Iv posted the basics before but for those who havnt seen..
been with fob for 5 yrs..wev always had the kind of relationship where he doesnt chat to other girls and i dont chat to other boys..wev always been happy with it being like that.it was hes idea kinda thing and iv had no problem with it..
anyway lately hes been saying he feels trapped and like he has no freedom etc etc he wants to chat to other girls and live hes life..even tho hes still with me..
i didnt know what to say..i dont mind him chattin to other girls but he doesnt know any old ones so its not like they are friends or anything..its only gunna be girls that he meets on the street etc which yeah im kind of weary about..
he started a new job in central london and i said please dont go chattin up all the girls now and taking thier numbers at work coz you are there 10 hours a day and its only gunna make me worry..(im quite insecure i know) ..anyway he said i promise i wont and i wont do nothing to hurt you..i smiled and believed him..since starting the job hes phone is never anywhere out to be seen..he charges it over night ,and when he stays at my house he use to charge it right beside our bed now he moves it to the other side of the room and says i put it there so when my alarm goes out i get out of bed insted of rollin over..he hasnt exactly been acting weird but iv been suspecting something but didnt wanna accuse him coz i got no evidence except my gut feeling..
anyway i know its sly of me but today i got a new sim and credit and texted him saying..
Me:Hiyaa you ok?
Him:Yeh just shatterd!
Me:are ya?why dont you lie down in the sunshine
Him:I wish i could b (meaning babe!)
Me:i said why cant you what you up to?
Him:working lol when you in?(I thought he hadnt took any girls numbers from work!!)
Me:Claire..you dont know me but i got your number from one of your mates
Me:i cant say coz i dont wanna get your mate in trouble but have you got a girl?
Him:answer my Q then il answer yours :P im a man with maners so ladies 1st
Me:have you got a girl?im lady with manners and if you have i shouldnt be texting you..
No reply...(obv hes thinkin what to say)
Me:so im taking it you got a girl then?if you have just say and il leave you alone
HIm:No i dont!who gave you my number i wont say
Me:if you wanna meet me i can explain i dont wanna do it threw texts
Me:meet me and il tell you everything
Him:i aint doing nothing until you tell me who gave it
Me:dont worry then.im not doing it over texts
HIm:alright call me when i prank call you
Me:i cant im in class.il ring later (Coz obv i cant cal)
Him:how old are you?
Him:20,what class you in?
Me:Media,so are we meeting
Me:where and what time?
and thats it so far..i know it was sly of me and i know i shouldnt of done it but i couldnt help myself i guess i just wanted to see i do have a girlfriend stop texting me kind of reply i know he hasnt cheated but he makes out he doesnt chat to girls full stop and its like hello?if i got 1 boys number he said he would walk and he actually would!
i duno if you guys can even give me any advice but what should i do?should i carry on?leave it now or tell him tonight that it was me?x
first you are right, you shouldn't have done it but i can see why you dont trust him. I need to know, are you going to meet up with him and let him see that you are the strange women he isnt going out with or tell him? I can't give you any advice chick apart from, he sounds like a player.
Lol I can't believe you did that. So naughtly smh, anyway seems like he's wanting an open relationship. You need to both sit down and have a heart to heart about what you both really want out of this relationship.
i do wanna see how far hes willing to go but i obv cant ever ring him coz itl be my voice ad il never be able to meet him so threw texts what more can he say realy?hes willing to meet her its like what the helll..is he only going to find out who she is or is it because hes actually interested??
i havnt got the guts to say yeh meet me at 7 for example and let him come with me standing there..
if i tell him its me then hes guna go so crazy saying im sly and all sorts and will probly leave me..and as much as he might be in the wrong i really really dont wanna loose him
hmmmm its him replying saying "wen u in" to me that sounds like hes meeting someone, might be wrong tho (pregnant hormones and being para lol). If i was doing this id probs carry on see how much he says, but be careful hun try not to get stressed out its not good for you and baby xxx
when you in?
sorry i didnt explain proply..basically hes at work so obv he is waiting for a certain someone to come in and thought i was that girl so hes like when you in?he probly hasnt saved her number so if i did go down hes phone book i wouldnt suspect anything..x
Ok, I am going to be honest - I am sat at my desk with my jaw on the floor!!! I know all about being insecure but I have never gone out and bought a sim card!
Me and FOB split up. He was acting strange and always had his phone on silent towards the end which made me paranoid. If he ever touched his phone I was grilling him about who it was etc...it did us no favours...none whatsoever! It turned out, I didn't need to worry about girls....but his friends. They were texting him abuse as he wasn't going out as much and basically making him choose between me or them in the end....he chose them!
I have been with a few Sh*ts and you learn to give new guys the benefit of the doubt and you also learn to trust your instinct. Now, if I get a gut feeling they cannot be trusted I am usually right and get out.
The fact you have gone to these lengths is telling me you do not trust this man. It's not your fault. You have both made a "rule" about no one from the opposite sex (which in my experience is never the basis for a healthy relationship - I have been there and when I was single and made guy mates I felt like I had to give them up to have a boyfriend...the older and wiser I have got the more I realise I can have mates of both sex and will never drop any male friends I do have for a new man now) and now he has turned around and said he feels trapped and like he has no freedom - that would make anyone feel insecure let alone a pregnant woman!
You need to sit down with him and have a long chat (do not mention the sim card!!) and see how you feel then. From what you have said (and his txts to you today) you have some serious sorting out to do. I don't want to sit here and tell you to leave and say it's not worth your time - only you can decide that. I'm here to chat if you need to.
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