My Mum always talked about a moment in her life she called her "sliding door moment." It was basically the night she decided to meet my Dad and not another man. It was the point in which the rest of her life was kinda defined as they married and had my brother and I. I never really thought I have had one of them until today. One of my ex's added me on facebook and it just clicked. I had a sliding doors moment!
When I was 17 I was dating Stephen (the ex) for about 3 years and for our anniversary we went to Barcelona for the weekend. We were quite an on/off couple. We would have these massive rows, not talk to each other for a day and then be back together the next. So typically on our last night we got into a massive row. We had spent the day sight seeing, mainly things I wanted to see and when we got back to the hotel room Stephen just wanted to order room service while I wanted to go to this resturant I had seen on our first night. A massive row happened and I ended up storming out saying something about how I was going out without him then. I went downstairs to the lobby and sat down at the bar. I ordered a drink and finished it completely in my own world when the bartender gave me another one saying it was from the man across the bar. Turns out to be Nick, my now husband. We ended up talking and he got me out of my horrible mood and in the end we went out for dinner. I was hungry and Stephen obviously didn't care. We swapped numbers that night and when I came in Stephen was asleep. Stephen tried to make it up to me the following morning by taking me out for breakfast but something had just clicked when I met Nick and I realised just how wrong Stephen and I's relationship was. So if I just didn't decide to go downstairs and sit in the bar alone, something I wouldn't have done normally, then I would never had met Nick and the next day Stephen and I would have made up and I would never of know what it would have been like being with a lovely guy. Strange how life works out.
Stephen now (well what I got from his facebook) is single but seeing this girl. Working in a shop and still living with his parents! I am pregnant with my first, married and got a good job! How strange is life?
So have you ever had a sliding door moment? Do share, I am quite interested now I have mine
I was about to start dating at the time a close male friend of mine, we were just seeing each other but he'd told me he loved me etc by then. I was going out to a work party with work mates and when I got there, my work college (now financee!) who I was quite flirty with anyway was chatting away to me. We had had a few drinks and went to get some cigarettes (bad habit I know!) and he just pulled his arms around me, going on about how cute and lovely I was etc.
And I just turned round and kissed him, and since then the rest has been history! We're getting married in 2 years.
It makes me wonder though if I hadn't of gone to the work party where would I of ended up by now, because I'd never of had the confidence otherwise! But so glad I did go!
My ex - an abusive alcaholic arsewipe - demanded I drive out on a sunday night to another city - well he lied ( he did a lot of that ) and said he had been mugged and had no money to get back ( he hadn't ). Anyway - while out he had randomly bumped in to a friend he hadn't seen for 10 yrs who was with him and came back with us. I ended up getting out of the awful abusive relationship and in to a relationship with the friend - he is wonderful, supportive, my best friend and we're rediculously happy together 7 yrs later living in a cute cottage and expecting our first baby If I hadn't driven out on that night I wouldn't have met my OH....
Equally - my dad's mum comes from Latvia - she was in a camp in Germany during the war - after which she was offered the chance to come to the UK as they needed workers - her friends wrote to her saying to come back but her mum said she was better off here - if she had gone back my dad wouldn't have been born. Also - my mum was working in a hospital when she was run over and nearly killed - after that - due to the accident she went to work in the dental training school where she met my dad - so if it hadn't been for the war and a car accident I wouldn't be here!!
My husband and I met online so at any point if we had truly given up on each other (we tried!) I wouldn't be here in another country, pregnant with his child as happy as can be!
Equally, my dad tried to bribe me with the offer of supporting me through going to university if I chose not to move to the UK and marry him. It was a tempting offer as we could have tried to make our relationship work long distance for a little longer and ended up with everything. But I don't think we would have made it. Its tough, that intercontinental relationship thing!!!
This makes me think of how I met my husband!
It was xmas eve and I was not in the mood to go out partying! My friend (Who is no longer a friend! Another story!) convinced me to go out, My now husband stood on her foot and offered to buy drinks to say sorry.
Well we started talking and discovered we actually lived across the road from each other!! I was still living with my parents, he had moved back to his mums after splitting with his ex and had been there 3 months!
We had never met or seen each other once in that 3 months and if I had not been convinced by that friend to go out that night, chances are we would never have met!
We've now been married over a year and expecting our first little one!!
Love these stories ladies :-) Makes me a bit emotional!
Before I starting seeing my now husband, I was going out with another lad who was a mutual friend. He was piddling me about though and now when I look back I see he wasn't serious about me at all.
Anyway, hubby went on hols to america and boyf went on hols to Ibiza. They were both due home on the same day and I got texts from both asking me to meet up with them when they got home.
I realised how deeply I had missed my now husband (although we were just friends at this point) and how I hadn't missed my boyf at all!!!
I replied to DH saying I'd missed him and would love to meet up once he got home and the next thing I know there's a knock at the door - he'd driven straight from the airport to mine (about 60 miles out of his way) and the rest is history!!
Found out since that then boyf had 'enjoyed' himself with several female holiday makers whilst in Ibiza!
That was when DH was 17 and I was 19; 11 years later we couldn't be happier. He's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without him.
I often cringe now when I think of my old boyf and what might have been - nice bloke and everything but not a scratch on my hubby! xxxx
I was living with my ex of 5 years. We had been on a downward sprial for about a year but were both holidng on, too scared to let go even though we no longer loved one another. Anyway, we decided to end the relationship but I was still living with him as I was at uni and had no where else to go. We went out 1 night as friends and ended up bumping into a guy he had went to school with. It was a totally random meeting but we all decided to head to a nightclub together, somewhere we never went!
His old school friend asked me for my number. He was a bit cheeky as he didnt really know the situation with me and my ex and we could have still been dating! I gave him my number and now we are living together and expecting our 1st baby and I love him soooo much and couldnt be happier!
I often wonder what would have happened if I hadnt gone out with my ex that night. Would we have tried to work things out (it was a loveless relationship and he was bordering on being an alcoholic) and id have never met my OH? Fate is magic!!
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