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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 10:47 AM   11
joanna1980
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What a nob ....... Sorry who does he think he is bloodly god ??? Sorry ur going through this x



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 12:28 PM   12
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First off you aren't over-reacting. It's hard to deal with things like that. You have done amazing so far. Being in a foreign country is so hard. And being a military wife, even in the states, is hard.
I personally think your husband is just scared. Men do not, i repeat, do not, connect with pregnancy the way women do. Once you feel the baby it becomes very real, but for him, it isn't, it's still just you, but you're acting differently than you used to, which frustrates him. I truly believe you shouldn't worry one second about him helping with LO. I think the minute she's here his entire tune will change. He will fall instantly in love and be daddy material before he even knows what happened. Even if he isn't instantly connected (very common for men) with LO, it will probably come with time. I agree, if he's willing, that reading pregnancy books or even info online would really help him realize why you are so tired, feeling so ill, etc.
I'm sending you lots of hugs because his attitude is probably far from over. I think he's probably really stressed about LO and money, and if you could get him to open up about it, I bet you'd understand more about where he is coming from too.
I firmly believe communication is the key for a healthy relationship and for understanding each other completely.
As for the breastfeeding, it's your body and your choice. And I bet once she's here he helps in the night anyway, so his reason for being concerned will quickly disapear.
Good luck to you honey. Keep that chin up.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 13:15 PM   13
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Sounds like your husband needs a reality check, if my husband EVER spoke to me like that I'd hit him so hard in the junk he wished he never had a penis. No woman deserves to be spoken to like that EVER, let alone a pregnant woman carrying his child. I'd just let him cool off for a few days and then try talking to him again. Sorry your in a tough spot and hes not being very supportive hun men can be real jerks sometimes.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 13:21 PM   14
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sometimes people say things they don't mean because they are overly stressed, tired, overwhelmed and just not thinking. these things can be very hurtful and totally uncalled for. I am sorry you are dealing with this right now. it all sounds very stress related. i hope you two can sit down and calmly discuss these issues (and maybe other issues that aren't being discussed). good luck!



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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 13:29 PM   15
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i dont understand why woman put up with this crap to be honest! you are goin to have to start telling him whats what here, if my husband treated me like that i swear to god he wud be out the door, you obviousley love your husband alot and that ofcourse is natural or else you wudn have married him to begin with... but start standing up for yourself! and whenyour baby arrives you dont want her to see a man treat a woman this way do you? who know the baby might open his eyes and bring him into the real world or mayb your just havin a bad day... mayb hes scared of change? who knows but it sounds abit like bullying to me lets hope tomorrow is a better day xxxx lotsa love



 
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