I thought Id start a offical thread for all military wives/gfs/partners.
It can be hard with hubbys away on excercise/tours so would love to hear from other military ohs in same position.
I am due in Jan and husband is on tour of duty at present until April:-/ its still in balance whether he will make it home for babys birth
Just thought I'd make this thread as a place for all military ohs to have a natter/moan etc and get any hints or tips on coping while hubby is away x
What a fab idea!!
My Hubby is away on tour also and is back in december before birth but he has been away through the whole pregnancy so far, apart from coming home on r&r in september for 2 weeks. Great idea hun xxx
Hey hun, my hubby was away for my last pregnancy but he was given paternity leave for around my due date - they have to give him this by law. Is there any reason you don't know if he will be home or is it simply timing the birth with that leave? We have many friends who have just started tours this past few weeks, hopefully it will be a quiet winter one for them xxx
Hmmm well army have told us that basically he had to book his rnr for expected due date and that was all he could do! They weren't very reassuring and I ended up moving out of quarter and back to my parents for the tour, which has been a great relief as I am so much more chilled and feel more supported here in circumstances. The army have said he will not be able to take paternity leave until after the tour and when i rang welfare and explained that I was at high risk for pre eclampsia and would hubby be able to come home when I go in to labour to be able to look after my other daughter, he said it doesnt work like that anymore. He has to book his r n r around birth and basically tough luck if I don't go in that time , the only way he may be considered coming home is if I have emergency c section or if I am hospitalised like last pregnancy. Welfare didnt want to discuss the "what ifs" to reassure me though, they just said lets stay positive! I would have prefered to know what would happen just so I was forearmed. They left me with no real option to move back home to my parents as I feel no support or listening was offered, it was basically my hard luck! However welfare called me up when i was back home and said " You know we would have supported you and looked after you if you stayed here" thats easy for them to say once I have signed quarter over and basically not their problem anymore! I don't believe they would have supported me as I know the regiment my husband is at at the moment is basically the most unsupportive of families I have ever come across!
However I am totally fine at present despite him being away as have great support from family and friends and baby is keeping me focused on counting down the weeks
It is in balance whether he will get home because already signs of blood pressure problems are starting, so I think will go same way as first pregnancy and I will have to be delivered early BUT there is always the hope that baby will come during r n r!!!
where are all you girls based? xxx
My godness that is just discusting! I find that awful I hope he manages to make the birth I guess im really lucky that my hubby is back for the birth!
We are at the moment based in Gloucestshire. you hun ?
Ok, in that case you need to call 01722 436569. This is the hq for aws, they were amazing with me when i lost our baby at 16wks whilst hubby was away on tour. The reg was being shite and refusing to help so i called them, laid it on thick and they pulled out all the stops to help me. Defo the way forward, don't give up sweetie, if the army can screw you over they will xx
armywife-thanks for that advice,thats great!I'm not going to start being being awkward or pushing anything until nearer time and if they try and start being pains! I am hoping that when it comes to crunch they will cooperate but I am deffo storing that number for if I get any trouble! what do you think about paternal leave? I do feel a bit rude pushing for it during tour to be honest, despite the fact I think they should be entitled to it,I know we were trying for a baby knowing that he would be going on tour so kinda feel like I've made my bed a bit! But when you have been trying for 18 mths with no joy you dont want to put everything on hold cos of a tour!
brittany-I have so much respect for you us wives,I know you guys can do up to 18 months apart! I really hope your hubby makes it back in time, I'm hoping this trhead will offer some support for us ladies all in same boat x
Mummytobe- at moment hubby is attached to 2para for this tour, he is a military nurse but on a fob at present so not much contact! Our next posting will *fingers crossed* be Catterick as we really want to go abck there and are due posting soon after the tour!At present i am staying with family back home xx
I'm an Army Wife! (U.S. .. stationed in Germany!).. DH will be here when baby is born.. I'm hoping (knock on wood) he won't deploy at all while we're here.. we shall see. We spent the first half of our marriage apart due to deployment.. So I'm hoping I won't have to deal with being apart during another important time..
To all of you.. As we like to say.. It takes a special type of female to be an Army Wife.. we've all got thick skin
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