arrrgghhh is anyone else having a nightmare with their OH where names are concerned??
we have totally different tastes and occasionally he says something is ok, so i start to get used to it and then when i mention it again hes changed his mind and says he hates it and we cant have it.
im spiritual so names like that are really important to me, and i feel if i cant have something along those lines its like compromising who i am as i always thought my kids would have spiritual names. ive dumped some ideas and tried to come up with some more run of the mill names, but still keeping them quite unusual, and yet he finds something wrong with everything.
i already gave up a girls name i loved and had my heart set on because he hated it, but i feel like theres no compromise. we now know we are on team but i dont see how we are ever gonna agree on anything, i just feel like sitting and crying over it.
my friends say as im the one having the baby i should get to choose what i want, but id feel selfish doing that. however i have to say most women i know have chosen the name. do u think its acceptable to do that or should the OH have a large say, even if u hate the names he likes?
i have to add that we werent a couple when i conceived so i had names in mind that i now cant use, its so frustrating
my OH is the same, all the names I love he hated he has now agreed on Travis for a boys name which I love, but we're just arguing on girls names now as we don't know what we are having, all the girls names I absolutely love he doesn't like
What grinds my gears about comprimising on baby names is that best part of the time it's the woman that's come up with ALL the suggestions, and they dismiss them like gone off cabbage lol (random comparison but it does annoy me). We've decided on a name for our girl but it took a while. Middle name is now the issue :/ until he brings something to the table I may very well have my own way lol
Will he make a list of names he likes? Me & my OH have both made a list of names we like and the name we've choosen (Sophie) was both in our list of names, but we're both keeping the lists incase she doesn't look like a Sophie when she's born
Oh I know exactly what you mean....... My other half has been going on about how much he likes the name Alana for ages, so I decided that I would compromise and try Alani, which I think is quite sweet. But now he has decided that he doesn't like Alani and doesn't like Alana either (just as I had started to like it!!!) arghhhhhhhhhhhh xx
We agreed that I had first name for girl and middle name for boy and he had first name for a boy, middle for girl. But thats just what worked for us and when he turned up it was something completely different anyway!
I believe the man should have some input in the name, but if he doesn't like anything at all, its really difficult to work with...I really feel like alot of men dismiss every name you like, and its weird because it seems more important to us than it does to them. I don't see them looking through baby name books all day, or looking them up online...they just get to say yes or no and not put in any effort? I think not. With girls names, my DH has pretty much given me free reign, but with boy names he wants some input, so I went through all boy names I like, and asked him to go through them, and select a few that he would be ok with and the ones he really liked. So we came down to two, and I picked out of the two we both liked. He was fine with that.
Tink, I understand how hard it can be sometimes to agree on a name! My ex-husband and I had 2 children together, and he basically vetoed every name I suggested. And the names he suggested were ludicrous - like movie characters and other nonsense! Our second son didn't even have a name until he was born. Interestingly enough, we ended up naming him a name that we had considered then dropped. But at the end we decided we loved it! So just hang in there, and maybe something like that will happen in your case too. A name lasts a lifetime, so I suppose it makes sense that it isn't always a quick decision. xx
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