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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 07:49 AM   1
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Get yer mitts off my baby name


Half joking rant post

I told my fiance I was pregnant when he got home from work, on the day I found out.
He tried to wait and lasted just under 24 hours before announcing it on facebook.

A few weeks ago, one of his friends messaged him veryy interested to know what baby names we had picked out.
Of course he told him. (we've had a boy and a girl name picked out for about 6 years)
The friend then went "oh no don't have that one! we picked that name out too for when we have kids!" (I fookin' doubt it, it's not exactly a common name )

He told me about the conversation and I told him you shouldn't really tell people early on in case they beat you to it. But oh well.

GUESS WHO JUST ANNOUNCED THEY'RE ALSO EXPECTING AND DUE THE SAME MONTH AS US

I never thought I'd be one of those people worried about a name being copied, but we have a lot of the same friends and now I can really see theirs coming first and taking the name and us looking like we copied



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 09:39 AM   2
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Use the name anyways. Post it to Facebook and make it known what you are naming the baby. That way no one can say they are surprised once the baby is born.

When do you find out what you are having?



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 10:25 AM   3
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I purposely havnt even told my best friend my names because of this!
I like really unusual names so doubt people would pick them but id Never chance it



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 10:31 AM   4
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Might be worth announcing the name on FB just in case. At the end of the day, names are duplicated and there's no reason why you shouldn't keep a name because they like it. There's no copyright to baby names and you wont have the same middle/last names.


Make it clear that you wont be changing and then they might pick something else.



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 14:53 PM   5
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Hopefully find out what we're having on the 18th July

And yeahh, I've started referring to it as "is it a Dante or an Alyssa" (our two names ) rather than is it a boy or a girl, just so it's known by our shared circle that they're the names we've picked out already

I wouldn't even mind if they did choose the same name (i'd actually prefer it if Dante was a little bit more common, just because family aren't too keen on anything that isn't standard). Just that after the conversation fiance mentioned, I wouldn't be surprised at all if they tried to say we copied



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 16:13 PM   6
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I haven't mentioned to anyone what we're naming our son; at this point it's our business <bitchy, I don't care! Anyways, as someone mentioned before it's not like the names will be identical, do you have middle names picked out? It's not worth arguing over and chances are you could have the opposite sex! Good luck to you!



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 18:19 PM   7
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I think the problem as I see it is names are very personal, they asked for the names and gave none yet made out like they owed a certain name and didn't want Glitch to use it which seems grossly unfair. There is also the risk that if there baby comes first and is the same sex and they use the name, Glitch will be asked if she copied the name when its just not the case.



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 06:45 AM   8
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I think the problem as I see it is names are very personal, they asked for the names and gave none yet made out like they owed a certain name and didn't want Glitch to use it which seems grossly unfair. There is also the risk that if there baby comes first and is the same sex and they use the name, Glitch will be asked if she copied the name when its just not the case.
Yes! This is what worries me a bit.

They would have known they were expecting when they started prying to my partner about what names we were thinking of. And then trying to ask us not to have that one, I can just really see theirs coming first and then telling our shared social circle that we've copied them

I wouldn't dream of asking someone not to have a name because we liked it (i'd actually like it if there were more Dante's in the world - our families don't like names that aren't popular), I just don't want to go with a name we've had for the best part of 6 years only to be accused of copying



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 08:41 AM   9
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I purposefully announced the names we would be using the second we knew becuase of this very reason! We chose a very common name (Elizabeth) but I didn't want anyone else naming their child that and then later assuming we copied. Let it be known up front!

Also, my cousin's son is named Dante! I absolutely LOVE it.



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2018, 10:07 AM   10
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I like what you're doing (the is it a Dante or an Alyssa?)! That way it's well known what your name choices are.

Also, people will ask you way before the baby is due anyways. It's always the second question or third question I get. When are you due? Do you know what you're having? Do you have a name picked out?

I know some people wait until birth to tell everyone (because everyone has an opinion on names), but we tell them anyways. I don't care what their opinion is. If I did, they would be involved with the name picking process lol!



 
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