Am I the only one? I used to be so so chilled but since falling pregnant I can't stop worrying, like after having the flu jab I'm convinced I've inflicted autism on my baby, aswell as by eating tuna. When I sleep funny then kicks go quiet I think I've caused it, when I got a simple UTI I thought I was losing the baby - it's so ridiculous, the main one at the mo is the jab as I wanted preservative free and still don't think I got it and I know full well if it hadn't been for this site I would never have even known to ask for pres. free and wouldn't be stressing! I can't seem to go back to my normal laid back self and I hate it! I so want to enjoy this pregnancy but all I want is for my baby to get here, be healthy and normal and know that all my stressing was for nothing. If god forbid anything was wrong I know I'd never forgive myself and be blaming myself forever more.... sigh

Im the same, i think ive gone a bit crazy sometimes and although this site is so helpful and so many women are so kind i think you can obsess with the worrying stories and focus on the negatives too much.
i worried forever about the flu jab, however i do feel fine now regardless of what jab i was given. i think because i had a really touch and go first trimester i couldnt relax and that has carried on. Because i bled so heavily im forever checking the toilet paper! however i do have days where i do totally relax. But im the same, some days i feel a little flutter then if i dont feel anything for a day or so i panic a bit.
thing is its prob not good being a worrier and like you im so relaxed normally. i just try remind myself that we have come a long way so far, there is no point worrying about the jab as every day we prob touch or eat or come in contact with a million things that arent 100% safe and natural but we dont worry about those. most foods will have some kind of preservative in or colouring or sweetners, you cant avoid everything!
you did the right thing having the jab, you cant predict the future and you could have got flu and caused harm to the baby that way or yourself. or you might never have got it. there is nothing to say the jab isnt 100% safe, there is a lot of scaremongering.
not that i can talk but try to relax and enjoy the pregnancy i know im going to try to!
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I am the same and I was the same in my first pregnancy. I worried all the way through when I was pregnant with my daugther and the worrying didn't stop when she arrived either! I too worry like crazy about this baby having autism as I read somewhere that chances are much higher with a very close age gap (still less than 1% though!) I worry that this baby doesn't move as much as DD did, I worry that there might be something wrong with the baby that wasn't deteected on the scan, I also have the added worry that when the baby is born DD won't like it, will reject me because she's jealous, honestly the worry really never ends! I have always been a worrier though, so this is no surprise to me!

Thankyou for that, feel better knowing I'm not alone! You have more reason than me, if I had any bleeding whatsoever I think I would have totally lost it. I know in the logical part of my brain I have had an easy preg. so far but the overthinking and the old saying, sometimes a little knowledge is a dangerous thing rings very true here! Do you not know which jab you were given either? I know there are no proven links and the american studies show numbers increased despite banning the mercury jab and it brings temporary sanity til the doubts creep back in, there's no bloody hope for my mental health until June!!

Meeee,I honestly thought ttc was the hardest thing I'd ever done but since day one I worry constantly.oh no what's that twinge,don't strain when I poop and if I do alot then I'm back to checking my knickers all night,i've lost 12lb and I eat loads so it's only down to stress from worrying constantly,I use my Doppler in the morning to get me through the day and then before bed to get me through the night.my friend says she enjoyed every moment of her pg but I feel like I'm not going to enjoy any of it until I'm holding a healthy happy baby when s/he's due.I feel like I'm ruining the whole experience for myself but can't shake it off xx

You are not alone! I had a yeast infection at like 10 weeks, and they failed to tell me that it could cause an orangey color to show on the panty liner (due to the cream). Well, It was a tiny bit and I cried my eyes out! I scared the shit out of my DH. He was on google right away and looked up reasons for it. I thought it was blood... it wasn't. I went to the doctor the next morning, and obviously all was fine. They told me I have a VERY HIGH chance of carrying full term, and I still worry! I don't think it ends. I've had my 20 week scan, baby kicks me everyday.. and I still worry.

No to be honest i did look into it a lot but i was just told to tell the nurse i was pregant which she knew but she said it was the seasonal flu vaccine. There isnt any link to autism, it was like the MMR jab which the doctor who originally made that claim has since withdrawn his statement as it turned out not to be true.
i did look into what ingredients it was that people were going on about and obviously one was thermisol which is the preservative that keeps the jab sterile and the amount is low anyway, its less than what we would consume in a can of tuna and you can safely have one tin a week. The other ingredient its calls formehydrade or something like like again is some form os preservative, but that also used in many common foods such as cheese and milk. There were woman on here one who was GP and had the jab herself and another woman her husband is a researcher into how drugs affect pregnant woman and she had had it after asking his advice. I asked 3 GPS who know my OH personally and their advice was to have it.
There are hazards in lots of things we eat and drink in tiny amounts but we dont worry about those. Well i dont!
But you are definitly not alone worrying, i dont reckon i will breathe a proper sigh of relief till he or she is born
I know for sure i make things worse by reading all horror stories on here, and i dont even know why i do it. Then i read these pregnancy books which tell you all the millions of things that can go wrong. I think it was best in the old days where there was no internet and books and people didnt have that information so never worried. My mum said she never even knew about the half the stuff i tell her about!
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I'm right there with you. I have no idea how much worrying went into being pregnant LOL. Don't worry about the flu jab. There are just as many cons for not getting it as there is for getting it. I know there is a study that is showing have the flu while pregnant can cause schizophrenia, I am not saying this to scare anyone because it is just that a study. They also say having the flu while pregnant can cause pregnancy complications. However there are other speculations for getting it. I don't think they know for sure if getting the flu jab will cause your baby to have these problems. I think they go all these people had a flu shot during pregnancy so that might be a link to why the baby has.... I think with doctors advising pregnant women to get the flu shot that most women will, making it an unfair study. Also they don't know what cause Autism, in fact they use to think it was lack of mother baby bonding but have since then crossed it off the list. Don't worry about it, your baby will be fine!

Just wanted to add that I decided not to have the flu jab and am constantly worried about getting flu, so you would have the worry either way!

thankyou everyone xx I thought you could safely have up to 4 tins of tuna a week? I ate quite a bit in 1st tri as couldn't stomach much else, still prob less than that but more than one can a week.

cbmd I totally agree with you and my mum said the same lol!