oopss sorry typing mistakes i was typeing to fast haha

I think it is bloody rude! The emphasis they put on weight is crazy. Of course it's healthier to be your ideal weight but not everyone is and just because you're bigger doesn't mean you're going to have a hard time in child birth and have an obese child. I have a high BMI and I've not had a problem with blood pressure, hearing babies heartbeat or getting a clear scan etc. I think they should try harder on helping women give up cigarettes, alcohol and drugs first. Smoking in front of your newborn/child is a lot more harmful than food, not that I eat unhealthy.. I'm the biggest fruit/veggie person.. ugh.. rant over!!

i agreee!!! so true!!

i know a woman who is not my size of course, she is a few weeks earlier then me in pregnancy and at new years eve, sat in the pub drinking pint after pint and smoking up a storm, and yet excited to be pregnant, i bet no one is giving her a hard time or making her go to all sorts of appointments!

Same, my SIL smoked with both of hers.. I couldn't be around her.. I think it's so selfish to not even try and give up. Her first LO had a bunch of problems when he was born and she still didn't try and quit for her second and she didn't get any grief! I smoked up to 20 a day and gave up straight away cold turkey and won't go back now as I think second hand smoke is just as bad. It's the cooking classes that get to me, my gosh.. do they think just because you're not skinny that you're stupid? NHS should put their money on something more worth while x

fully agreee!!!

i spoke about that too and quite cold turkey and havent since! i read if you spoke about 20 a day that is about 120 a year your unborn baby smokes! disgusting! my MIL told me she smoked though all of her pregnancies! dont know why they so funny about that now she says!
errrrr cause they know now how bad it is!! daught woman haha

yeah cooking lessons is just the top of the cake!

Same with OH's mum and nan, they both smoked and feel there was nothing wrong with their babies blah blah.
We know all the risks now so why would you even risk it? Some people do smoke and manage to have perfectly happy babies but I couldn't live with the guilt and fear with every cigarette knowing that it's cutting off my babies oxygen, ugh!
There was some lady on a programme not long ago saying she smokes more when she's pregnant because she thinks it will make her baby's lungs stronger... err don't think it works that way love!! Maybe they should spend the money on re-educating silly people like that!

I know, when they offerd me the cooking classes I was like, eh?! My BMI isnt even that high! I would understand if i was huge and told them I ate takeaway meals everyday or somthing!! Just makes no sence. I am deffo not going to the cooking lessons, I can cook, i'm just chubby thats all!! Haha.. it is stupid though and like you said it should be money spent else were!! xx

Id be upset by it too!! I'm a large girl and i hate having my weight constantly thrown in my face by medics! after i had ds2 the midwife had a go at my husband and asked him how he had let me get to the size i was! I was so upset and wanted to slap her my husband loves me however i am no matter what my size and plus i eat what i want to eat my husband doesnt force to eat and id also like to point out he is very skinny and he eats more than me some people are just soooo rude!

How bloody rude !! Some people think their profession gives them a right to be rude. You want their PROFESSIONAL opinion. It's a load of rubbish, you look as though you have 2 very healthy sons and a healthy little girl on the way so they can shut up xo

wow reading through all the posts i cannot believe how some of you ladies have been treated!! I Have a BMI of 39 and my midwife has not said a thing apart from asking me to go to group session for the larger ladies and that i would be referred to an anaesthetist at a later date. I was also referred to a obstetrician who i had first meeting with last week and he said nothing apart from having two extra scans to check babys growth?!
I find it unbelievable that they have treated some you ladies so bad making you feel bad for something that is hard to deal with anyway let alone throughout pregnancy!
I didnt go to this group session either and nothing has been mentioned! I think as long as your not putting yourself or baby at risk they need to take a step back and stop stressing mums out about losing weight, i would be so stressed if i had to watch what i eat consistantly all day every day, and in my eyes stresss is much worse than being a larger lady for your baby!
Try not to let them get you down, keep head high and be proud to be a cuddly mummy! i know i will be!