I am so so devestated, where do I begin. I am 25 weeks pregnant with a 2 and half year old little boy, been happily married for 5 years.

My DH has been working away since Sept 2010 and has been coming home normally for one day and two nights. Beginning Sept this year he was posted to a different county and is working nights, so yesterday morning was his first day and evening home and he has gone back today.

Today I found out that he joined a marital dating website in November 2010 and was emailing pictures of himself to a married woman. He also sent her an email saying "Hi hun, hope you're ok, you haven't been able to txt so i thought i'd mail you. Txt tom if you can baby ok xx" I then also find out that he was sending pictures of my son to another married girl in February this year. Both girls had his mobile number and were texting him, one for not long where as the other all apparently stopped last month.

I am absolutely devested, this is so out of character for him, never ever thought he would do something like this.

He has assured me that he has never met with any of the girls but I dont know whether to believe him.

I am so so upset, dont know what to do, is he having a blip? When I confronted him he was really upset and told me that it was all over and was no longer on the married dating website. How he is really happy with me and our son and doesnt want to loose us.

Cant stop crying, cant eat or drink, I really feel like my world has been turned upside down.

I dont know what to tell you but i feel so bad for you. Id be so sick if my boyfriend did this to me. And as easy as it is to say to leave him,i dont think i would. This is going to be a rocky road for a while and counseling may be needed. But i know deep down he loves you. And you love him 100% he just needs help. Best wishes to you and your family. You will be in my prayers

Not sure what to say. He could just be getting frustrated with being away from you. How do you feel about it? I know u r really upset, but how do you regard these actiopns? Can you put it behind you?

I'm so sorry. I wish people would think of their loved ones before doing something like this... Hugs!

Thats not good hun big hugs have some time to get your thoughts together and maybe try some marriage councilling x

Keep your head up hun. It's not going to be easy and he's going to have A LOT of trust to earn back. Let him know that if that's his story you'll do your best to believe him, but you won't trust him again until he earns it back. He'll have to prove to you that he's not doing things behind your back again and show you how much you matter. Tell him he's in the dog house for his actions and now he has to crawl his way back to the place you held him before. I wish you ALL the BEST of luck hun.

So sorry to hear this not a nice time for you to find out.. will he continue to work away for long periods of time? I split with my ex husband over this but he did not want to make it work.. and i got back with him to find he was still seeing the girls. Im hoping this is not the case for you.. i know this happens to somepeople like my partners mum and dad and now there marrige is stronger than ever. Distance in a relationship is hard..

just want to send you massive hugs, allways here for a chat... when u said u couldnt eat and the pain.. it brought back a flood of old memories for me... (i didnt have children with my ex).. i am so much happier now with my man, i see him each night and we have a child and another on the way.. I just want to say things WILL get better ... xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I am so sorry to hear about this. Way back when I was dating a man (we were serious) and I found out that he was on Ashley Madison.com. It's for married people to hook up and have affairs. I was sick with outrage. He tried to make excuses to justify why he was there, but there was no excuse good enough for me.

I don't have any advice to give you on the matter. I am very sorry. All I know is that you are not alone and you can overcome this. Best of luck to you!

I am so so sorry. That's horrible! Is it possible for you to see a therapist or a counselor? You have to be taking care you right now and the baby. If he wants to act like a jerk that's on him--please please talk to your pastor or priest or whoever you feel you can trust. Many many hugs to you. I am so so so sorry.

I don't know what to say, I guess theres really nothing that will make it better. I'm just sorry. Everything with work out for the best. Focus on you, bump and your son for now.