Wrote a 3 page letter to OH - Page 3

zizii · Jan 10th, 2012, 14:20 PM

Good idea hope it all works out xxxxxxxx

beccad · Jan 10th, 2012, 15:14 PM

Good luck hun. I hope he manages to sort himself out xx

NuKe · Jan 10th, 2012, 16:15 PM

sounds like you've got a good plan

that's so sweet about OBEM.

If he can see that alcohol changes him and he upsets you, why does he continue? He needs to cut it out completely imo. He can't be looking after a baby if he's drinking!

Sunshine12 · Jan 10th, 2012, 16:19 PM

Glad things are turning around hun. I would make sure he knows you are serious about the drinking though as it only takes once for him to f*ck it all up again. Im really pleased for you and think he sounds like he is making a real effort. x

mrsbeano · Jan 10th, 2012, 16:20 PM

I wouldn't want my little one learning that its okay to treat people that way. You sound as though you have a supportive family and that must be a better environment to have children in.

Hopefully he can sort it out, but I'd be very cautious to not fall back into anything until I was sure. You need to be strong so he gets the message - just be strong for the LO

Jennifurball · Jan 11th, 2012, 04:34 AM

Thanks everyone.

I decided to leave him the letter this morning, I explained it was written whilst I was upset and before I knew about the job but there is a lot of stuff in there that he probably isn't even aware of because it happens when he is drunk! Not sure if he has read it yet though.

I keep pestering him to call the company back, although the boss isn't in on a Wednesday, I have told him to at least call to get the ball rolling and get the word around, he better not let me down with this one! lol

I have made him a drink chart to log down exactly what he is spending each week, I think, so long as he is honest, it will give him a big shock. I know when I was drinking, it would rack up into the £100's over the month, and I am not even as bad as him!

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zizii Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,109	Good idea hope it all works out xxxxxxxx

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beccad Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 3,264	Good luck hun. I hope he manages to sort himself out xx

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NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,888	sounds like you've got a good plan that's so sweet about OBEM. If he can see that alcohol changes him and he upsets you, why does he continue? He needs to cut it out completely imo. He can't be looking after a baby if he's drinking!

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Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,590	Glad things are turning around hun. I would make sure he knows you are serious about the drinking though as it only takes once for him to f*ck it all up again. Im really pleased for you and think he sounds like he is making a real effort. x

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mrsbeano Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Leicester Posts: 909	I wouldn't want my little one learning that its okay to treat people that way. You sound as though you have a supportive family and that must be a better environment to have children in. Hopefully he can sort it out, but I'd be very cautious to not fall back into anything until I was sure. You need to be strong so he gets the message - just be strong for the LO

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Jan 11th, 2012, 04:34 AM	#26
Jennifurball Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: UK Posts: 4,199	Thanks everyone. I decided to leave him the letter this morning, I explained it was written whilst I was upset and before I knew about the job but there is a lot of stuff in there that he probably isn't even aware of because it happens when he is drunk! Not sure if he has read it yet though. I keep pestering him to call the company back, although the boss isn't in on a Wednesday, I have told him to at least call to get the ball rolling and get the word around, he better not let me down with this one! lol I have made him a drink chart to log down exactly what he is spending each week, I think, so long as he is honest, it will give him a big shock. I know when I was drinking, it would rack up into the £100's over the month, and I am not even as bad as him!

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