I haven't had a loss and I worry constantly as well, so I can only imagine how you're feeling. Shescrafty's response was awesome... I think it's best for our baby for us to be calm and healthy, so I'm trying to let nature take it's course and enjoy my pregnancy. I've found yoga and meditation helps. Google is not my friend, however. Too much research makes me crazy. The simple fact is that anything going wrong after 20 weeks is highly unlikely.
It's awful isn't it. I lost my twins at 23+1 which is what I will be on Saturday and then I will find something else to worry about.
I'm terrified for my growth scan thinking what if she hasn't grown!!!
Then im terrified I will get to term and something will go wrong during labour.
We must drive our oh's mental x
I dont tell mine all my worries as he already gets concerned that I wind myself up too much. When I had that freak out today I was crying all afternoon on and off and when he came home I just burst into tears. He was great about it TBH but I know if I told him every single time I was worried about something he wouldnt be as sympathetic when I have a proper worry and would just think Im overreacting again!
I haven't experienced a loss, so I can't speak to that, but I've managed to calm down a lot over the past several weeks. I used to worry constantly and it really got me down. I reached a point where I just suddenly felt a lot more comfortable with things, so hopefully the same happens for everyone else!
Avoiding Google for anything pregnancy-related is definitely wise.
Staring at the calender every single day, I worry too, it's a precious thing that we don't want taken away from us. I'm sorry about what you've been though, hun. I don't want you to worry this time around. It's easy to tell you to stop, but please don't torture yourself needlessly. What happened last time is uncommon, the majority of pregnancies are happy and healthy and the odds are that this one is too! Try to get loads of cuddles from OH to comfort you, they always make me feel better :]
I am the same way.. always worrying because im not feeling movement yet.. so the only time i am calm and not worrying is when im at a doctor's appt and get to hear the hearbeat haha
I am praying after my next ultrasound on the 19th.. I will be able to enjoy the pregnancy a little bit more
So sorry to hear about the loss of your babies. Even though I have not had such a loss, I have been petrified this entire time. I do suffer from OCD mainly obsessive thoughts and I think that has made this harder for me. I just want my baby so bad I feel like I'm protecting myself by envisioning the worst case scenario, no matter how unlikely.
I have been worked up about:
Constipation and straining on Friday, thinking I squished my baby
Thinking that my "bump" looks smaller today
Feeling a movement and not feeling one for days after that
Yep... my pregnancy has been nothing but worrying from start to finish, except for one week between weeks 12 and 13. (I had just had my NT scan, and all went perfectly, and for the first time ever, after six miscarriages and countless horrific ultrasounds where I had been told my baby was dead, I FINALLY had a great ultrasound where I saw a real, live baby on the screen... it seemed miraculous that this could finally happen to me, and I naively thought it would be smooth sailing from there. Then a week later I got the bomb dropped that my bloodwork showed I was at high risk of pre-eclampsia, IUGR, premature birth, and/or stillbirth. As it turns out, sure enough, I already have hypertension and will probably develop pre-eclampsia which may mean and/all of those things!)
So yeah... I have plenty of legitimate things to worry about, in addition to all the other worries that come up every time I read a tragic forum post or web search result (like you said, if I read about something awful happening, I assume that's what's going to happen to my baby).
I've had panic attacks, generalized anxiety, nightmares, and an overall terrible sadness and sense of doom that we won't get to meet this little one alive. My husband commented a couple of weeks ago something about when the baby comes, and I burst into tears and said, "Who are we kidding? There's not going to be a baby..." In my heart, I just can't imagine bringing home a surviving, healthy baby like normal women do. I can't help but shake the certainty that this pregnancy will end badly just as all the others have.
I am the same . I am enjoying it alot more than I did for the first 20 weeks but i still constantly worryabout late miscarriage,if the baby arrives early and chance of being stillborn etc Especially asI know quite a few people close to me that had late losses, one friend at 38 weeks when she wentinto labour and there was no apparent reason for her loss . I drive everyone insane with my worries and they all want me to just enjoy my pregnancy more and be positive and I do try my best but it is hard hun xx
You are definitley not alone, pregnancy after a loss is so hard. I lost a little boy at 20 weeks last may and that has took all the enjoyment out of pregnancy for me, i worry all the time too, every little thing makes you worry. I think when you get to the stage of your pregnancy when you had your loss, that is the very hardest time , i had really bad anxiety and felt very frightened , but as time is going on i am feeling a little better emotionally, but still wishing time away, stay strong and take care.x
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