I can't stand moms THAT...

Angelkissiz · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:15 PM

Push their ideas and beliefs on you! Such as breast feeding or cloth diapering, or their beliefs on vaccinations, and believe that all the other woman in the world raise their babies wrong! My advice to those ladies is get a life!!!! I have more thoughts that go through my head a day then which breast is more ripe today, or which cloth diaper is better for the environment! Now don't get me wrong, I do breast feed my babies, however I am not on a soap box about it every five minutes, on why it's better for the baby, I do it's easier I don't talk about it enough said!! There is no difference in bottle feeding and formula as long as the baby is being fed!! As far as the diapering goes, why is it so important one diaper over another the same thing comes out of their bottoms, it's not like sparkles are going to fly out of your child's but if you use a cloth diaper!! Now sorry for the rant let us all raise our babies the way we want to, and you raise yours the way want!!

Sunshine12 · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:17 PM

Thankfully none of my friends, old work colleagues or people I hang around with are like this as it would irritate me too. x

Edit: I do have to say that I personally would want to make informed choices about nappies and feeding etc.

Elucida · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:19 PM

People have things they're passionate about, why not talk about it? I agree that there's no need to make other mums feel bad for their choices but everyone is entitled to an opinion.

My thoughts are that, you're either comfortable with your choices or you're not. If you are then it shouldn't bother you, if you aren't then maybe there's something to think about there. Nothing wrong with learning something and making changes either, nobody is the perfect mum so it's good to share information - though that's different to being rude, of course.

NuKe · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:19 PM

I do all those things and if someone asks, I will certainly answer any questions! I do think cloth nappies are great and yes I do think everyone should use them but I don't push my beliefs on others. But the sad fact is, the vast majority of mums don't realise there is an alternative to chemical nappies/spoon-feeding mush, and in my experience (especially regarding baby-led weaning) our way of doing things is met with great intrigue! I don't apologise for being passionate about these things but certianly never tell someone else their way was wrong. Why does it bother you so much?

Sunshine12 · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:25 PM

I thought the OP meant that people were harping on about things to her that she hadnt even asked for advice on rather than just saying that they knew about X,Y and Z if she needed to know any more about it. I wouldnt be against people giving me advice but you dont want people preaching to you when you havent even asked them a question.x

NuKe · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:27 PM

i suppose that's the same with anything though, politics, religion... nobody wants views forced on them, for sure!

Aidan's Mummy · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:28 PM

I don't like it when views/opinons are pushed on others when not asked but if someone asks for opinions then of course women will share them. Some questions will envoke passionate responses x

Dk1234 · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:31 PM

I agree. You know what else I hate? When my MIL thinks my baby will be a clone of my husband. She wanted me to return a newborn outfit I got because DH never fit in newborn. Or told me that baby doesn't need a schedule because DH never had one. This isn't baby and will only be half my husband!!!!!

Elucida · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Sunshine12

I thought the OP meant that people were harping on about things to her that she hadnt even asked for advice on rather than just saying that they knew about X,Y and Z if she needed to know any more about it. I wouldnt be against people giving me advice but you dont want people preaching to you when you havent even asked them a question.x

Maybe, but I guess as "one of those mums" I have trouble identifying many women who are really like that. I could never look at a friend FFing her newborn and start lecturing her, no matter how I felt about it and, online, my opinion is that if you're talking about your parenting methods then it's open for discussion or I'm not sure why else you'd mention them.

I think people forget that a lot of these types of mother suffer a lot more with people's views being forced on them because they're in the vast, vast minority and people think they're weird becaue it's "different". So, I'm sure we can all relate to each other really.

baby_mama87 · Feb 5th, 2012, 15:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Dk1234

I agree. You know what else I hate? When my MIL thinks my baby will be a clone of my husband. She wanted me to return a newborn outfit I got because DH never fit in newborn. Or told me that baby doesn't need a schedule because DH never had one. This isn't baby and will only be half my husband!!!!!

Now that would bug the hell out of me! I have the opposite problem with my family and some work friends about my choice to breastfeed, all I've had is well you probably won't be able to I couldn't my milk dried up in a day or bottle feedings much easier your baby will cry more etc etc! Grrr leave me alone my baby my choice!

Feb 5th, 2012, 15:15 PM	#1
Angelkissiz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Colorado Posts: 406	I can't stand moms THAT... Push their ideas and beliefs on you! Such as breast feeding or cloth diapering, or their beliefs on vaccinations, and believe that all the other woman in the world raise their babies wrong! My advice to those ladies is get a life!!!! I have more thoughts that go through my head a day then which breast is more ripe today, or which cloth diaper is better for the environment! Now don't get me wrong, I do breast feed my babies, however I am not on a soap box about it every five minutes, on why it's better for the baby, I do it's easier I don't talk about it enough said!! There is no difference in bottle feeding and formula as long as the baby is being fed!! As far as the diapering goes, why is it so important one diaper over another the same thing comes out of their bottoms, it's not like sparkles are going to fly out of your child's but if you use a cloth diaper!! Now sorry for the rant let us all raise our babies the way we want to, and you raise yours the way want!!

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Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,590	Thankfully none of my friends, old work colleagues or people I hang around with are like this as it would irritate me too. x Edit: I do have to say that I personally would want to make informed choices about nappies and feeding etc.

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:19 PM	#3
Elucida Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 416	People have things they're passionate about, why not talk about it? I agree that there's no need to make other mums feel bad for their choices but everyone is entitled to an opinion. My thoughts are that, you're either comfortable with your choices or you're not. If you are then it shouldn't bother you, if you aren't then maybe there's something to think about there. Nothing wrong with learning something and making changes either, nobody is the perfect mum so it's good to share information - though that's different to being rude, of course.

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:19 PM	#4
NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,888	I do all those things and if someone asks, I will certainly answer any questions! I do think cloth nappies are great and yes I do think everyone should use them but I don't push my beliefs on others. But the sad fact is, the vast majority of mums don't realise there is an alternative to chemical nappies/spoon-feeding mush, and in my experience (especially regarding baby-led weaning) our way of doing things is met with great intrigue! I don't apologise for being passionate about these things but certianly never tell someone else their way was wrong. Why does it bother you so much?

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:25 PM	#5
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,590	I thought the OP meant that people were harping on about things to her that she hadnt even asked for advice on rather than just saying that they knew about X,Y and Z if she needed to know any more about it. I wouldnt be against people giving me advice but you dont want people preaching to you when you havent even asked them a question.x

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:27 PM	#6
NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,888	i suppose that's the same with anything though, politics, religion... nobody wants views forced on them, for sure!

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:28 PM	#7
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 12,260	I don't like it when views/opinons are pushed on others when not asked but if someone asks for opinions then of course women will share them. Some questions will envoke passionate responses x

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Feb 5th, 2012, 15:31 PM	#8
Dk1234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 5,008	I agree. You know what else I hate? When my MIL thinks my baby will be a clone of my husband. She wanted me to return a newborn outfit I got because DH never fit in newborn. Or told me that baby doesn't need a schedule because DH never had one. This isn't baby and will only be half my husband!!!!!

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