Am I being a b*tch? Rant about OH's family and baby names...
Okay - my OH and I have decided on names for our baby. My OH's sister is expecting 5 weeks after me.
Isabelle Sophia for a girl and Pierce Sullivan for a boy. Well, his other sister asked what the names are going to be on my Facebook page and my OH answered. She writes back regarding his sister "She already has the name "Sophia" as she tried to get me to use it with my daughter years ago. Not "What a nice name" or "wow...she likes that name too." I am upset just because she could have said something nice instead of "She has that name!" and my OH thinks I am being ridiculous and somehow says "She didn't mean it that way!" What way did she mean it?
She got pregnant 5 weeks after me and since then, you wouldn't know I was pregnant not that I want anything but I am tired of hearing about her all the time when no one bothers to ask how I am doing or even consider anyone but her. Anytime we are around his family it is "oh her aching feet" or "poor her - she has a backache" or "Poor thing she is so sick" and it just gets really old. I don't complain about being pregnant - I love it sickness and all - and this kind of nonsense gets annoying.
I might be being a bitch and I might just be hormonal but I had to rant and ask how you would feel.
LOL luv - not at all. I totally get where you're coming from. My OH's sister is due 6 days before me - so going throught the same. So as a result, can't really offer any advice, can just sympathise with you!! xx
hi, im poppin in from first tri. my oh's sister is 4-5 weeks ahead of me but all i can understand what your going through with his family being like that as i have the same issue. it annoys me as im the one who has lost one of my babies (was having twins but stress of oh's brother in-law caused m/c. also nobody in his family have asked how were coping with our loss) i just feel like saying when my baby is born keep the heck away! x
My sister is three weeks behind me and when she asked me what names I had I said I liked Ethan for a boy. She just went we've got that as well - so you better hope you go before me or it will look like you copied off me!!!
Luckily she is having a girl - but she said she didn't care if I had the baby first and people said she copied the name because she liked it!!
She probably didnt mean it that way unless you two have had trouble in the past..i do get were your coming from tho.. And i would expect her to get more attention than you because they are her family.. I would expect MY family to give me more attention than i'd expect my brothers OH to get if she was pregnant.. im sure your family would give you more attention that your brothers girlfriend if she was pregnant.. I wouldnt take it to heart.. Just talk to them and tell them it bothers you. X
Thanks ladies...I appreciate all of your insight. I am much calmer now, it just got me this morning and had my all worked up.
As far as his family paying more attention to her pregnancy - I could care less until you make it a point to be kind of rude when it comes to my pregnancy and the baby. I always make it a point to ask about and include her in conversations, so it seems like the courtesy would be to do the same thing but everyone is different I guess. I think the minimum should be to show a little excitement when you ask a question and we answer? Maybe not... My family and I make it a point to include everyone the same and not make someone feel "left out."
As long as this doesn't extend to the children, I will be very happy. If her child is treated different than my child, we will have issues! There go my hormones again!
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