BAD day - week.... anxiety issues

maria86 · Feb 27th, 2012, 10:55 AM

So... it's my turn to have a bad day, or week to be exact.
I have been struggling with pessimism and anxiety for almost all my life, but I have been really anxious about everything that possible could go wrong with my little one....

I am terrified about possible DS (I have this fear that my 1:1200 chance is horrible...) and I am also scared of autism (having worked with autisitc children, I am scared of the possibility).... I am also scared of SIDS etc...
At this moment, DS scared me the most.....

I don't know what to do at this time. This fear is overwhelming... my next ob/gyn appointment is in 2 weeks and I hope to talk to him then about my anxiety, but before then I am a wreck...

I just don't know what to do.... All I hear are negative stories and I wish I had more positive things to hear

Sorry for the rant.... most of my family/friends tell me that everything will be ok and to stop worrying, but it seems like nobody gets my fear...

Ayates · Feb 27th, 2012, 11:03 AM

i understand completely where your coming from im a high risk mummy due to severe pnd and anxiety issues with my ds and i am completely petrified this time round so have contacted mental health they have people who work with mums and bubbas with anxiety isses ect maybe you could contact your loacal mental health team and put urself at ease by just talking these issues and anxieties through hun

socitycourty · Feb 27th, 2012, 11:12 AM

I have had the exact same thing, although I have always worried a lot in general, pregnancy has made me a nervous wreck.

I have worried consistently the whole time, I had a high marker on my 2nd trimester blood tests and now i'm even more worried that something is wrong with my baby or they won't make it or whatever, I have awful thoughts all the time.

I plan to talk to my OB about it at my next appt also, I feel like the anxiety is starting to interfere with my life. Next time you go make sure they listen to you and give you the time you need to tell about these issues you're having....

MrsMystery · Feb 27th, 2012, 11:13 AM

I understand your fears...and you're 100% entitled to them. I don't have the same level of anxiety or fears as you do, but given that I can barely handle my own issues, I can only imagine what you're going through.

Your friends and family can't put themselves in the same position, even those who have been pregnant before. Simply because they've already gone through it and found out everything was a-ok and they "worried for nothing".

My worst fear now is a still-birth or missing the instinct needed to know when something is wrong. My LO wasn't nearly as active over the weekend and I was writhing inside with worry but I couldn't figure out what to say and to whom. Today, she's back to normal thankfully but I still went insane with worry.

If you ever need to talk, post or even PM me...I may not be able to offer advice but I can at least empathize with you.

Keep your head up.

sweety2513 · Feb 27th, 2012, 12:45 PM

I know exactly what you are going through. I was on paxil up until I found out I was pregnant and now I feel like I am left alone to drown in my own worries. I thought that I would feel better once I got in the 2nd trimester, but my fears just replaced themselves. Now instead of miscarriage I worry about pre-term labor etc. Then I tell myself once I hit v-day I will feel better, but I know me, and I know thats not true. I try to write down my fears and then write down all the facts that do not support my thought. It helps sometimes, but others I am too far gone. My Doctor said if it got too bad they could put me on something, but thats a worry all of its own. I wish I could offer you a quick fix but unfortunately I think we are just stuck. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk.

annanouska · Feb 27th, 2012, 13:04 PM

thank you so much for writing this post, i feel better knowing it isnt just me! seriously i am exactly the same. sometimes i just breakdown crying over it all. current fears 1.DS and other developmental problems. 2. dwarfism (no idea why) 3. incompetent cervix. 4. pre term labour and 5. stillbirth.

I sometimes do ok and then somebody posts about a stillbirth or loss and it send me over the edge and im convinced it will happen.

somethings which have helped a little was a view of a lady who lost her girl at 18 weeks and she said that she was taken from her to preotect her form the suffering of this world. it doesnt stop me worrying but makes me feel better about some of the bad things.

i also worry about every ache and pain. currently im worrying as movement has slowed a bit........ xxxxx

maria86 · Feb 27th, 2012, 15:43 PM

oh my God! I didn't expect so many wonderful replies! Thank you ladies!

Now I feel that I am not alone! Although, it doesn't ease my worries at all

I have recently come to the conclusion, that all the possible stats that we are given only make matters so much worse

For example, the 1:1200 risk of DS or the SCARY 1:100 chance of autism (especially in boys). I mean if I was told that the risk is simply LOW, I think I would have worried less. Now all I do is compare my numbers with others and think about that 1!

Ugh!!!

And don't get me started on stillbirth

It's just that I always thought that pregnancy would be this marvelous time of bliss and serenity and what I am instead faced with are worries like I have never felt them before....

ColoradoBaby1 · Feb 27th, 2012, 15:54 PM

It's nice to hear your honesty. I am feeling the exact same way. Couldn't sleep last night bc I was thinking about SIDS and DS and everything in between. I am sorry you're also worrying so much, but know that you're not alone.

Feb 27th, 2012, 10:55 AM	#1
maria86 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 667	BAD day - week.... anxiety issues So... it's my turn to have a bad day, or week to be exact. I have been struggling with pessimism and anxiety for almost all my life, but I have been really anxious about everything that possible could go wrong with my little one.... I am terrified about possible DS (I have this fear that my 1:1200 chance is horrible...) and I am also scared of autism (having worked with autisitc children, I am scared of the possibility).... I am also scared of SIDS etc... At this moment, DS scared me the most..... I don't know what to do at this time. This fear is overwhelming... my next ob/gyn appointment is in 2 weeks and I hope to talk to him then about my anxiety, but before then I am a wreck... I just don't know what to do.... All I hear are negative stories and I wish I had more positive things to hear Sorry for the rant.... most of my family/friends tell me that everything will be ok and to stop worrying, but it seems like nobody gets my fear...

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Feb 27th, 2012, 11:03 AM	#2
Ayates Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 388	i understand completely where your coming from im a high risk mummy due to severe pnd and anxiety issues with my ds and i am completely petrified this time round so have contacted mental health they have people who work with mums and bubbas with anxiety isses ect maybe you could contact your loacal mental health team and put urself at ease by just talking these issues and anxieties through hun

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Feb 27th, 2012, 11:12 AM	#3
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	I have had the exact same thing, although I have always worried a lot in general, pregnancy has made me a nervous wreck. I have worried consistently the whole time, I had a high marker on my 2nd trimester blood tests and now i'm even more worried that something is wrong with my baby or they won't make it or whatever, I have awful thoughts all the time. I plan to talk to my OB about it at my next appt also, I feel like the anxiety is starting to interfere with my life. Next time you go make sure they listen to you and give you the time you need to tell about these issues you're having....

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Feb 27th, 2012, 11:13 AM	#4
MrsMystery Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 551	I understand your fears...and you're 100% entitled to them. I don't have the same level of anxiety or fears as you do, but given that I can barely handle my own issues, I can only imagine what you're going through. Your friends and family can't put themselves in the same position, even those who have been pregnant before. Simply because they've already gone through it and found out everything was a-ok and they "worried for nothing". My worst fear now is a still-birth or missing the instinct needed to know when something is wrong. My LO wasn't nearly as active over the weekend and I was writhing inside with worry but I couldn't figure out what to say and to whom. Today, she's back to normal thankfully but I still went insane with worry. If you ever need to talk, post or even PM me...I may not be able to offer advice but I can at least empathize with you. Keep your head up.

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Feb 27th, 2012, 12:45 PM	#5
sweety2513 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: California Posts: 153	I know exactly what you are going through. I was on paxil up until I found out I was pregnant and now I feel like I am left alone to drown in my own worries. I thought that I would feel better once I got in the 2nd trimester, but my fears just replaced themselves. Now instead of miscarriage I worry about pre-term labor etc. Then I tell myself once I hit v-day I will feel better, but I know me, and I know thats not true. I try to write down my fears and then write down all the facts that do not support my thought. It helps sometimes, but others I am too far gone. My Doctor said if it got too bad they could put me on something, but thats a worry all of its own. I wish I could offer you a quick fix but unfortunately I think we are just stuck. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk.

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Feb 27th, 2012, 13:04 PM	#6
annanouska Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: lancashire,uk Posts: 1,674	thank you so much for writing this post, i feel better knowing it isnt just me! seriously i am exactly the same. sometimes i just breakdown crying over it all. current fears 1.DS and other developmental problems. 2. dwarfism (no idea why) 3. incompetent cervix. 4. pre term labour and 5. stillbirth. I sometimes do ok and then somebody posts about a stillbirth or loss and it send me over the edge and im convinced it will happen. somethings which have helped a little was a view of a lady who lost her girl at 18 weeks and she said that she was taken from her to preotect her form the suffering of this world. it doesnt stop me worrying but makes me feel better about some of the bad things. i also worry about every ache and pain. currently im worrying as movement has slowed a bit........ xxxxx

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Feb 27th, 2012, 15:43 PM	#7
maria86 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 667	oh my God! I didn't expect so many wonderful replies! Thank you ladies! Now I feel that I am not alone! Although, it doesn't ease my worries at all I have recently come to the conclusion, that all the possible stats that we are given only make matters so much worse For example, the 1:1200 risk of DS or the SCARY 1:100 chance of autism (especially in boys). I mean if I was told that the risk is simply LOW, I think I would have worried less. Now all I do is compare my numbers with others and think about that 1! Ugh!!! And don't get me started on stillbirth It's just that I always thought that pregnancy would be this marvelous time of bliss and serenity and what I am instead faced with are worries like I have never felt them before....

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Feb 27th, 2012, 15:54 PM	#8
ColoradoBaby1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 107	It's nice to hear your honesty. I am feeling the exact same way. Couldn't sleep last night bc I was thinking about SIDS and DS and everything in between. I am sorry you're also worrying so much, but know that you're not alone.

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