DH is tired of feeling baby kick...

krysti · Feb 28th, 2012, 09:57 AM

Whenever we're in bed together or watching TV together I want DH to put his hand on my stomach when baby is kicking. Today I asked him if he was still excited about it and he said not really because they are so light he can barely feel them. Sheesh, is he going to get tired of holding her after she arrives? I never get tired of the little reminders that she is growing stronger every day. Men....

vintagecat · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:02 AM

I think it just depends on the guy. I think it's sad when the novelty of an aspect of the pregnancy wears off for them. I really hope this doesn't happen with my husband. I would feel disappointed by the lack of interest too.

I've heard a saying that states that a woman becomes a mother when she learns she is pregnant, and a man becomes a father when his child is born. It can be a very separate experience for men and women.

EMC0528 · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:09 AM

My husband isn't SUPER excited about the kicks either. He feels them and smiles but he says it isn't real for him yet. The first time I was pregnant he was the same. Excited, happy, but until the baby actually was in his arms it wasn't real to him. He is the best husband and father anyone could ask for, I think it's just different for them.

I love feeling her move and talk about it all the time, it's VERY real for me because I'm going through it all. When the baby comes, I bet your DH will seem a lot more interested

krysti · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by vintagecat

I think it just depends on the guy. I think it's sad when the novelty of an aspect of the pregnancy wears off for them. I really hope this doesn't happen with my husband. I would feel disappointed by the lack of interest too.

I've heard a saying that states that a woman becomes a mother when she learns she is pregnant, and a man becomes a father when his child is born. It can be a very separate experience for men and women.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm not TOO upset by it, but yeah, it is more fun when he's excited too. Maybe he has the same disappointment when I'm not as thrilled as he is about his latest truck upgrade. Men and women are different. He said he likes feeling kicks, just not all day every day. To me she's special all day every day! (And I am too!)

krysti · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by EMC0528

My husband isn't SUPER excited about the kicks either. He feels them and smiles but he says it isn't real for him yet. The first time I was pregnant he was the same. Excited, happy, but until the baby actually was in his arms it wasn't real to him. He is the best husband and father anyone could ask for, I think it's just different for them.

I love feeling her move and talk about it all the time, it's VERY real for me because I'm going through it all. When the baby comes, I bet your DH will seem a lot more interested

That's reassuring that your dh got more into the excitement of things once your baby arrived. We have a ton of nieces and nephews, so I know he's great with kids and loves being around them.

RedRose19 · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:16 AM

maybe tell your oh how its upsetting you

id be upset too if my oh didnt find the pregnancy stuff exciting still.

MegnJoe · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:17 AM

this made me smile. Not because you are sad but because its similar to my DH. I know he is super excited to be a dad. On valentines day he felt the first real strong kick, and his face was priceless. He was amazed! But now when laying in bed I tell him she is awake and kicking and he just puts his hand there and I can tell there's no real interest because he can barely feel it and sometimes has to wait too long. I bet if we start this up again around 32 weeks they will be all about it because they will receive good kicks all the time!

I think men are like bestfriends when it comes to pregnancy. Excited for a baby to be coming, but unsure of their role still, and how a baby will change things.they know they will love the baby but just can't imagine it all yet. I assure u he won't get tired of holding her. Its just right now u he can't hold her lol so it might be some anxiousness to want baby here too that makes him slightly put off. I saw give it some more weeks into 3rd tri and he will fall in love with it all over

MegnJoe · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:18 AM

this made me smile. Not because you are sad but because its similar to my DH. I know he is super excited to be a dad. On valentines day he felt the first real strong kick, and his face was priceless. He was amazed! But now when laying in bed I tell him she is awake and kicking and he just puts his hand there and I can tell there's no real interest because he can barely feel it and sometimes has to wait too long. I bet if we start this up again around 32 weeks they will be all about it because they will receive good kicks all the time!

I think men are like bestfriends when it comes to pregnancy. Excited for a baby to be coming, but unsure of their role still, they know they will love the baby but just can't imagine it all yet. I assure u he won't get tired of holding her. Its just right now u he can't hold her lol so it might be some anxiousness to want baby here too that makes him slightly put off. I saw give it some more weeks into 3rd tri and he will fall in love with it all over

MegnJoe · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:27 AM

Ooos i double posted :/

AC1987 · Feb 28th, 2012, 10:31 AM

I think my DH would be freaked out if I asked him to feel the baby kick when it starts to. He isn't into pregnancy at all. Just crossing my fingers that he'll be interested in the baby when its born

Feb 28th, 2012, 09:57 AM	#1
krysti Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Utah Posts: 181	DH is tired of feeling baby kick... Whenever we're in bed together or watching TV together I want DH to put his hand on my stomach when baby is kicking. Today I asked him if he was still excited about it and he said not really because they are so light he can barely feel them. Sheesh, is he going to get tired of holding her after she arrives? I never get tired of the little reminders that she is growing stronger every day. Men....

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Feb 28th, 2012, 10:02 AM	#2
vintagecat Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Japan (from U.S.) Posts: 2,064	I think it just depends on the guy. I think it's sad when the novelty of an aspect of the pregnancy wears off for them. I really hope this doesn't happen with my husband. I would feel disappointed by the lack of interest too. I've heard a saying that states that a woman becomes a mother when she learns she is pregnant, and a man becomes a father when his child is born. It can be a very separate experience for men and women.

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EMC0528 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Calgary, Alberta Posts: 753	My husband isn't SUPER excited about the kicks either. He feels them and smiles but he says it isn't real for him yet. The first time I was pregnant he was the same. Excited, happy, but until the baby actually was in his arms it wasn't real to him. He is the best husband and father anyone could ask for, I think it's just different for them. I love feeling her move and talk about it all the time, it's VERY real for me because I'm going through it all. When the baby comes, I bet your DH will seem a lot more interested

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RedRose19 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 10,610	maybe tell your oh how its upsetting you id be upset too if my oh didnt find the pregnancy stuff exciting still.

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Feb 28th, 2012, 10:17 AM	#7
MegnJoe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,092	this made me smile. Not because you are sad but because its similar to my DH. I know he is super excited to be a dad. On valentines day he felt the first real strong kick, and his face was priceless. He was amazed! But now when laying in bed I tell him she is awake and kicking and he just puts his hand there and I can tell there's no real interest because he can barely feel it and sometimes has to wait too long. I bet if we start this up again around 32 weeks they will be all about it because they will receive good kicks all the time! I think men are like bestfriends when it comes to pregnancy. Excited for a baby to be coming, but unsure of their role still, and how a baby will change things.they know they will love the baby but just can't imagine it all yet. I assure u he won't get tired of holding her. Its just right now u he can't hold her lol so it might be some anxiousness to want baby here too that makes him slightly put off. I saw give it some more weeks into 3rd tri and he will fall in love with it all over

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Feb 28th, 2012, 10:18 AM	#8
MegnJoe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,092	this made me smile. Not because you are sad but because its similar to my DH. I know he is super excited to be a dad. On valentines day he felt the first real strong kick, and his face was priceless. He was amazed! But now when laying in bed I tell him she is awake and kicking and he just puts his hand there and I can tell there's no real interest because he can barely feel it and sometimes has to wait too long. I bet if we start this up again around 32 weeks they will be all about it because they will receive good kicks all the time! I think men are like bestfriends when it comes to pregnancy. Excited for a baby to be coming, but unsure of their role still, they know they will love the baby but just can't imagine it all yet. I assure u he won't get tired of holding her. Its just right now u he can't hold her lol so it might be some anxiousness to want baby here too that makes him slightly put off. I saw give it some more weeks into 3rd tri and he will fall in love with it all over

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Feb 28th, 2012, 10:27 AM	#9
MegnJoe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,092	Ooos i double posted :/

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Feb 28th, 2012, 10:31 AM	#10
AC1987 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: USA Posts: 5,344	I think my DH would be freaked out if I asked him to feel the baby kick when it starts to. He isn't into pregnancy at all. Just crossing my fingers that he'll be interested in the baby when its born

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