Lilpeeps unfortunately what you and my sister say is correct. Its what I've been reading online and I can pass it to my baby without an outbreak. It took me 11 months to get pregnant and the last thing I want to do is kill my baby with a kiss. Its going to be hard. I'm just devasted hearing this news.
It's highly unlikely to pass it to your baby when you dont have an active cold sore, if that was the case you would always be worrying and that's silly, my daughter didn't catch the cold sore virus as a baby but when she was two years old and no one we know has cold sores and she didnt go to nursery or a child minder so she picked it up from some other way than kissing! All you can do is not kiss your baby when the cold sore is there and just not worry!
Sapphire that's exactly what I mean. You can pass it to someone even if you don't get outbreaks. Because how else did your little one get it? That's how its passed around. From people who don't know they have it because they don't get outbreaks.
You ladies are so kind. Lilpeeps thank you for being so sympathetic I really needed it I'm such a mess right now. I wonder if I can wear those pads that cover them when I get one after LO is here. Funny that you said her because I think I'm having a her too.
Don't kiss them when you actually have a cold sore, no, but if you don't have one then it's fine.
I've never heard of not being able to kiss a baby ever. Do you have a link to this information? A well-researched one, not just frightened people? I read about a death in the papers where the mother kissed the baby with the remnants of what she thought was an old cold sore - it wasn't. I've never passed the virus to my husband in over ten years, nor my son. It isn't passed if your lips are fine and you don't currently have an outbreak.
I wouldn't do it. if you have active cold sore, he could get it too. even if he have been exposed. doctors would recommend you not to touch your eyes and such after touching your cold sores nor pick at it because it can spread. same with kissing your child. some children can't tolerate cold sores very well.
I agree with others don't kiss your baby when you have an active outbreak.
Not sure of the truth etc in it but I know lots of people who never kiss a baby on the lips. Not sure of the real reason but they've often said it can spread germs etc to the baby. I too have only ever kissed babies on the cheek or forehead.
Also rather than listen to your sister why don't you seek medical advice on this and get the true facts. Also I would avoid google as you'll always get horror stories but they may just be that and not have the real truth and facts behind them
Just to let you know, because you have been exposed to cold sores or HSV-1 before pregnancy and developed antibodies for it , it actually a good thing because the antibodies passed to your child give your child a better chance to fight it off if he was ever exposed to the virus (at least for 6 months, I think?) . Beside a lot of people have been exposed to HSV-1 and their child turn out fine.
Still, if you have active sores, I would avoid sharing and kissing. if your sores is inactive, it should be fine but I would still avoid kissing on the mouth or eyes or sharing utensils (sp?) or food. as you never know you are about to have an outbreak (first sign of tingling) . Plus, other bacteria (especially those that can speed up teeth decay and gum diseases) and viruses you could share
I am not trying to scare you, but I would consult your doctor. My cousins little baby was only 3 weeks old when someone with a coldsore kissed her. She ended up in intensive care for 6 weeks, very very ill with swelling in her brain due to the virus. I don't have cold sores so I don't know enough about it, but I do know that my little niece was incredibly ill. What others have said about 'active' coldsores may be true. Your doctor/midwife should be able to advise more about when you don't have an active cold sore. I really wish more people were aware of effects of the cold sore virus.
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