Arguments with oh feeling very lonely :( - Page 3

xPH03N1Xx · Nov 28th, 2011, 15:22 PM

Take control babe!
He's not acting like an OH or a father, so don't treat him like one!
I certainly wouldn't be waiting around for him to "decide".

Go home, pack up your stuff and move to your mums, assuming she will have you.
He will either panic and want you back, or he will get even nastier in which case he isn't worth your time.

Sorry if it sounds rash....
You need to do what's best for your bub, he is not putting you first, he is not putting your child first and therefore isn't worth your time hunny.

_Lexi_ · Nov 28th, 2011, 15:26 PM

^ agree. Don't give him the choice. Whilst he's acting like a 14 yr old, treat him like one x

jade1991 · Nov 28th, 2011, 17:01 PM

Thanks everyone!
I forgot to mention, his last gf got pregnant and he left her when she was 5 months, has no contact with the baby or her, he pays for the baby and thats it. Looks like hes setting himself up to do it again, even though we have (or had) an amazing relationship and he promised to stand by me when i found out i was pregnant. Guess not.
I feel so stupid and so alone. He hasnt spoken to me tonight either just deleted his facebook account... And its all over something so little. To me it feels as if hes using this petty argument to show his true feelings, maybe he didnt want to be with me anyway and this is his way out? I dont know. Deep down I think I know he wont leave me on my own but why has he gotta make me play this waiting game, not even knowing if I need to start planning for the future as a single mum to my baby

Its easy for men, they can walk away, were the ones left with the baby and a broken family! xx

Sunshine12 · Nov 28th, 2011, 17:14 PM

Really feel for you hun but I dont think he is committed to you or the baby. If he was he wouldnt be acting like such a complete tosser.

boo91 · Nov 28th, 2011, 17:27 PM

Sorry that things are like this for you , Sounds a bit like me and my oh..were okay now but a while back he was acting completely uninterested , we were fighting over stupid things and he was saying he would stick by me but actions speak alot louder than words. . I told him taht we were done it would be alot stressful for me to do it alone than be fighting with him the whole time and that he could prove himself if he wanted to be a part of our lives ( i was absolutely shitting it and hoping he wouldnt walk away) but I didnt want to be taken for a ride.. Anyways took him a while to come round, hes coppedo n and things are better now..we still have the odd stuid fight but weve realised that this baby is more importnant than us ..I really hope things work out for you too !!

Nov 28th, 2011, 15:22 PM	#21
xPH03N1Xx Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 1,644	Take control babe! He's not acting like an OH or a father, so don't treat him like one! I certainly wouldn't be waiting around for him to "decide". Go home, pack up your stuff and move to your mums, assuming she will have you. He will either panic and want you back, or he will get even nastier in which case he isn't worth your time. Sorry if it sounds rash.... You need to do what's best for your bub, he is not putting you first, he is not putting your child first and therefore isn't worth your time hunny.

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Nov 28th, 2011, 15:26 PM	#22
_Lexi_ Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 3,069	^ agree. Don't give him the choice. Whilst he's acting like a 14 yr old, treat him like one x

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Nov 28th, 2011, 17:01 PM	#23
jade1991 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: South Wales, UK Posts: 1,328	Thanks everyone! I forgot to mention, his last gf got pregnant and he left her when she was 5 months, has no contact with the baby or her, he pays for the baby and thats it. Looks like hes setting himself up to do it again, even though we have (or had) an amazing relationship and he promised to stand by me when i found out i was pregnant. Guess not. I feel so stupid and so alone. He hasnt spoken to me tonight either just deleted his facebook account... And its all over something so little. To me it feels as if hes using this petty argument to show his true feelings, maybe he didnt want to be with me anyway and this is his way out? I dont know. Deep down I think I know he wont leave me on my own but why has he gotta make me play this waiting game, not even knowing if I need to start planning for the future as a single mum to my baby Its easy for men, they can walk away, were the ones left with the baby and a broken family! xx

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Nov 28th, 2011, 17:14 PM	#24
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,589	Really feel for you hun but I dont think he is committed to you or the baby. If he was he wouldnt be acting like such a complete tosser.

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Nov 28th, 2011, 17:27 PM	#25
boo91 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: ireland Posts: 3	Sorry that things are like this for you , Sounds a bit like me and my oh..were okay now but a while back he was acting completely uninterested , we were fighting over stupid things and he was saying he would stick by me but actions speak alot louder than words. . I told him taht we were done it would be alot stressful for me to do it alone than be fighting with him the whole time and that he could prove himself if he wanted to be a part of our lives ( i was absolutely shitting it and hoping he wouldnt walk away) but I didnt want to be taken for a ride.. Anyways took him a while to come round, hes coppedo n and things are better now..we still have the odd stuid fight but weve realised that this baby is more importnant than us ..I really hope things work out for you too !!

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