Im so annoyed!!

funkyfish586 · Mar 4th, 2010, 08:18 AM

Sorry to moan all but i am so annoyed.

I have just got back from my midwife appointment, heard the baby straight away which was lovely & we went through my blood test results. Everything was very good but apparently im not immune to rubella?? cue anxiety. My midwife is a b**ch & its really annoying me , she said to avoid children under 1 & basically live in a bubble for 6 months. Has anyone else not been immune? i have googled what happens if i catch it & its really scary, i need the MMR after birth. Why wasnt i told when i had my 1st son less than 2 yars ago?

Any hooo, we went through the down syndrome tests & i have decided i dont want it & she looked at me horrified i then explained why that it wouldnt make any difference & i wouldnt abort the baby etc & what she said next was shocking

' well its your choice if you think you can cope with a child like that' wtf

i seriosuly want to change MW but shes the onlyone at the moment

tilly-maggie · Mar 4th, 2010, 08:20 AM

Thats a terrible thing of her to say, i didnt have any tests either. Dont worry some of the midwifes are in the wrong job hun.

rainbows_x · Mar 4th, 2010, 08:23 AM

Aww I'm sorry, I found out I'm susceptible to rubella and need the MMR jab after I give birth too. It is scary when you look up what happens, but the chances of you getting it are really low. I also turned down the down syndrome test for the same reason as you, also cause there is a risk of miscarriage if you have the amino thing.. Don't feel bad for it! That's why it's ma choice, plenty of people turn it down x

funkyfish586 · Mar 4th, 2010, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by rainbows_x

Aww I'm sorry, I found out I'm susceptible to rubella and need the MMR jab after I give birth too. It is scary when you look up what happens, but the chances of you getting it are really low. I also turned down the down syndrome test for the same reason as you, also cause there is a risk of miscarriage if you have the amino thing.. Don't feel bad for it! That's why it's ma choice, plenty of people turn it down x

sorry to hear your not immune either another worry lol! do you go to any playgroups or things? x

NYCBride · Mar 4th, 2010, 08:54 AM

i didnt have any of the screening tests done, and ive never once felt guilty for it. I love my child no matter what, he could come out rainbow coloured for all I care. What matters to me is that he is happy......

Thats a shocking statement from your midwife though,and it doesnt worry me that people with that kind of attitude are in a job such as this....

tannembaum · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:05 AM

I didn't have the MMR done when I was little as my brother didn't have it and was fine so my mum didn't bother with me....I told my midwife this and she checked my bloods and apparently I AM immune to it?!? Don't really see why/how??

scotsgirl · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:14 AM

thats a disgrace a midwife saying that. i think i would have complained "a child like that!!!!!" that is a disgrace and even worse it came from a health professional. its your baby and your choice what tests u do or dont want and she should flamin respect that. im so mad right now!!! big hugs xx

Tabbyfourpaws · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:27 AM

My midwife is horrible too. She makes me feel like I'm stupid and that she's way too busy for me. I wouldn't ever feel like I could ask her a question. I haven't felt like that since school so I have changed her. Haven't met my new one yet so fingers crossed.

Some people are clearly in the wrong job. What a b*tch. I seriously hope things improve for you. She sounds like a monster - it's just not right!
xxxx

LesleyP · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:32 AM

Your midwife sounds like a complete cow!! I didn't have the screening test either but if my midwife said that to me I probably would have slapped her!! I'd bloody well report her for saying that

Also, I'm not immune to rubella either - my midwife just told me to be careful who I get into contact with until I have the jab.

funkyfish586 · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:52 AM

thanks all, so its more common than i thought. Of all the people you would expect to be understanding about downs syndrome it would be a midwife. I instantly said no to the tests as i just dont want to know & it annoys me how she was. Shes quite old & strict i would be so upset if she as on during my labour lol x

Mar 4th, 2010, 08:18 AM	#1
funkyfish586 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,315	Im so annoyed!! Sorry to moan all but i am so annoyed. I have just got back from my midwife appointment, heard the baby straight away which was lovely & we went through my blood test results. Everything was very good but apparently im not immune to rubella?? cue anxiety. My midwife is a b**ch & its really annoying me , she said to avoid children under 1 & basically live in a bubble for 6 months. Has anyone else not been immune? i have googled what happens if i catch it & its really scary, i need the MMR after birth. Why wasnt i told when i had my 1st son less than 2 yars ago? Any hooo, we went through the down syndrome tests & i have decided i dont want it & she looked at me horrified i then explained why that it wouldnt make any difference & i wouldnt abort the baby etc & what she said next was shocking ' well its your choice if you think you can cope with a child like that' wtf i seriosuly want to change MW but shes the onlyone at the moment

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Mar 4th, 2010, 08:20 AM	#2
tilly-maggie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Pembrokeshire Posts: 660	Thats a terrible thing of her to say, i didnt have any tests either. Dont worry some of the midwifes are in the wrong job hun.

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rainbows_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 11,632	Aww I'm sorry, I found out I'm susceptible to rubella and need the MMR jab after I give birth too. It is scary when you look up what happens, but the chances of you getting it are really low. I also turned down the down syndrome test for the same reason as you, also cause there is a risk of miscarriage if you have the amino thing.. Don't feel bad for it! That's why it's ma choice, plenty of people turn it down x

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Mar 4th, 2010, 08:54 AM	#5
NYCBride Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: County Durham Posts: 250	i didnt have any of the screening tests done, and ive never once felt guilty for it. I love my child no matter what, he could come out rainbow coloured for all I care. What matters to me is that he is happy...... Thats a shocking statement from your midwife though,and it doesnt worry me that people with that kind of attitude are in a job such as this....

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tannembaum Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 2,944	I didn't have the MMR done when I was little as my brother didn't have it and was fine so my mum didn't bother with me....I told my midwife this and she checked my bloods and apparently I AM immune to it?!? Don't really see why/how??

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scotsgirl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: scotland Posts: 1,306	thats a disgrace a midwife saying that. i think i would have complained "a child like that!!!!!" that is a disgrace and even worse it came from a health professional. its your baby and your choice what tests u do or dont want and she should flamin respect that. im so mad right now!!! big hugs xx

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Mar 4th, 2010, 09:27 AM	#8
Tabbyfourpaws Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: West Sussex Posts: 496	My midwife is horrible too. She makes me feel like I'm stupid and that she's way too busy for me. I wouldn't ever feel like I could ask her a question. I haven't felt like that since school so I have changed her. Haven't met my new one yet so fingers crossed. Some people are clearly in the wrong job. What a b*tch. I seriously hope things improve for you. She sounds like a monster - it's just not right! xxxx

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Mar 4th, 2010, 09:32 AM	#9
LesleyP Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Derby, UK Posts: 2,491	Your midwife sounds like a complete cow!! I didn't have the screening test either but if my midwife said that to me I probably would have slapped her!! I'd bloody well report her for saying that Also, I'm not immune to rubella either - my midwife just told me to be careful who I get into contact with until I have the jab.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 09:52 AM	#10
funkyfish586 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,315	thanks all, so its more common than i thought. Of all the people you would expect to be understanding about downs syndrome it would be a midwife. I instantly said no to the tests as i just dont want to know & it annoys me how she was. Shes quite old & strict i would be so upset if she as on during my labour lol x

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