OH against second hand :-( - Page 2

mrsrof · Jan 10th, 2012, 08:54 AM

I'm with you as well, thankfully DH agrees...we'll be getting what clothes we can from friends...especially if it's a girl as my cousin just had a girl in july and has tonnes of clothes bagged up waiting to see what we have! If we have a boy we won't get as much, but my sister has 2 boys and she has some great clothes that they have outgrown quickly or were never worn. Sadly, several cousins have had baby boys since she had hers, so not much baby stuff left!!

My mum is insisting on buying us a new travel system, but sis says we can have anything else they've got that we need as they don't plan on any more kids. I am more than happy to take stuff off her hands!!

mrsrof · Jan 10th, 2012, 09:00 AM

Also, I figure, when we were kids, we lived in hand-me-downs! I had an older sister and older cousins who lived next door, it was rare for new clothes to be bought for me, unless for a special occasion (we usually got a christmas outfit). There was no need, as someone already said, kids outgrow clothes so fast that a lot of them are in excellent condition when you get them!

Reno · Jan 10th, 2012, 09:27 AM

We haven't anything second-hand yet but I am a real bargain hunter! I tend to find new things at the price of buying second hand - apart from a few indulgences (*looks at the Bednest and drools*) But I am all for reusing everything among my own children! We are buying nice new things now for our first child so they will last for our future children too (we're getting a neutral pram/nursery furniture etc)! I don't see the point in spending money on a second hand pram or furniture when we are planning to have a few kids, as the chances are we'll have to fork out for another one when baby no. 2 or 3 comes along!

But by all means, if you are offered things for free, you've nothing to lose! I dare say my sis will pass on her baby boy clothes as he'll be 6 months older than my LO!

BabyBennett · Jan 10th, 2012, 09:40 AM

We bought a new nursery set (cot, wardrobe & chest of drawers with changer) with the idea that we're going to have at least one more baby hopefully and so it will be well used. We've managed to get a few new bargains (luixury swinger was £160 and mothercare accepted £40 for the display one!!) but everything else including the pram & crib is 2nd hand. We can afford to buy new but it's not like the baby's going to look at the pram and refuse to use it! We've gotten some clothes 2nd hand and we'll get more when it's born and we know the sex.

Luckily the OH is the same - he's got no problems with buying 2nd hand!

kitcat · Jan 10th, 2012, 09:46 AM

Maybe he would feel better if it came via a friend or something? Some people have funny views about second hand. I'm hoping I can save quite a bit of money that way!!

Mrs__P · Jan 10th, 2012, 09:58 AM

I am with you on this one also.

I am spending money on new pram and new furniture and bedding etc.

But I am 'borrowing' a lot of stuff from my cousin whose daughter is now nearly 2. Things like moses basket and allsorts of newborn clothes that they hardly wear.

They grow up so quick so its pointless to spend money on clothing if you can get some decent hand me downs!!

xx

Takara · Jan 10th, 2012, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by NuKe

what's his reasoning? is it just snobbery?

I think he feels we are letting the baby down not buying it new stuff. X

Luxy · Jan 10th, 2012, 10:43 AM

Takara, im gonna cause controversy by saying I think I agree with your OH! I'm buying everything new for my baby because I think she/he deserves nothing but the best. Don't get me wrong if a friend turned round to me and said "here's some clothes my baby didn't/hardly used" I wouldn't throw them back in her face, but everything i am buying for baby is brand new.
I think my mentality is that I had so much second hand/hand me down stuff as a kid as that was all my parents could afford back then, I'm in a position to give my child new so that's what I'm going to do! If however someone isnt in a position to buy everything new then there's nothing wrong with second hand, you just need to be selective.
Ok, I'm ready for my shooting!!!

Takara · Jan 10th, 2012, 10:51 AM

Luxy I agree that if you have the money and you want everything new then go for it. From a personal point of view I like to recycle and re use so would begrudge everything new even if I had the money. But currently due to my sons illness I haven't been in a position to go back to work so funds are tight.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I'd like OH to compromise and get some stuff new and let me get some stuff second hand.

Xx

Sunshine12 · Jan 10th, 2012, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Luxy

Takara, im gonna cause controversy by saying I think I agree with your OH! I'm buying everything new for my baby because I think she/he deserves nothing but the best. Don't get me wrong if a friend turned round to me and said "here's some clothes my baby didn't/hardly used" I wouldn't throw them back in her face, but everything i am buying for baby is brand new.
I think my mentality is that I had so much second hand/hand me down stuff as a kid as that was all my parents could afford back then, I'm in a position to give my child new so that's what I'm going to do! If however someone isnt in a position to buy everything new then there's nothing wrong with second hand, you just need to be selective.
Ok, I'm ready for my shooting!!!

lol, I dont think anyone can shoot you down for wanting new stuff for your baby!

OP, I think if your husband wants to get everything new and you can afford it then you should just go with it or come to a compromise.

Whilst we can afford to buy everything new if we wanted to, for me its about weighing up what would be stupid to decline. My sister has offered us her cot bed which is in mint condition and would cost us £400 new. I reckon that Id be stupid to say no and buy a new one. Obviously Ill buy a new mattress. A friend has offered us a moses basket and stand. Whilst they arent that expensive I dont know if baby will use it for that long so Im going to take it and again get a new mattress.

I think its all about being realistic about whats necessary to have new and what isnt. I wouldnt accept a 2nd hand car seat for example or clothes that I felt were worn but pretty much anything else, to me, is fine.

Each to their own. x

Jan 10th, 2012, 08:54 AM	#11
mrsrof Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 3,960	I'm with you as well, thankfully DH agrees...we'll be getting what clothes we can from friends...especially if it's a girl as my cousin just had a girl in july and has tonnes of clothes bagged up waiting to see what we have! If we have a boy we won't get as much, but my sister has 2 boys and she has some great clothes that they have outgrown quickly or were never worn. Sadly, several cousins have had baby boys since she had hers, so not much baby stuff left!! My mum is insisting on buying us a new travel system, but sis says we can have anything else they've got that we need as they don't plan on any more kids. I am more than happy to take stuff off her hands!!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 09:00 AM	#12
mrsrof Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 3,960	Also, I figure, when we were kids, we lived in hand-me-downs! I had an older sister and older cousins who lived next door, it was rare for new clothes to be bought for me, unless for a special occasion (we usually got a christmas outfit). There was no need, as someone already said, kids outgrow clothes so fast that a lot of them are in excellent condition when you get them!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 09:27 AM	#13
Reno Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 1,605	We haven't anything second-hand yet but I am a real bargain hunter! I tend to find new things at the price of buying second hand - apart from a few indulgences (looks at the Bednest and drools) But I am all for reusing everything among my own children! We are buying nice new things now for our first child so they will last for our future children too (we're getting a neutral pram/nursery furniture etc)! I don't see the point in spending money on a second hand pram or furniture when we are planning to have a few kids, as the chances are we'll have to fork out for another one when baby no. 2 or 3 comes along! But by all means, if you are offered things for free, you've nothing to lose! I dare say my sis will pass on her baby boy clothes as he'll be 6 months older than my LO!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 09:40 AM	#14
BabyBennett Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 284	We bought a new nursery set (cot, wardrobe & chest of drawers with changer) with the idea that we're going to have at least one more baby hopefully and so it will be well used. We've managed to get a few new bargains (luixury swinger was £160 and mothercare accepted £40 for the display one!!) but everything else including the pram & crib is 2nd hand. We can afford to buy new but it's not like the baby's going to look at the pram and refuse to use it! We've gotten some clothes 2nd hand and we'll get more when it's born and we know the sex. Luckily the OH is the same - he's got no problems with buying 2nd hand!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 09:46 AM	#15
kitcat Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 756	Maybe he would feel better if it came via a friend or something? Some people have funny views about second hand. I'm hoping I can save quite a bit of money that way!!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 09:58 AM	#16
Mrs__P Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 430	I am with you on this one also. I am spending money on new pram and new furniture and bedding etc. But I am 'borrowing' a lot of stuff from my cousin whose daughter is now nearly 2. Things like moses basket and allsorts of newborn clothes that they hardly wear. They grow up so quick so its pointless to spend money on clothing if you can get some decent hand me downs!! xx

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Jan 10th, 2012, 10:43 AM	#18
Luxy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Beautiful Devon Posts: 252	Takara, im gonna cause controversy by saying I think I agree with your OH! I'm buying everything new for my baby because I think she/he deserves nothing but the best. Don't get me wrong if a friend turned round to me and said "here's some clothes my baby didn't/hardly used" I wouldn't throw them back in her face, but everything i am buying for baby is brand new. I think my mentality is that I had so much second hand/hand me down stuff as a kid as that was all my parents could afford back then, I'm in a position to give my child new so that's what I'm going to do! If however someone isnt in a position to buy everything new then there's nothing wrong with second hand, you just need to be selective. Ok, I'm ready for my shooting!!!

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Jan 10th, 2012, 10:51 AM	#19
Takara Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 235	Luxy I agree that if you have the money and you want everything new then go for it. From a personal point of view I like to recycle and re use so would begrudge everything new even if I had the money. But currently due to my sons illness I haven't been in a position to go back to work so funds are tight. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I'd like OH to compromise and get some stuff new and let me get some stuff second hand. Xx

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