makes it on time. Not an ideal situation but if hes only going 1 or 2 nights its unlikely to fall on that day, especially it being 3 weeks before due date.

Deffo put him on an alcohol ban though!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 01:25 AM   4
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we had a cruise booked in march. and i got pregnant and would be 36-37 weeks along so cant go on the cruise. we discussed hubby going with the two older kids (his family will also be on the cruise), and the 2 year old staying home with me.... but since they would be in mexico, we are in California and it would be a nightmare to get them all back in case i went into labor early or had an emergency... so for now we have decided to cancel the cruise when i am a bit further a long.
how far would your hubby be away? i think that would be the biggest factor.. how far and how accessible to get back...



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 02:05 AM   5
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Thanks for your replies ladies. I'm living in Ireland now (forgot to change location) and he would be going to Manchester UK. He would be going on a friday and back on the Sunday. I know what his family are like when they go out and would make him have a drink even though he would have the girls and this is something that would stress me out worrying about them! Plus nobody has a car that would fit the 2 car seats and hubby in the back of it. I just feel selfish myself for saying I'd rather they were with me but I don't think I'd need the extra stress and worry at that time!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 02:09 AM   6
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how far would your hubby be away? i think that would be the biggest factor.. how far and how accessible to get back...
He would be a 2 hour drive away from our home and then a 45 min flight but I know how akward it would be trying to get a flight back at short notice and my labours always progress very quickly!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 11:30 AM   7
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Shoot that is a tough one. A part of me would want them to stay and another would want them to go because 60th is a big Birthday.
Would you be fine if they changed it for after your due date and you stay home with baby by yourself, or are you thinking no trips for the next while?
Can you have one of your friends or family to stay with you while your hubs is away?
I honestly don't know what I would do.



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2017, 07:20 AM   8
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I don't see the issue personally. It's for such a short amount of time and at 36-37 weeks the chances of labour coming on randomly are still pretty slim. If it was a longer distance away I'd have reservations about it but not in this situation.



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2017, 12:58 PM   9
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although unlikely anything would happen, unless there's a concern for early delivery, i am still in favor of the mum having low stress/worry.



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2017, 18:28 PM   10
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Have you delivered babies that early before? If not I wouldn't worry about it and let them go. Otherwise, really we could go into labour at anytime during our pregnancy and we'd never be safe to be alone! I remember being worried about going on a babymoon at 36+5... brought my hospital bag along and all. Well I kept that baby in to 41 weeks, I would've felt pretty silly if I canceled!



 
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