Hi everyone, im feeling so blue I cry everyday,i hate feeling like this,my hub and I argue everyday he says the most hurtfull things im so upset about it,im now even questioning our marrage, I love him so much but just fl so alone, I get the feeling he hates me, I said last night that I cant wait to read our baby a story just to let he or she hear my voice when they go to sleep,then he said im gonna b to clingy and our baby is gonna grow up been a right mummys boy or girl, just dont know what to do,its really getting to us.x x

That really sucks, I am so sorry. I am not great with advice but I feel bedly that you are so upset. Perhaps couples counciling might help to find out what the underlying issue is? I dunno, I wish i could help.

It could be that hormones are majorly kicking in which is why I would say even though you are rethinking your marriage, don't do anything rash at this point. I would seriously sit down and talk to him, it might not be a nice chat but then its all out there on the table for both of you to see. Maybe he doesn't know what he says hurts you or it could be that, like when most people argue and begin to lose the argument they say things which they know are a low blow... but it needs to be talked about.

You are not alone at all, there are loads of people all across b&b which are here for you.

Agreed with other girls about talking things out with your hubbs and just having an honest discussion about what's hurting you, and maybe about what worries him.

My hubby and I are going through a rough patch too now, and I know it's part my hormones and part him not feeling ready to change his lifestyle/routine and just feeling nervous over becoming a dad what makes us butt heads. But talking things out really helps - he's not much for talking things out but I make him because we both feel good about it later.

I hope you guys will be able to work things out

First off, I'll be praying for the two of you because I know this has to be really rough on you. Just remember, to breathe and try to stay calm during this time b/c you don't want to pass any stress on to the LO. Also, I agree with the other ladies that talking it out (although painful) will be the best thing to do. You got married because you love him and the same goes for him. There will always be hard times in marriages and the only way for it to work out is for both of you to make it work. It takes putting in the time and energy to get through the fights and disagreements to get back to a good place. It's best to deal with it now before the LO is caught in the middle. I think that questioning the marriage is natural, but something that you should fight the thought of instead of entertaining it.

My husband and I actually did some counseling and a few of their ideas include: cool down periods once one or both of us get heated...like a 20 oe 30 minute break in the middle of a heated argument. Also, to write down what we want to talk about on a piece of paper before we start the convo so that we remember to keep on topic instead of blowing up and talking about all kinds of unrelated disagreements all at once. Another thing that really is been the one we hang onto is the "drive though argument". He makes his point while I am forced to sit quietly and not interrupt him. Then when he's done, I have to repeat what I got out of what he said to show him that I fully understood his point. Then roles switch and he's forced to sit and hear my point and again repeat what I said. There's also a lot of using the formula, "When you say _____, I feel _____" That works well for us too. I know it's hard to convey what happens in therapy, but maybe it can give you a starting point, and I hope that things get better soon. Good Luck!

Why is he being so mean to you? Was he like this to you before you got pregnant?x