i know this might sound strange but i havent told my mom and dad that i'm pregnant yet i feel really bad about it and it's weighing on my mind a lot! i've fell out with my mom over OH about a yr ago and my dad i havent spoke to since xmas for no paticular reason, i feel like i've left it too long and havent got a clue on how to go about telling them it's stupid i know i need to do it sooner rather than later, any thoughts?
mmm I don't know its a tricky one. I think that the best thing is just come out with it - I don't get on with my step mum and we hadn't spoken for over 9 months - I rang her, told her and that was that.
Omg i waited til about 10 weeks and felt so bad maybe you should tell them, i doubt they'll be angry with you.. I reckon they'd be more happy.. Good luck tho hun
i doubt it very much, my mom really hates OH if i was having a girl i was planning to tell her the day i found out because she's always going on it takes a real man to make a girl and he's never going to give you one!! so i think it'd give her another reason to have a dig coz i'm having another boy (which i'm happy about btw) and my dad is getting re-married in june so he's already got something to b excited about, i dont know maybe i'm just being silly and trying to put it off but i can def see trouble on the horizon
Well, I would just say it. But, if you are worried or don't want to hear their reaction...mail them a card announcing it now...like, you are going to be a grandma type thing. Whether they like it or not, you are having a baby, but they should be respectful towards you, and if they are not, end the conversation and say that you will talk to them when they can be pleasant and respectful.
Ok so your mum doesn't like your oh - well at the end of the day you do and thats the most important thing isn't it. From your profile picture I can see you have two other children so im guessing you have been down this road with her before ? The longer you leave it the harder its going to be, I would get it over with when you are emotionally in a place where you can cope with any problems afterwards.
I know how hard families can be - I hope you can sort it out x
Depends if you think whether your Mum should be priveledged to know, after being so mean to you about your OH???
Or whether she would be bothered knowing or not knowing? Ie- does she have much regard for your other children???
If she is a doting Grandma then I would try and tell her straight away and tell her you left it this long as you didnt want to get upset with any arguments about OH before this point now you are approaching viability.
If your Dad has a mobile, I would text him, and see if you get a reply...and your excuse could always be that you thought he was busy with the wedding and everything.
If he doesn't have a moby then I would just drop him a line or pop by, just as a no big deal announcement.
Either way, they will start to notice soon, if not already if you bump into them.
i think you guys are right, i've just got to bite the bullet and get it over with, so hard and not looking forward to it but do i just jump straight in there and it be the first thing i say or do i start talking again and then tell her? as i'm writing this i've just decided to tell straight away like ripping off a plaster lol x thanks for the advise girls, it's good to see it from anothers perspective
the way i see it is that if its causing you stress and worry then you have to tell them and get it out in the open. you have to think about yourself and the baby at a time like this. like others said, they are going to find out soon enough so no point putting it off!
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