Support from your OH

3011busyyear · Oct 5th, 2010, 10:42 AM

following on from my pity post this afternoon, I've just got back from my mock driving test, which was probably the worst driving I have done so far, but actually on the whole I'm feeling ok about it, I know where I went wrong and how to fix it etc.
when I got back hubby wanted to see the test sheet and I really didn't want to show him. He went grouchy saying I should trust him, but it's not that. I just feel like it would be out of context and actually make me look worse than I am.
Sorry this isn't as off topic as it sounds, it has just made me wonder about the support I have been getting during the pregnancy and will get at the birth. Hubby tries to support me, but often it's not the type of support I need. Like right now I need a big hug, him to run me a bath and wrap up in my pj's. He wants to support me by going through the test sheet and just carrying on with cooking and going to the shops.

does this make sense, do you get the right kind of support from your OH's?

Mummy to be x · Oct 5th, 2010, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by 3011busyyear

following on from my pity post this afternoon, I've just got back from my mock driving test, which was probably the worst driving I have done so far, but actually on the whole I'm feeling ok about it, I know where I went wrong and how to fix it etc.
when I got back hubby wanted to see the test sheet and I really didn't want to show him. He went grouchy saying I should trust him, but it's not that. I just feel like it would be out of context and actually make me look worse than I am.
Sorry this isn't as off topic as it sounds, it has just made me wonder about the support I have been getting during the pregnancy and will get at the birth. Hubby tries to support me, but often it's not the type of support I need. Like right now I need a big hug, him to run me a bath and wrap up in my pj's. He wants to support me by going through the test sheet and just carrying on with cooking and going to the shops.

does this make sense, do you get the right kind of support from your OH's?

aww hun. Men are abit useless at times it has to be said lol, tell him you need looking after more

My OH is in afghan for 6 months he will be back in 8 weeks so the support is kinda strange at the moment, he always asks how baby is etc but i never get the cuddles on an evening, baths run for me etc but i would just tell your hubby to be a bit more caring towards you

you are pregnant with his baby after all

xx

Lamsbump · Oct 5th, 2010, 10:53 AM

maybe explain the kinda support that you are looking for to him.

ellieb31 · Oct 5th, 2010, 11:02 AM

The only solution is to talk to him - it sounds as though he wants to support you which is a great start! He's just not doing it quite how you want but he won't know that he's got it wrong unless you have a chat.

Good luck with your driving test!

meg79 · Oct 5th, 2010, 11:11 AM

Men are practical souls, hence him wanting to go over the test with you and cooking etc. He will be convinced this is what you want. You need to tell him exactly what you want otherwise he won't have a clue! Just tell him how appreciative you are helping you, but THIS is what you want....

3011busyyear · Oct 5th, 2010, 11:28 AM

Awe thanks ladies, just had a bit of a hormonal moment there I think, he actually just made me a cup of tea and asked if I wanted a bath, so looks like spoke to soon!! It's probably so he can have more time on the xbox whilst I'm in the bath but it's a start!

mazee71 · Oct 5th, 2010, 11:58 AM

It sounds like he's a bit like mine, if I come to him just needing to rant about something he automatically tries to fix things for me - I just need him to listen. It's all part of there I am Man big protector type thing, which is lovely but sometimes not what you need.

Oct 5th, 2010, 10:42 AM	#1
3011busyyear Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: North England Posts: 2,320	Support from your OH following on from my pity post this afternoon, I've just got back from my mock driving test, which was probably the worst driving I have done so far, but actually on the whole I'm feeling ok about it, I know where I went wrong and how to fix it etc. when I got back hubby wanted to see the test sheet and I really didn't want to show him. He went grouchy saying I should trust him, but it's not that. I just feel like it would be out of context and actually make me look worse than I am. Sorry this isn't as off topic as it sounds, it has just made me wonder about the support I have been getting during the pregnancy and will get at the birth. Hubby tries to support me, but often it's not the type of support I need. Like right now I need a big hug, him to run me a bath and wrap up in my pj's. He wants to support me by going through the test sheet and just carrying on with cooking and going to the shops. does this make sense, do you get the right kind of support from your OH's?

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Oct 5th, 2010, 10:53 AM	#3
Lamsbump Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Aberdeenshire Posts: 1,152	maybe explain the kinda support that you are looking for to him.

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ellieb31 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Southampton, UK Posts: 2,030	The only solution is to talk to him - it sounds as though he wants to support you which is a great start! He's just not doing it quite how you want but he won't know that he's got it wrong unless you have a chat. Good luck with your driving test!

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meg79 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 1,363	Men are practical souls, hence him wanting to go over the test with you and cooking etc. He will be convinced this is what you want. You need to tell him exactly what you want otherwise he won't have a clue! Just tell him how appreciative you are helping you, but THIS is what you want....

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Oct 5th, 2010, 11:28 AM	#6
3011busyyear Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: North England Posts: 2,320	Awe thanks ladies, just had a bit of a hormonal moment there I think, he actually just made me a cup of tea and asked if I wanted a bath, so looks like spoke to soon!! It's probably so he can have more time on the xbox whilst I'm in the bath but it's a start!

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mazee71 Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 1,109	It sounds like he's a bit like mine, if I come to him just needing to rant about something he automatically tries to fix things for me - I just need him to listen. It's all part of there I am Man big protector type thing, which is lovely but sometimes not what you need.

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