Advice needed please re 2 year old girls "bits"

Gemini85 · Dec 31st, 2011, 14:04 PM

Me and OH have his 2 year 2 month old little girl up for the weekend, OH asked me to look at her bits as they were red and more "open" than they were 2 months ago. I've had a look, and there does seem to be a hole in her heyman. (sp) about 2mm. Is this normal for her age? Could she have done it herself? I don't have any experience here! Please advise, LOs mum has a new boyfriend who we know nothing about, and being a man he is putting all kinds of scenarios in his head!!!
Asked her who changes her nighttime nappy etc, no funny responses, and doesn't seem nervous...

Many thanks!

Tigerlilyb · Dec 31st, 2011, 14:17 PM

I thought there was always a little hole there, they're never completely sealed shut, or there would be nowhere for her period to go when she reaches that age.

It could be just that she has a bit of a sore bottom, or maybe she fell on it a little harder than usual? I really hope it's nothing to worry about.

bananaz · Dec 31st, 2011, 14:20 PM

A hole is normal -if there wasn't one, that would be a problem! In fact, some girls are born without hymens altogether. If you're concerned about the redness or "openness" then you should probably give her pediatrician a call.

luckybreak · Dec 31st, 2011, 17:05 PM

You can take her to a pediatrician and explain your concerns I am sure they see this all the time and will be able to look at the baby girl and put you at ease and help you if something is wrong or if there is a rash give her something that it doesn't get worst like a UTI. it is so scary with spouses date strangers to us...Hugs to you guys and i hope it is nothing serious. Perhaps call a triage nurse and explain.

bumpycat · Dec 31st, 2011, 17:26 PM

You're in the UK, and I believe there is provision for your partner as a parent to ask the authorities (I don't really know who, police maybe?) about anyone who has access to his child. I think it is called Sarah's Law. It might help to set your mind at ease.

However!!!! It's most likely that nothing is wrong and it's just a rash or something, but if you are worrying, you do have this option.

socitycourty · Dec 31st, 2011, 17:43 PM

I think she might just have a rash? little girls are more prone to rashes due to the folds down there.....

Maybe a new detergent/bath product/diaper brand could cause it. I used to watch a little girl and her parts were sooooo sensitive to everything.

DaisyBee · Dec 31st, 2011, 20:23 PM

Megan gets irritated and red easily just with bms... If they aren't changed within a minute it can irritate. It's normal for them to have a hole there.

Rigi.kun · Dec 31st, 2011, 21:51 PM

I constantly had rashes and problems with my bits when I was a small child. Go to a kid doctor (I can't spell the technical name) and ask for there professional opinion. That would be absolutely frightening to have to deal with, but if it's just a small split then it sounds natural. As most girls get some sort of split before puberty to allow menstrual blood to pass easily.

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Gemini85 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Bedfordshire Posts: 1,195	Advice needed please re 2 year old girls "bits" Me and OH have his 2 year 2 month old little girl up for the weekend, OH asked me to look at her bits as they were red and more "open" than they were 2 months ago. I've had a look, and there does seem to be a hole in her heyman. (sp) about 2mm. Is this normal for her age? Could she have done it herself? I don't have any experience here! Please advise, LOs mum has a new boyfriend who we know nothing about, and being a man he is putting all kinds of scenarios in his head!!! Asked her who changes her nighttime nappy etc, no funny responses, and doesn't seem nervous... Many thanks!

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Dec 31st, 2011, 14:17 PM	#2
Tigerlilyb Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Lyon, France, Originally from Dorset Posts: 1,776	I thought there was always a little hole there, they're never completely sealed shut, or there would be nowhere for her period to go when she reaches that age. It could be just that she has a bit of a sore bottom, or maybe she fell on it a little harder than usual? I really hope it's nothing to worry about.

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bananaz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: USA Posts: 5,441	A hole is normal -if there wasn't one, that would be a problem! In fact, some girls are born without hymens altogether. If you're concerned about the redness or "openness" then you should probably give her pediatrician a call.

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luckybreak Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 1,415	You can take her to a pediatrician and explain your concerns I am sure they see this all the time and will be able to look at the baby girl and put you at ease and help you if something is wrong or if there is a rash give her something that it doesn't get worst like a UTI. it is so scary with spouses date strangers to us...Hugs to you guys and i hope it is nothing serious. Perhaps call a triage nurse and explain.

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Dec 31st, 2011, 17:26 PM	#5
bumpycat Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Posts: 1,687	You're in the UK, and I believe there is provision for your partner as a parent to ask the authorities (I don't really know who, police maybe?) about anyone who has access to his child. I think it is called Sarah's Law. It might help to set your mind at ease. However!!!! It's most likely that nothing is wrong and it's just a rash or something, but if you are worrying, you do have this option.

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Dec 31st, 2011, 17:43 PM	#6
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	I think she might just have a rash? little girls are more prone to rashes due to the folds down there..... Maybe a new detergent/bath product/diaper brand could cause it. I used to watch a little girl and her parts were sooooo sensitive to everything.

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Dec 31st, 2011, 20:23 PM	#7
DaisyBee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MN, U.S. Posts: 8,502	Megan gets irritated and red easily just with bms... If they aren't changed within a minute it can irritate. It's normal for them to have a hole there.

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Dec 31st, 2011, 21:51 PM	#8
Rigi.kun Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 2,218	I constantly had rashes and problems with my bits when I was a small child. Go to a kid doctor (I can't spell the technical name) and ask for there professional opinion. That would be absolutely frightening to have to deal with, but if it's just a small split then it sounds natural. As most girls get some sort of split before puberty to allow menstrual blood to pass easily.

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