Me and my OH have been talking about how we want to bring Leni up, what we would like to do, and what we don't want to do. All of what we were talking about, Leni sleeping with us, breastfeeding on demand, baby wearing, BLW, being Led by Leni pointed us in the direction of Attachment Parenting (http://www.askdrsears.com/default.asp).
Just wondering if anyone is going to try AP, or if you have children you who you AP with, how has it worked out for you?
i never thought about it while pregnant with asher but learning how to be a new mum i ended up doing attachment parenting without knowing!
i breastfed for 14months and co-slept fully to 14months but then half co-slept and still do now. and my son was always in the sling/baby carrier while i was doing housework and when we went into town he slept in the buggy but he much prefered to be in the carrier while awake so he could look around. i didnt leave him once until he was 8months old when he then went to nursery 2mornings a week.
i have the closest bond with my son, and its about a year ago reading about attachment parenting and realising thats what i did! lol
this time i will do mostly the same, but less baby wearing, my plan is that when im playing with my son we can put the baby next to us in the bouncer, playgym or swing so hes involved in play and ive not just left him out and i still have quality time with my son.
i could of never left my son crying as a baby, and hes not faulted for it now, he is so confident, plays with other kids at the park and has great friends at nursery so hes not 'clingy' with me but we still have a very close bond, best of both worlds!!!
also the thought of putting a baby in his own room at 6months just seems so terrifying to me, i wouldnt of been able to sleep at all.
Sorry if i sound stupid but what exactly is it? I read the link but didnt really understand it...to me it just seems like the natural way that i would parent? I didnt really realise there was any other way to parent other than the ways explained in the article? x
I've just followed your link, and read all about it, and i was a mixture.
I dont agree that the 'cry it out' method is wrong as it states but in slightly older babies not newborns! and this is not a short term gain!!! in the beginning my baby boy was attached to me, and it was fantastic, but then came a time where he needed routine! especially at bedtime. this is something that i still do to this day and he is 6, so def not a short term solution. I dont think 1 method of parenting is any better than another - i personally think its a mix of everything thrown in with a little bit of trial and error. I will be nurturing by instinct, cause thats best for me.
Location: We are from the UK but live in Spain. Hope to move to Gibraltar soon!
I am a first time Mum and my own Mum lives in a different country and at the moment I dont know many Mums (hopefully I will meet some Mums to be at antenatal classes) so I am going to read lots of different books and opinions and see what works for us I have a feeling that I will be doing everything on demand for our baby though as Im sure I wont be able to leave him/her to cry.
I guess its whatever works for each Mum and her baby...
i don't intend to follow any routine, what baby wants baby gets, fed when hungry sleep when sleepy..etc. and i wont be spending any time away from baby for a long time.
however there are things i know i will do that dont fit in with the textbook definition of attatchment parenting.
like using a pram for example, i will use one, and while i plan to co sleep some of the time, i will also have a cot/moses basket.
I'm planning on attachment parenting - but I think it always comes down to you and your LO. Some babies love routines, some hate them. In my opinion, as long as we are responding to the needs of our little ones, whatever style that falls out as is fine. I think attachment parenting is particularly great for colicky babies. I also love their take on "discipline" as the child gets older - which is completely focused on maintaining the integrity of your relationship with your child.
My step kids were attachment parented by their mom and dad and they have grown into the sweetest, most secure people.
I also think this approach appeals to me because I'm training to be a mental health counselor and am very familiar with attachment issues.
All that said, we'll see what LO wants and needs and I'll do my best to accommodate!
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