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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 07:49 AM   1
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Why is there so much pressure put on mums to breastfeed?


I am getting a bit annoyed with peoples opinions regarding breastfeeding, it's like just because you choose not to breastfeed your baby your not giving them the best start, breast is best NO breast is normal.

I really think this is a sore subject that can really upset some mums to be especially if when the baby is born she can't breastfeed.

I have decided to give my baby breast milk but I am not breastfeeding I will be expressing and giving my baby my milk through a bottle. Now people are saying well why don't you just breastfeed? Well the answer to that is that I don't want too. And I also see it as a positive I will be able to see exactly what my baby is taking!

Sorry for the rant ladies I just needed to get that off my chest lol



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:00 AM   2
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Well, no formula can compete with the real thing in terms of safety and nutrients. That's a simple fact. Breast milk IS best. However, that doesn't make formula-feeding parents 'bad'. People chose to formula feed for all sorts of reasons. Everyone's different.

I had a breast reduction, but am going to try my damndest to breastfeed exclusively. It will give my baby precious antibodies, a vital gastrointestinal lining, prevent obesity, and benefit me in many ways as well.

I'm also disturbed by the fact that formula is not produced in a sterile environment. But, if I end up having to supplement with formula, then I will.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:04 AM   3
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What's the purpose of starting an antagonizing thread like this? What's the point of stirring up drama? You already know that people feel very strongly about their choice to BF or not. If you have chosen not to do so then stick with it, why try to antagonize those who promote BF?

Listen, BF has been out of vogue for a very long time. For some reason several generations have managed to creep themselves out of even trying to do it. The way I see it is, I'm having a baby and nature has filled my boobs with milk. Surely there must be a reason for that and so I go with it. I don't question my body, just go with it. So there is a population of women and doctors who promote natural BF. It's not like they're promoting drugs or buying certain products, or even promoting religious beliefs. They're just suggesting that we head in the direction that nature points us.

If it weren't for people with strong beliefs then women would still not be able to vote. If it weren't for people with strong beliefs then segregation would still be legal. It takes people with strong convictions to carve out their own rights so please don't antagonize those who stand up for women's rights, just make your decision which you are free to do and be proud of it.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:07 AM   4
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Breast IS best but that doesnt mean its the right thing for everyone to do.

No one should be pressured to BF or FF. We should all try and support each others decisions as best we can because no matter what choices we make out in the real world we are going to get judged.

Would be nice if BnB was the one place we didnt have to worry about it eh?



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:07 AM   5
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Breast is normal and that's exactly what I am talking about people saying it's best put pressure on mums who arnt keen on breastfeeding. All my cousins kids were breastfed and they are always ill and they never slept so that puts me off breastfeeding I'm allergic to everything so I'm nut sure I want my little girl to have my immune system. In my experience all the babys in my family which were formula fed are all really happy normal sized children I don't think enough research has been done yet to be able to day that breastfeeding prevents obesity. Sorry just my opinion



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:08 AM   6
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I know what you mean, I was planning on breast feeding for the first day of babies life due to having to go back on to my medication but due to recent problems I have had to go back on my medication now so I will NOT be breast feeding, I will be using formular from day one. I do feel guilty that I will not be providing my baby with the best nutrients but at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you AND your baby.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:13 AM   7
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Thank you so much for posting this!! I've had this EXACT conversation with friends and my OH.

I know the benefits of breast feeding, and i know people feel strongly about it. However, i'm not to sure i want to do it myself. This is for lots of reasons. However, wherever i go or seemingly whatever i read i'm getting pushed into breastfeeding. It's all over the doctor's, hospitals, you have to tick a disclaimer to look on the Cow and Gate website!

All i'm saying is that what is right for some people isn't right for others. I, for one, would appreciate people acting like the breastfeeding police - and whilst i'm at it, reuseable nappy police - backing off and letting me make my own choice.

Once again Amy1234, thank you for saying this.

K

EDIT:

Sorry if this is strongly ranty like. I've had a massive row with my sister in law today about my choice to feed my baby however i choose. I may well end up expressing, but SIL is proper on the warpath about breastfeeding. Makes me more stubborn :-)



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:19 AM   8
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Thankyou for thanking me keeks1987 lol, I didnt want to upset anyone with this thread I just really believe that this needed to be said I can't believe how worked up some ladies get about breastfeeding x



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:21 AM   9
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Breast IS best like the other girls have said. But it's not for everyone and anyone who chooses not to BF should never be made to feel bad for their decision



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Old Mar 27th, 2011, 08:22 AM   10
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Do you also get upset when doctors promote eating lots of vegetables? Or when they suggest that we get regular exercise? You know sometimes I refuse to eat my veggies or go out and exercise but I don't get angry just because it's proven that it's the healthiest thing to do.

It's great to start a thread for support on not breastfeeding. But why the underlying attack on those who think breast is best? A woman who chooses not to do so does it for her own personal reasons, same as a woman who does BF. There are women who don't know that it's best to BF, why shouldn't that info be available to them through their doctors and other women?

It's perfectly acceptable if a mother wants to feed her children ding dongs and twinkies. But that doesn't mean that the entire health industry should just keep health and nutrition information to themselves so that she doesn't have to feel guilty about doing it. Do what you want, but if the promotion of BF makes you feel guilty then that's your problem. Facts don't rearrange themselves for your own peace of mind.



 
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