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Old Nov 2nd, 2011, 20:19 PM   1
Twayzeekrissy
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Almost 3 year old for those who have kids


I'm not able to keep working at my job because of a back injury. Which happened at work. And my job requires me to lift 40-45 pounds all day long. Anyways I'm looking after my niece ( whos 3 at the end of november) so I have some income and it helps my sister out. ( who is a single mom) so now she gets to see other kids ( as I take her out to play groups) with this baby on the way I need her to learn she isn't a baby anymore. So things like putting her jacket on, which she fights with. Putting her own socks on...ect. For some reason all these things equal fights. Most time her sitting in time out. Even eating meals is a fight. She will beg for food, once it's infront of her she wants 2 bites and is ready to leave. I usually make her stay there until I'm done and then offer to help. But I'm not always going to be able to do this. I normally would tell any other kid that they can get down and get nothing until their next meal. But she's 23 pounds. So realistic to say this. I have basically managed to figure out the jacket and shoes. I make sure she has an extra 5 mins to get ready so of there is a fight we alway have time. But meals I'm having a hard time with. I sometimes will have the help of my hubby but his shifts are weird and he's home random times . So I really need her to learn to do all this stuff in the next 20 weeks. Any ideas



 
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Old Nov 3rd, 2011, 10:27 AM   2
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Bump ... Anyone?



 
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Old Nov 3rd, 2011, 10:42 AM   3
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I myself have a 3 year old who can be a little monkey at times also .. What I would advise from your post is if you can try and leave the fighting aside and try make it into a game for your niece .. for example ..

If I say to my little girl .. ok get ur coat on as we really need to have left 5 mins ago .. she digs her heels in and takes even longer to coperate !!

However when I word it a little differently it works wonders .. I will now say .. ok Anna, mummy has been very silly & made us late, could you be a wonderful girl and grab yours and mums coat so we can get going and fix silly mummy's mistakes !!

She thinks she is brilliant .. I know this will not work for all children and I dare say there will come a time when this will not work for her either, but its working in the mean time .. all I have to do is choose my words carefully and if she thinks she has a choice in the matter she will fully coperate .. where if she think she is being told what to do she will cause a fuss ... wonder where she gets that from lol !!!

Same goes with eating, I make up silly songs about food and munching and sing them while she is eating and she now tries to make up songs of her own while munching all her food .. and its only singing so you can get on with doing other things while in the process

One more thing, dont mention treats or surprises, and then when she does coperate and does something that u ask her first time, make a big deal of it and say ohhh I think being such a grown up girl and helping out deserves a biscuit or something that she really enjoys like painting or splashing in puddles with wellies on .. It really is the simple things that have made my life so much easier with my little girl

I really hope some of these things work for you as well as they have for me, but main thing is talk to her like she is a grown up good luck xxx



 
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Old Nov 3rd, 2011, 10:44 AM   4
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unfortunately there's no fool proof method, what works for one kid may not work for another even with siblings and especially at that age she's in which is the most defiant in my opinion. But here's a few suggestions to try #1 praise A LOT when she does something the "right" way it makes them feel good and they'll try to please you again. #2 Ignore the defiant behavior if your fighting with her you're giving her attention which is what she wants but if you just walk away and ignore her she'll figure out its not working anymore (this works best if you start telling her to do things a good 10-15 minutes before you actually need her to be ready). #3 give her notice (they do this in preschool and works on most kids) so say something like "sweetie in 10 minutes i need you to start putting on your shoes" then repeat at 5 minutes and then say ok times up i need you to get your shoes on" then praise her for being such a good girl when she does it).

one more thing, at this age they don't eat very much unless they're going through a growth spurt and sometimes all they need is 2-3 bites and they really do feel full. Its best to feed them small amts such as that every couple hours instead of big meals.

hope this helps!



 
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