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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:59 PM   1
charlotte88
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pregnancy competition....


Has anyone else experianced this when a friend or someone they know is pregnant at the same time as you and they feel the need to compete with everything?


I have a friend of a friend and even down to morning sickness she has it as extreme as it can be, she is at the doctors with this that and the other etc.

If ever i put a status on facebook about my pregnancy she competes with things. like i mentioned my successful shopping trip and mamas and papas and she came back with "I managed to get 100 bedding set for 20 in daniels" Im not denying she did but why compete?


Annnnyway, today i put my facebook status as "I think i felt baby move, well that felt wierd"
pretty much straight away she was commented, "yeah i've been feeling fluttering since 14 weeks" and then i said "it didnt feel like flutters to me, more like going over a bump in a car but with a bit of pressure against my tummy" she was like "Oh yeah i think i might have felt that too."

Why do people need to compete and cant they just enjoy their own pregnancy??



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:09 PM   2
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OMG yes. The worst is that a few of us are pregnant and have the same mutual friend, and this friend has congratulated and acted excited for all the other girls but has said nothing to me and I've been pregnant the longest.

And baby showers, eek, lets just say I better come up with something pretty spectacular!



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:16 PM   3
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I don't know why women do that. I think some women just want themselves to feel important or something. I have a cousin who was doing that as soon as she found out I was pregnant. Since, I've stopped talking to her that often as it irritates the hell out of me.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:32 PM   4
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I have this from a close family friend, or she constantly talks about her her her, and her kids.

I probably do the same, but she doesn't even listen!



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:42 PM   5
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sounds like shes jelous of something. x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:59 PM   6
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i dont think its jealousy, not in my case anyway as we dont know each other well she is just a friend of my best friend. It just seems she needs to either have the best of everything or to suffer the most just for people to give her some form of attention. She's had numerous "emergency" scans apparently, although she never gives a reason as to why she has had them or when she is having them.

I think its childish tbh. I cant bring myself to do it and compete with people i love and hate my pregnancy at the same time some days ha

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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:04 PM   7
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I totally know what you mean and sadly I think it gets even worse after the babies are born..............Oh dear that maybe sounded like I was trying to compete with you



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:16 PM   8
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Hmmm, me and my best mate both found out we were pregnant only she told me a few weeks before i had said anything, anyway it worked out she was about 4 days infront of me but when i told her i was preggers she was all of a sudden 3 weeks ahead of me, she had told me about her dates ect and it still worked out that she was 4 days ahead....
she had seen her midwife(for the 1st time) one wk ahead of me...and her scan was one wk ahead of mine, but she was adament that her midwife was going to 100% induce her at 36 or 38 wks..
she then told me 5 days before her first scan that she was almost 14 weeks, i was abit confussed by now....anyway sadly on valentines day(day before her scan) she had a miscarage which was terrible, she went to hospital and was obviously scaned...i asked her how far gone she was and she said she was 16 wks but babies heartbeat had stopped at 7 wks...cant really work this one out..
Her boyfriend had told a mutual friend(on the day) that she was 12 wks....which was almost what i was at the time...



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:22 PM   9
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Some people are just like that, I know someone nonpregnant like this and we call her "Topper" because she has to "top" everything you have ever done, seen, etc. It is very annoying! I can't imagine her pregnant!!



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:25 PM   10
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I haven't experienced someone competing with me but I have experienced new mum's telling me "oh no it's too early for cravings" or "you won't show until you are 7 months" etc.

Let me experience things for myself!



 
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