Feel weird about nursing a child of the same sex?

arlosmama · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:09 PM

We just found out we are having a girl and for some reason I am having a hard time getting my head around the fact that I will be nursing another female. I nursed my son for 19 months and never had nervousness about nursing him, but for some reason I am having a bit of a struggle with this. I am hoping that my instincts kick in and it will be a no brainer. I also can't tell if it is because I am nervous about having a girl in general. I am not a girly girl and I hate anything with pink or purple or bows or ruffles...so I can't tell if it is a combination of my nervousness about not knowing what I am doing and how to raise a girl or what.

Has anyone else had this or had a boy first and a girl second? Does it come back naturally?

beth_terri · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:19 PM

It will kick in itl just be those silly hormones. Ive had a boy and im hoping for a girl this time. Ive struggled to come to terms with being pregnant (even though planned) and sortof thought if its a girl itl be ok but if its a boy its gona be awful> i really dont know why I feel like this and im worried about how im gona bond with baby whan its here. But im sure it will be fine when it comes to it.
I suppose breast feeding will be the same wether its a boy or a girl
xx

lisab1986 · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:22 PM

OMG im the same! I dont know what were having yet but everyone is insisting were having a girl...if they are right i would much prefer to bottle feed

I would like to breastfeed and formula feed so oh doesnt miss out so much this time but if it is a girl it will take a little getting used to..im also not in the slightest bit girly so im well in my comfort zone with lads

arlosmama · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:29 PM

THANK YOU LADIES! It is such a relief to know that I am not alone. I feel so guilty about feeling this way and I have such a love affair with my little guy that I just don't know what to do with raising/nursing a girl. I have so many friends who nursed their daughters but most of them had their daughters first. Ugh...I do hope it is hormones...because I am going to feel bad if I don't bond. Although it took me some time to bond with my son at first but we had rough times after he was born...

I understand exactly how you are feeling. Remember you're not alone.

Just curious...are you planning on finding out the sex? After we found out with our girl we were both so spun that I told my hubby I was so glad I have 32 weeks to adjust and get my head around it...lol...a mothers instinct has to kick in...at least it better!

lisab1986 · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:33 PM

We plan on finding out the sex ..i really dont care what were having as long as its healthy but ill be the first to admit i will struggle to get my head round having to do girly things IF we are having a girl.

beth_terri · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:34 PM

At first I wasnt going to find out. But I think I am now so that ill have plenty of time to get my head around it if it is another boy!! I feel bad for feeling this way but I cant do anything about it!
xx

megrenade · Jan 16th, 2012, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by lisab1986

OMG im the same! I dont know what were having yet but everyone is insisting were having a girl...if they are right i would much prefer to bottle feed

I would like to breastfeed and formula feed so oh doesnt miss out so much this time but if it is a girl it will take a little getting used to..im also not in the slightest bit girly so im well in my comfort zone with lads

you could pump a bottle instead? it would keep your milk supply up

(that's what I'm planning to do)

notmommyyet · Jan 16th, 2012, 13:00 PM

My mom had that problem with me. I dont know what she did about it just wanted to tell you your not alone. I actually think my mom bottle fed me

MrsMystery · Jan 16th, 2012, 13:04 PM

Seeing these posts just made me feel better a little. I was told by the sonographer on Friday that she's about 70% sure my LO is a girl. First off, 70% is a strange number so that doesn't help...

But also, I, for some reason, am terrified of raising a girl. I feel so unprepared and like I have no clue how to bring up a girl. As the OP wrote, I am also not a girly girl and I also cannot stand pinks and purples and frilly things and flowers etc...I've seen some really nice girls' clothes out there but the stuff I like is SO fng expensive!!

Anyway, it is nice to see I'm not alone in this...sorry I can't offer any advice though. I'm on my first little one.

lisab1986 · Jan 16th, 2012, 14:18 PM

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Originally Posted by megrenade

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Originally Posted by lisab1986

OMG im the same! I dont know what were having yet but everyone is insisting were having a girl...if they are right i would much prefer to bottle feed

I would like to breastfeed and formula feed so oh doesnt miss out so much this time but if it is a girl it will take a little getting used to..im also not in the slightest bit girly so im well in my comfort zone with lads

you could pump a bottle instead? it would keep your milk supply up

(that's what I'm planning to do)

Thats what i plan to do i think i breastfed with no problems with my youngest so im hoping ill be the same this time..be it from a boyyle or breast.

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Originally Posted by MrsMystery

Seeing these posts just made me feel better a little. I was told by the sonographer on Friday that she's about 70% sure my LO is a girl. First off, 70% is a strange number so that doesn't help...

But also, I, for some reason, am terrified of raising a girl. I feel so unprepared and like I have no clue how to bring up a girl. As the OP wrote, I am also not a girly girl and I also cannot stand pinks and purples and frilly things and flowers etc...I've seen some really nice girls' clothes out there but the stuff I like is SO fng expensive!!

Anyway, it is nice to see I'm not alone in this...sorry I can't offer any advice though. I'm on my first little one.

I know what you mean..my oh has seen a dress that he wants to buy IF were having a girl and its like £25

i honestly think girls are sooooo expensive

Jan 16th, 2012, 12:09 PM	#1
arlosmama Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 691	Feel weird about nursing a child of the same sex? We just found out we are having a girl and for some reason I am having a hard time getting my head around the fact that I will be nursing another female. I nursed my son for 19 months and never had nervousness about nursing him, but for some reason I am having a bit of a struggle with this. I am hoping that my instincts kick in and it will be a no brainer. I also can't tell if it is because I am nervous about having a girl in general. I am not a girly girl and I hate anything with pink or purple or bows or ruffles...so I can't tell if it is a combination of my nervousness about not knowing what I am doing and how to raise a girl or what. Has anyone else had this or had a boy first and a girl second? Does it come back naturally?

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Jan 16th, 2012, 12:19 PM	#2
beth_terri Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Scarborough Posts: 7,083	It will kick in itl just be those silly hormones. Ive had a boy and im hoping for a girl this time. Ive struggled to come to terms with being pregnant (even though planned) and sortof thought if its a girl itl be ok but if its a boy its gona be awful> i really dont know why I feel like this and im worried about how im gona bond with baby whan its here. But im sure it will be fine when it comes to it. I suppose breast feeding will be the same wether its a boy or a girl xx

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Jan 16th, 2012, 12:22 PM	#3
lisab1986 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,095	OMG im the same! I dont know what were having yet but everyone is insisting were having a girl...if they are right i would much prefer to bottle feed I would like to breastfeed and formula feed so oh doesnt miss out so much this time but if it is a girl it will take a little getting used to..im also not in the slightest bit girly so im well in my comfort zone with lads

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Jan 16th, 2012, 12:29 PM	#4
arlosmama Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 691	THANK YOU LADIES! It is such a relief to know that I am not alone. I feel so guilty about feeling this way and I have such a love affair with my little guy that I just don't know what to do with raising/nursing a girl. I have so many friends who nursed their daughters but most of them had their daughters first. Ugh...I do hope it is hormones...because I am going to feel bad if I don't bond. Although it took me some time to bond with my son at first but we had rough times after he was born... I understand exactly how you are feeling. Remember you're not alone. Just curious...are you planning on finding out the sex? After we found out with our girl we were both so spun that I told my hubby I was so glad I have 32 weeks to adjust and get my head around it...lol...a mothers instinct has to kick in...at least it better!

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Jan 16th, 2012, 12:33 PM	#5
lisab1986 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,095	We plan on finding out the sex ..i really dont care what were having as long as its healthy but ill be the first to admit i will struggle to get my head round having to do girly things IF we are having a girl.

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Jan 16th, 2012, 12:34 PM	#6
beth_terri Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Scarborough Posts: 7,083	At first I wasnt going to find out. But I think I am now so that ill have plenty of time to get my head around it if it is another boy!! I feel bad for feeling this way but I cant do anything about it! xx

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Jan 16th, 2012, 13:00 PM	#8
notmommyyet Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,396	My mom had that problem with me. I dont know what she did about it just wanted to tell you your not alone. I actually think my mom bottle fed me

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Jan 16th, 2012, 13:04 PM	#9
MrsMystery Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 551	Seeing these posts just made me feel better a little. I was told by the sonographer on Friday that she's about 70% sure my LO is a girl. First off, 70% is a strange number so that doesn't help... But also, I, for some reason, am terrified of raising a girl. I feel so unprepared and like I have no clue how to bring up a girl. As the OP wrote, I am also not a girly girl and I also cannot stand pinks and purples and frilly things and flowers etc...I've seen some really nice girls' clothes out there but the stuff I like is SO fng expensive!! Anyway, it is nice to see I'm not alone in this...sorry I can't offer any advice though. I'm on my first little one.

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