Afraid of giving birth - Anyone else?

Cheryl xx · Sep 28th, 2010, 09:45 AM

I know you might all think i'm silly (i do to lol) but i'm really getting myself worked up about giving birth. I was put to sleep for an emergency c-section with Grace, so i don't know anything about giving birth. I'm frightened of the following;

The pain
Baby getting stuck
Being cut
Tearing
Not being able to cope
Not being able to physically do it
EVERYTHING!!!

Oh my god...HELP!!!

I bet you all think i'm mad, but i have a huge fobia of hospitals to start with and have panic attacks when i have to stay in one, i pass out if i have to have an injection. What am i going to do? xx

Lianne1986 · Sep 28th, 2010, 09:49 AM

hey hun, im scared too.

ur not silly at all

i have given birth once before, to my son who is nearly 6, he was born early and i really struggled with his whole birth. i have mentioned to my midwife my worries and nearer the time she is going to do a home visit & go over EVERYTHING with me, mayb urs could do the same?

sorry i havent been much help but didnt wanna r&r and wanted to let u know u wasnt alone or silly

Jojo-Mummy · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:24 AM

Im more embarrassing with people staring at my bits lol....

dax · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:39 AM

I highly recommend a book called "Taking the fear out of childbirth" by Grantly Dick read. Its a bit dated but well worth a read. He was an obstestrician and quite a pioneer for natural childbirth. After reading it I am really looking forward to our birth!

BubbaG · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:49 AM

I am so with you on this, I am so pettrified that I am actually dreaming about it! I am scared that my options will be limited, like if I am too far dilated for an epidurial etc... I could dry about it now. I am in my late 20's and feel like a child acting like this. I am 22 wks pregnant and don't know how I will cope for the following 18 wks.

alynn6758 · Sep 28th, 2010, 11:32 AM

Well this is my 3rd so I'm not really afraid anymore...I had epidurals with my first two, and I plan on having it again, it was a pleasant experience and I was able to enjoy my labors and births, and it was very wonderful...I was scared with my first but not so much with my 2nd or 3rd.

kazharry · Sep 28th, 2010, 11:35 AM

Jojo mummy once you are in labour believe me you will not care about anyone looking at your bits! It is scarey not knowing but once it's happening you just get on with it, you will be able to physically do it x

Cheryl xx · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:26 PM

Thanks ladies. Glad to know i'm not alone in thinking this. I just can't imagine myself being able to cope with it all. I'm so scared about every aspect of it and i keep thinking of all the things that could go wrong xx

dax - Where could i get a copy of that book? xx

GeorgeyGal · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:48 PM

I felt the same, a bit less anxious now as have spoken with a qualified hypnobirthing practitioner who has given birth this way 4 times and teaches classes which I have booked in for. I'm not expecting it to work miracles but to use the relaxation techniques to prepare my mind as I'm terrified of hospitals and tend to panic easily!

LyannaJodiw · Sep 28th, 2010, 13:09 PM

scared ... i am oh my having awful dreams and actually starting too worry more and more ... want a c section but my oh says no lloll x x x

Sep 28th, 2010, 09:45 AM	#1
Cheryl xx Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Lancashire Posts: 1,002	Afraid of giving birth - Anyone else? I know you might all think i'm silly (i do to lol) but i'm really getting myself worked up about giving birth. I was put to sleep for an emergency c-section with Grace, so i don't know anything about giving birth. I'm frightened of the following; The pain Baby getting stuck Being cut Tearing Not being able to cope Not being able to physically do it EVERYTHING!!! Oh my god...HELP!!! I bet you all think i'm mad, but i have a huge fobia of hospitals to start with and have panic attacks when i have to stay in one, i pass out if i have to have an injection. What am i going to do? xx

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Sep 28th, 2010, 09:49 AM	#2
Lianne1986 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Cambridgeshire Posts: 10,635	hey hun, im scared too. ur not silly at all i have given birth once before, to my son who is nearly 6, he was born early and i really struggled with his whole birth. i have mentioned to my midwife my worries and nearer the time she is going to do a home visit & go over EVERYTHING with me, mayb urs could do the same? sorry i havent been much help but didnt wanna r&r and wanted to let u know u wasnt alone or silly

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Sep 28th, 2010, 10:24 AM	#3
Jojo-Mummy Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Ammanford, South Wales Posts: 3,203	Im more embarrassing with people staring at my bits lol....

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Sep 28th, 2010, 10:39 AM	#4
dax Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: SW France Posts: 108	I highly recommend a book called "Taking the fear out of childbirth" by Grantly Dick read. Its a bit dated but well worth a read. He was an obstestrician and quite a pioneer for natural childbirth. After reading it I am really looking forward to our birth!

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Sep 28th, 2010, 10:49 AM	#5
BubbaG Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: North West Posts: 877	I am so with you on this, I am so pettrified that I am actually dreaming about it! I am scared that my options will be limited, like if I am too far dilated for an epidurial etc... I could dry about it now. I am in my late 20's and feel like a child acting like this. I am 22 wks pregnant and don't know how I will cope for the following 18 wks.

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Sep 28th, 2010, 11:32 AM	#6
alynn6758 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 3,235	Well this is my 3rd so I'm not really afraid anymore...I had epidurals with my first two, and I plan on having it again, it was a pleasant experience and I was able to enjoy my labors and births, and it was very wonderful...I was scared with my first but not so much with my 2nd or 3rd.

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Sep 28th, 2010, 11:35 AM	#7
kazharry Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 496	Jojo mummy once you are in labour believe me you will not care about anyone looking at your bits! It is scarey not knowing but once it's happening you just get on with it, you will be able to physically do it x

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Sep 28th, 2010, 12:26 PM	#8
Cheryl xx Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Lancashire Posts: 1,002	Thanks ladies. Glad to know i'm not alone in thinking this. I just can't imagine myself being able to cope with it all. I'm so scared about every aspect of it and i keep thinking of all the things that could go wrong xx dax - Where could i get a copy of that book? xx

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Sep 28th, 2010, 12:48 PM	#9
GeorgeyGal Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Essex - UK Posts: 1,338	I felt the same, a bit less anxious now as have spoken with a qualified hypnobirthing practitioner who has given birth this way 4 times and teaches classes which I have booked in for. I'm not expecting it to work miracles but to use the relaxation techniques to prepare my mind as I'm terrified of hospitals and tend to panic easily!

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Sep 28th, 2010, 13:09 PM	#10
LyannaJodiw Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Dunstable Posts: 192	scared ... i am oh my having awful dreams and actually starting too worry more and more ... want a c section but my oh says no lloll x x x

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