So i saw the Obstrician yesterday, and we talked about my past history of depression. I told her i had been having those feelings again, but didn't know if it was the depression or the hormones. I said maybe i did need some help, and now i'm being refered to a CPN. I have no idea what happens or what they do. What if they think i'm crazy and won't be able to look after my own child? I told her this infront of my OH so i hope he can support me and doesn't think i'm some nut job. I have been feeling pretty crappy through all of my pregnancy, but i also have hyperemesis which hasn't helped. I do get some good days but not many..
Aww hun i know how you feel, ive suffered from depression since 2001 and i was only 18 at the time.
Ive never been right since and i dont think i ever will be but ive learned to deal with it but this pregnancy had brought alot of emotions back and my doctor wants to put me back on prozac but i dont want to go back down that road with medication especially while im carrying my child.
They wont think your a nut job they just want to support you, with my last pregnancy i thought the same and kept quiet about it but when i finally did spill how i was feeling to the doctor she just laughed and said no one is going to take your child away.
My partner doesnt understand depression and thinks its an attention thing so i dont have anyone to talk to about it.
Anyway hope your ok x
Sweetheart, first and foremost, don't worry about them thinking you'll be a bad mum because of being a victim of depression - that worry alone can make it all ten times worse. I'm sure you know in your heart of hearts (and when you're having better days in particular) that you have to be a truly awful person and to have done awful things before they'll even consider taking action against you, (and even then, look at how many children the system has failed because they didn't when they should've).
I suppose you could say I've been a nutjob in the past lol, I know that's how other people see it but I am strong enough now to say that I had an illness, nothing more nothing less. I too am struggling with emotions now I'm pregnant again, but I remind myself that the hormones DO make a big difference to how we see things (in many ways depression is like a massive hormone imbalance, except we have the reassurance of knowing that pregnancy hormones last for a matter of months, then they go again - that's how I keep a firm hold of the light at the end of the tunnel).
Bear in mind it is common; that's not to belittle it, far from it, I think it's such a shame that people have to hide it out of embarrassment or fear that they'll be deemed unfit for whatever their life roles are.
I suspect that there is a large proportion of women on B&B who, like me, stay sane by sharing anything and everything with their new virtual-friends but who are importantly also virtual strangers. I hope I've reassured you just a bit that you aren't alone hunny and that there will be many many more feeling as you do but without the courage to discuss it.
i'm in the same boat, i've been reffered and have my first appointment on tueday,its scary but i'd rather get help now than still need it when bubba is here. don't worry hun, if you need to talk i'm here, we can go thru it together! lol xxxx
Asking for help takes alot of strenght, especially when it is around mental health issues. I don't know what they will do as I have not suffered myself (I know its different but my brother has had severe depression so I know the stigma that is wrongly attached to people with mental health issues). I am sure that they will have help and support for you as I am sure there are many many women who are in the same position (and sadly many who will be too scared to ask for help and suffer in silence). Hope the appointment goes well x
I had my first appointment last week. The woman was really nice. I just went through all what i was feeling etc, then she went on to explain my options and what i thought was best for me. I have suffered from depression on and off since i was 18 and things have been awful since i lost Charlie in December.
Anyhow.. she passed on my details to their specialist doctor and he recommended i start a low dose anti depressant and have regular sessions to discuss what is happening.
I wasn't crazy about the idea at first... but i need to be well, for my baby and for my other kids.
Glad you went to see someone. Hope things will seem better soon - pregnancy doesn't help depression because it is a roller coaster of emotions even for those who have never been depressed so its hard to know what is going on.
I have been depressed on and off since I was 16 years old (nearly half my life) and was diagnosed with bipolar last year. Have been off meds since I fell pregnant but my emotions are very up and down with the pregnancy. They told me when I was 24 that my chance of PND based on my history is 95% but I never had it when I had my first daughter and I am hoping to get away without it this time too.
In the end though what matters is can you take care of your family and your unborn child and whatever is the best way of doing that is best for you. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.
Firstly no one will think your crazy!! So please get that thought out of your head. Also its good that you decided to admit tht your feeling this way cuz this is a step towards helping you overcome this.
These people are proffessionals . They are trained to help you deal with whatever it is that is making you feel this way so please relax and let them help.
No one is going to take your baby away, please dont think like that.
I wish you all the love and success and hope that with the help of everyone you can start to think positive again . much love my dear xx
I am going through the same thing hun. I was depressed until about a year ago and since being in my second tri all those feelings flooded back. I first went to my GP who has signed me off work and referred me for therapy. I had my first therapy session last week and she was lovely. they are only there to help, not judge or take your baby away. the first step is to admit it (you've done the hard bit) and now hope the help works. You just have to do what is right for you!
I have been suffering with depression for nearly 10 years. I was referred to a CPN early on as I had to come of the anti-depressants that they had only just put me on. I have since been referred on, and now see a lovely lady for CBT's (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). They give you time to talk about how you are feeling, and then help come up with action plans to help you deal with it and get thru it. I have found it so helpful.
Don't worry, no-one will be looking to take your baby from you. They will just look to help and support you deal with this.
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