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Old Nov 14th, 2010, 10:58 AM   1
rockabillymom
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Stress/ Vent


So I dont vent very often but my mom is driving me nutso! I work 30 hours a week and go to school 30-40 hours a week with one day off. Im graduating in January and have three HUGE projects all due in the next couple weeks. So needless to say i'm stressing pretty bad. Plus we've had some money issues lately with both of our cars breaking down and having to go get a new one. (fixing them would have cost more then buying one). My mom likes to one minute be very supportive and open then the next minute tell me she wants nothing to do with me.

7Am this morning I got a text from her telling me to come get my my things from her house (I live with my husband but I left a few small things there for storage and she is moving) She said if we did not get it this very night she was going to sell all of my things in a garage sale next weekend. No big deal my husband got it this morning. Then I get one telling me that she isnt going to come for thanksgiving and instead she is going to her friends house and if I want to join then I need to bring my own ham if not then good luck.

On top of all that my hubby borrowed 200 from her in which he promised to pay back (it was for the registration on our car). This paycheck he paid her 100$ because he had to make the car payment, electricity, and our phone payment, plus his mom who is in another state called and asked to borrow money (and she next asks). He promised my mom he would pay her the extra 100$ next paycheck since things are tight right now and we are trying our best to get back caught up. My mom responded by telling us how she cant afford to wait the extra two weeks and need the money now. i offered to give her 100$ in which I was using to pay for school so she declined.

The thing is my mom acts like she is extremly poor when she gets paid more than I do and only has to afford things for herself.... My husband and I both are paying off school bills plus have a ton of bills on our own we are catching up with. She tells us she has no money then tells us how she paid 100$ for concert tickets.. or bought a whole new outfit for herself....I cant even afford to get maternity clothes. Ive bought 2 pairs of jeans from goodwill and since then have had no extra money.

Maybe i'm the wrong one but sometimes its really frustrating when you have so much going on.



 
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Old Nov 14th, 2010, 11:12 AM   2
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Sorry you're having a hard time I guess there is a chance your Mum is stressing about moving and maybe not being as thoughtful as she should be but to be honest it sounds like she is just being unreasonable, families are supposed to help each other out.

Sounds like you have got a lot on your plate at the moment, no wonder you're feeling under pressure. Hopefully when your projects are all done you will get some time to chill out



 
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Old Nov 14th, 2010, 11:14 AM   3
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aw i'm sorry that your going through this. not totally sure of the situation; but if you rarely ask your mother for help and this was just one unexpected situation you needed help with then she shouldn't have offered to help and then held it against you. it seems you guys are really trying and a bunch of things just happened at once. i hope things start getting a bit easier for you and she lays off a bit. amazing job at working so many hours and doing school; i couldn't imagine. keep working hard. goodluck to you and hubby.



 
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Old Nov 14th, 2010, 11:17 AM   4
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Thank you : ) yeah it was a one time situation we really just needed the help. My hubby knows i have to much pride to ask for anything thats why he finally asked my mom. We needed a new car desperatly. I learned my lesson though we wont be asking her for help. She is the only family I have in this entire god forsaken state.



 
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